I'd stay out of the line of fire. I just have in home health care for 2 hours a day.
I do better not having the people here, but know I need them here because I can't take care of things myself.
I find if they will just do their job and leave me alone I do better.
Most of them don't understand this and want to talk, ask questions, clarify things.
Maybe keep your contact with your daughter to a minimum and keep it simple.
And stay out of the line of fire!
I have a log book that I am starting with the person who is working with me right now.
I hope to communicate with her through it. I also have told her that I will either not answer or tell her I need time out.
It takes all I have to be doing whatever it is I am doing at the time. I am surprised at how quickly I become impatient and want to throw something at her.
I don't...because I know this is not how I usually am with people.
But, I was having such a rough time of it yesterday, I just told her to go home and come back in 2 days.
I wasn't feeling well enough to deal with her.
I find it helps if the person is an independent worker and doesn't need interreaction from me.
It is hard to explain. Movement, light, sound, ....can all be too much.
Just having someone doing something in the other room is too much some days.
So many things are going on with the body that it is difficult at the time to figure out what is going on. I have just learned I need to stay quiet and just keep breathing.
It makes matters worse when they do not respect this.
Having the computer to take my mind off of things helps. I don't have the noise of the TV and it is quiet.
Other times watching TV will take my mind off of it.
I don't know what your daughter is dealing with, but I can try to share what I have learned and experienced.
I also can not go out in my power chair on certain days or need to take the side streets because the noise and movement on the main street is too much.
At times, it is all I can do to deal with what is going on in my body without having someone else ask things off me or try to help.
For example: I sent the in home health care person to the store the other morning to pick up a few items when had missed the day before. I had a list. She still complicated matters. If I was well. The questions and comments would have not been a problem.
She needed to just take the list and go to the store without the questions and comments.
When she returned, I told her I was not doing well and that I would see her Thursday.
She had trouble switching gears and started with the questions and comments again. She just needed to say I am sorry you are not doing well and I'll see you on Thursday.
Keep it simple. Everyone deals with this differently.
I would just stay out of the line of fire. I wouldn't be around for those 20 minutes of abuse.