Hey gang. As some of you know, my mother had a devastating stroke [her 4th] last March. She has been in a nursing home ever since, unable to sit or stand and is on a feeding tube.
Now she's in the hospital with congestive heart failure and kidney failure. She also has an infection....and they don't know where it is.
The doctors suggest ceasing treatment. I have to meet with a "paliative care" group tomorrow and work out details. We may return her to the nursing home and call in hospice.
Please keep my mom and our family in your prayers. Thank you ever so much.
Posted by Svengali Eyes (Member # 6118) on :
You are one of the reasons I've hung around here so long. Sure, I'm mostly a lurker but I like your bantor and unique take on things.
You and your family will be in my prayers. Good luck and keep us updated.
Sven
Posted by treepatrol (Member # 4117) on :
Iam sorry for you and your family and I hope your mother has peace.
Posted by just don (Member # 1129) on :
prayers sent!!! The rest of my feelings, YOU already know!!!
Posted by I Have Lyme Etc (Member # 7439) on :
Hi TuTu Im so sorry to read about your mom.. Its so heart wrenching watching someone you love so much wither away and there is nothing you can do to fix it.. Both you and your mom will be in my thoughts..
Posted by Melanie Reber (Member # 3707) on :
Holding you and yours close in my heart.
Much love, Melanie
Posted by cbb (Member # 788) on :
So, so sorry to hear what your Mom and your family are going through. Had a similar situation with my father, so I understand how difficult it is. If I can help in any way, you know where I am.
Will pray that you and your family receive strength and peace as you make difficult decisions.
When you have time, please give us updates on how your mom and you are doing. Love and support!!!!
Posted by Linda LD (Member # 6663) on :
Lymetoo,
You and your Mom are in my thoughts and prayers. May God bless you and hold you both in his heart as you go through this difficult time. I am so very sorry.
Try to take care of your self as well as take care of your Mom.
Linda
Posted by sofy (Member # 5721) on :
Your have my sincerest good thoughts. I hope her passing is as swift and peacefull as possible and that all of you are able to accept her new presence in your life.
I went thru the same thing and felt relief for my Mom when she was finally made the crossing.
I say "new presence" cuz she is still here. Talking about her and remembering special and everyday times keeps her spirit close by. Even those little irritating things now bring pleasure and laughter.
Posted by hopeful123 (Member # 3244) on :
Lymetoo,
Your mom and you are in my prayers.
(((hugs))) hopeful123
Posted by lymemomtooo (Member # 5396) on :
lymetoo, I am so sorry and will add your family to my prayers..It is so hard to see a parent so sick and not be able to fix it..
My dad suffered with progressive cancers for over 2 years..It was very hard to daily see him go down hill..He had been a polio victim as a child and was loosing circulation in his legs..
I had medical power of attorney and they were pressuring me to have his legs amputated..I prayed constantly for a "painless" heart attack..As the time ticked nearer to my decision..Thank God, my prayers were answered.
I pray the same for you..If there is no hope of recovery, may her last days be peaceful..And may you remember the good times and not these..It will take some time but the pain has lessened for me..My best..love and hugs..lymemomtooo
Posted by Somerset (Member # 7534) on :
Lymetoo, Prayers and Strenght sent. Robin
Posted by Lymetoo (Member # 743) on :
Thank you all so much for the kind thoughts and prayers. I know they WILL help and ARE helping!
Blessings to all.
Posted by Monica (Member # 224) on :
My mom passed three years ago and not a day goes by that I don't miss her.
As you go through this difficult time, be assured she will always be with you and that her pain will have passed.
(((hugs)))
Posted by luvmycat (Member # 4984) on :
Hi. I am so sorry about your mother and will keep her in my prayers--and you and your family, also.
Carol
Posted by Mo (Member # 2863) on :
Will be keping you and your family in my heart, Toots.
Mo
Posted by Ann-OH (Member # 2020) on :
Sending all my best thoughts and wishes for you, your mom and all the family.
I am so glad you have hospice to depend on. It is a wonderful group.
Ann -OH
Posted by dmc (Member # 5102) on :
you & your mom & family in my prayers during this sad time. God Bless you all.
