Topic: gave deadline for car situation? am i right??
randibear
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how much does lyme effect your personal decisions? i need some opinions...
you know he wants to sell my honda to his sister for 7500 when it's worth at least 11.
so she called and said the husband is really being bad, and hasn't contacted a realtor and won't give her the truck and on and on.
well i lost it, and told him look i know she wants it, but right now we can use the money. we're paying 350 a month for car insurance and the new car payment is 400 a month, plus the car is sitting in a hanger, not getting used. \ i told him if she has not settled all this by DECEMBER, then i'm taking the car to carmax and selling it.
well he got all po'd and said he had promised and he was not going to break his promise. i said i understood but we can't hold it forver for her.
it's not my problem about her divorce but she needs to get some balls and do something.
this has been going on for over a year now.
he's really mad but he said he understood.
am i being unreasonable about this?
personally i think SHE'S the one who is being unreasonable. asking us to hold a car until she gets off her dang butt and deals with this.
i'm just sick and tired of people wanting others to do things for them. she actually wanted mike to come up and help her sell her trucks (which she is NOT getting now) and go to carmax and handle all of this...BULL _____.
sorry, but i am so po'd after that conversation last night.
this pity party, oh poor me, routine is wearing thin on me. i've had to fight for every damn thing i've gotten, from jobs to retirement, to you name it, including lyme.
so get off the damn pot lady and cowboy up...i ain't your damn bank and i'm not holding my car while it sits and rusts while you can't do a damn thing... and ....
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kidsgotlyme
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sounds like a sticky situation to me. It would make sense to go ahead and sell the car in my opinion, BUT, it's his sister, and family affairs can be troublesome.
I would just let him know very calmly what it's costing you and him to hold the car for her. Then let him decide. If he still doesn't want to go ahead and sell the car, I would let him know that it was going to be HIS problem to come up with the insurance money every month.
Let the problem become his problem and not yours!! Then just sit back and smile
-------------------- symptoms since 1993 that I can remember. 9/2018 diagnosed with Borellia, Babesia Duncani, and Bartonella Hensalae thru DNA Connections. Posts: 1470 | From Tennessee | Registered: Dec 2009
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maybe you could put the car on craigslist at blue book. if you get a bid for it around 11k go ahead and sell it. then tell her when she is ready you will put $3500, the difference in the price you were giving her and the price you sold the car for, to her to get another car.
its just a car. who cares if it stays in the family or its this car or that car. if she needs some help go about your life an lend what you can when she is ready for it.
i hope i understood the situation correctly.
good luck.
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I don't think your position is unreasonable. If his sister wants the car held for her, then it should be cash neutral for you until whatever deadline date is set for the deal to be completed or abandoned. You are already being very generous by agreeing to sell the car for less than its value. Asking you to do even more by paying insurance and any registration fees that come up doesn't seem reasonable to me.
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I dont think youre being unreasonable either. Im all for helping family but there is a line. Dealing with this for over a year would be over that line. Shes not considering the fact that youre laying out this cash in payments and insurance. This really sounds like stress you dont need.
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