My son was born 3 weeks early because an engorged tick located above my navel left a bull's-eye rash on my pregnant belly. He received 4 days IV ampicillin and 3 weeks oral amoxicillin.
At 10 months he tested positive for Lyme by urine PCR and was placed on 2.5 years of antibiotics.
He seemed fine and I was hopeful we'd conquered the beast. He was the sweetest child and so, so funny. He still is - except for his jealousy, getting into others' space, kicking, punching, and now - choking other students in his class. The principal just called and told me to take him home and I told her I couldn't because I'm bedridden.
Is he acting out because I'm very sick right now, or do you all think the Lyme is returning? I know he is afraid I will die because he told a counselor this. My son is 8.
Please, I need advice. I'm at the end of my rope. Thank you.
Posted by robbiem (Member # 32092) on :
Sorry to hear that, that's awful.
Given your circumstances (bedridden), I would strongly suggest flower remedies -- they are very subtle, but excellent in breaking through barriers, fears, anger, etc.
There are no contraindications in taking them as they are vibrational and not an herbal tincture.
I have had amazing results over the years as has my daughter in taking them.
I would suggest that you read up on them via the internet.
Outstanding brands are FES -or- Bach Flower Remedies,
I know alot of people aren't necessarily open to using them, which is really a shame as they are nothing short of miraculous in their ability to do a multitude of things in helping people either over the hump emotionally as well as helping with physical issues as well.
Please feel free to PM me if I can answer any questions.
Posted by Dogsandcats (Member # 28544) on :
I am sorry. I don't have a lot of "medical" advice, but I can't imagine how hard this is on all of you.
Is he still seeing the counselor? My kids are older and they asked if I was going to die. Maybe reassuring him that you are really sick, but dying isn't likely or something like that.
Can he sit on the bed with you and read to you? Can you watch tv together? Sometimes it helped my kids when they were little just to be next to me.
I will be praying for you.
Posted by merrygirl (Member # 12041) on :
Does he have bartonella? Any strep throat?
Posted by kidsgotlyme (Member # 23691) on :
sounds very much like bart
Posted by lymeladyinNY (Member # 10235) on :
Thank you all for the advice. I was just reading about "Shadow Children". They are kids who are afraid for a sick parent or sibling and act out aggressively sometimes. I've gotten much, much sicker this past month. It's been all about me, me, me lately.
I think he may be feeling fear, anxiety, abandonment, as well as the typical stuff that goes on in school. Sadly, I don't think my son is well-liked by his peers. He says that several of his classmates have called him names like weirdo, stupid, ugly, and my least favorite - retard.
I'm going to play board games with him tomorrow while we're alone on his suspended day. I just want to talk and laugh with him and see what comes out. I admit the whole family focuses on either me or my oldest son's severe disabilities. Probably my youngest feels lost in the shuffle. My middle son doesn't give me any trouble and perhaps he's jealous of that. Arrggh - being a parent is hard, a sick parent harder!!
Posted by canefan17 (Member # 22149) on :
Ditto Bartonella - sorry to hear this
Posted by Carol in PA (Member # 5338) on :
You could look into giving your son supplemental Omega 3's. This improves the integrity of the cell membranes, and the brain cells will get better nutrition and oxygen.
When the brain functions better, you can think more clearly and have better self control.
Read the reviews...people are having good results.
Keebler spoke recently of a study done with cab drivers in New York City. After a week of taking fish oil, they handled the stress of cranky passengers better.
Is your son taking a multivitamin? Extra magnesium?
Posted by nefferdun (Member # 20157) on :
I am really sorry that you son is acting out. I agree if it is a leftover infection coming out, it sounds like bartonella.
I hope you can get counciling for him so that he can be more comfortable with his peers. I hate it when other children are mean. It sounds like he has a lot to deal with with his older brother having disabilities and you being so sick.
Maybe the school has a recommendation for someone he could see. The Lutherin church used to have counciling with a sliding scale fee. I really feel for all of you.
Posted by Cass A (Member # 11134) on :
I'm sooo sorry to hear of the troubles you are having!
Please watch out and resist the likely attempt to put your child on psychotropic drugs to "handle" him.
Playing board games, looking into nutrition, and (if you can) possibly changing schools could be workable short-term handlings. Let him help YOU, also.