Posted by bettyg (Member # 6147) on :
Tutu,
You & your Mom have my prayers.
Dad had congestive heart failure for 20 years as well as kidney failure. So I'm reliving his last days again.
Glad you have a wonderful hospice program there too.
Best wishes for her peaceful passing.
Posted by cbb (Member # 788) on :
Been thinking about you all day. I remembered something the hospice nurse told me when my Mother was in her last days. We thought she had about a week, but she passed very unexpectedly during her first night with hospice.
The nurse said: "Most people know that it can helpful to tell the person that it is OK for them to go, but be sure to tell them that they will be missed."
As you know, people want to know that they are loved, they will be missed and that they will be remembered. I didn't have a chance to tell my mother, but she knew how much she meant to me.
Posted by chroniccosmic (Member # 7789) on :
I'm sending lots of love and prayers to you, your mom and your family. This is such a tough time, been through it with both parents. Take extra special care of yourself right now.
Posted by rosesisland2000 (Member # 2001) on :
God Bless you...my friend
Rosemary
Posted by trueblue (Member # 7348) on :
My prayers and thoughts are with you. Posted by beccaman (Member # 1558) on :
I'm with cbb.....my father-in-law and my Dad both hung on for a long time. I told them each to let go, there was no need for them to suffer any longer. They both pasted with-in hours after.
My prayers are with you Tu Tu....God bless
Posted by lymeinhell (Member # 4622) on :
Sending you kind thoughts, and keeping you and your family in my prayers. May you all be at peace, and know that - "As long as you keep the memories, she will always be with you." Posted by ponytail (Member # 36) on :
I know how difficult a time this is for you now.
I don't even know you and yet hope you know how much you are loved and appreciated by me and so many people - right?
Of course my prayers are with you and your family right now.
Sherry
Posted by lymeloco (Member # 7192) on :
I'm so sorry about your mom. I didn't know she was ill. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your mom. Posted by pattilynn (Member # 8065) on :
My thoughts and prayers to you and your mom.
Patti
Posted by map1131 (Member # 2022) on :
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Take care, Pam
Posted by hiker53 (Member # 6046) on :
I am praying for you and your mom--for peace for whatever happens. Hiker
Posted by SAK (Member # 7387) on :
My prayers to you and yours. Keep hope alive for a better tomorrow.
Posted by DJP (Member # 5893) on :
My thoughts and prayers to you and your family.
Posted by HEATHERKISS (Member # 6789) on :
Hi Tutu,
I'm so sorry. I'll pray for your mother, you and your family.
Posted by WildCondor (Member # 434) on :
Dear Lymetoo....
My prayers are with you and your family. I hope she will be allright. Please take your time with this, and be where you need to be, and remember to take care of you, too. We'll hold down the fort. Stay strong & best Wishes, WildCondor Posted by lymex5&counting (Member # 7202) on :
My 10 year old son asked me tonight where the tutu was?
I am so sorry to hear this.
My family will be praying for your family. Posted by Lymetoo (Member # 743) on :
What did I ever do to deserve you guys? Thanks so much...it means alot to me.
Yes, all of you are in charge of "holding down the fort!"
When we go to Texas [where Mom will be buried with my Dad] we will be gone 3-4 wks.
God Bless.
Posted by lifeline (Member # 3445) on :
Oh no, I'm so terribly sorry. I wish there was a miracle, but prayers can be miracles sometimes.
What a hardship for you to see your Mother like this and wonder if she will get well.
We can only pray, then pray some more.
God bless.
lifeline
Posted by Nal (Member # 6801) on :
I had no idea-I am so very sorry!! I watched my mom die of cancer in 91--I was only 19 at the time too. Its very hard and I do hope the angels will carry you and your family through all of this. God Bless.
Nancy
Posted by Lymetoo (Member # 743) on :
Lymex5....That is so sweet!
Posted by pq (Member # 6886) on :
prayers sent, lymetoo.
Posted by meg (Member # 22) on :
Too~ I'm so sorry, I know your strength and your faith will see you through this.....you know the Lord has you all in his hands. Meg
Posted by lymeout (Member # 8045) on :
TuTu, I am so sorry about your mother, especially the difficult decisions you have to make.My prayer for strength and peace of mind has been sent. God Bless You.
Posted by lymesux (Member # 6248) on :
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Take good care, LS
Posted by islandgirl (Member # 5914) on :
Lymetoo,
My thoughts are with you. Making decisions for a parent is so very difficult, but isn't it wonderful that we can make their passing as comfortable as can be.
She is a lucky mom, to have a daughter as caring as you are. Peggy
Posted by lymebrat (Member # 3208) on :
Hi Lymetoo,
So sorry to her about your mom. I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers!
~Missy
Posted by henson2 (Member # 463) on :
Lymetoo,
You and your mom are in my thoughts and prayers. Wishing you strength, and knowing the love of those who surround you.
We love you on this Board, so please take good care of yourself through this.
Hugs and God's blessing on you and your family ((((hugs)))) henson
Posted by pab (Member # 904) on :
I'll keep you and your mom in my prayers.
Posted by dt (Member # 937) on :
You are in our thoughts and we will all be praying for your Mom, and your whole family. God bless you all.
Hugs, DT
Posted by JillF (Member # 5553) on :
So sorry you're going through this.
We just lost our mother-in-law around this time last year. So, I have an idea of what you're going through.
Thinking and praying for you and your family
Posted by snowboarder (Member # 6346) on :
Lymetoo,
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.
So sorry to hear about your mom...I know it's very difficult and went through this with my good friend who passed away of cancer. I'll ask my church to pray for her too.
Posted by Lymetoo (Member # 743) on :
My Mom's name is Della and mine is Gayle, for those who are praying. Of course, God knows our names!
Posted by hatsnscarfs (Member # 6562) on :
I'm so sorry Tutu, My thoughts and prayers are with you and your mom. I know you'll make good decisions to make her as comfortable as possible. hats
Posted by Andie333 (Member # 7370) on :
Gayle I was out of town for a few days and was so sad to log on tonight and hear about your mother.
My thoughts and prayers are with you, with Della and with your whole family.
Andie Posted by aklnwlf (Member # 5960) on :
I'm so sorry Lymetoo,
Prayed for you, your family and especially your dear Mom.
May God be merciful to you and your family.
Posted by daniella (Member # 6753) on :
Lymetoo-
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your Mom during this trying time. Lotsa love I am sending your way!
daniella
Posted by Michelle M (Member # 7200) on :
Dearest Tutu,
This is such a wrenching thing to go through with those you love. I hope there is peace and I am already sure there is much love. May you have strength. We will all be thinking of you and sending love.
Michelle
Posted by sizzled (Member # 1357) on :
You have my prayers, Gayle. For you and your Mom.
My thoughts are with you.
Posted by WildCondor (Member # 434) on :
We are all here supporting you Gayle. I'll help hold down the fort while you are away. Please take your time, and get your rest, and spent the time with your family. We are all wishing you and your family well. Lots of Love, WildCondor Posted by GiGi (Member # 259) on :
May you and your family be blessed, Gayle.
Gudrun & Jack
Posted by Linda LD (Member # 6663) on :
Hang in ther Lymetoo, i am just so sorry your Mom has had to suffer for so long.
You both are in a lot of prayers... L
Posted by JavaBeing (Member # 6321) on :
Hey Ms. TuTu--
I'm so sorry to hear about your mom. I haven't had to make the decisions you are about to make, but I prayed the Lord to give you the direction and peace of mind and spirit to help you through it all.
I had to watch my grandmother go through a slow passing. To top it off, she worried about us worring about her. Finally, we just decided to talk, and to share stories and to hold hands, cry, laugh and support each other with arms, when words got hard.
She just kept reassuring us, this is just a stepping off place to the real adventure...but all the love we have here, we do get to take that with us. I believe her...and am glad we gave her such a show of love. And as the nurse said, "our permission to let go"...
Prayers of healing and love to you you all Tu, Please keep us posted...Stay strong
JavaBeing
Posted by krazykt1 (Member # 3739) on :
Our prayers are with you and your mom Gayle kt
Posted by nan (Member # 63) on :
Lymetoo,
I guess I haven't visited General in a while, so am just learning about your mother.
I am so sorry to hear this. It is very hard to know you are losing someone so close to you. My heart aches for you.
Prayers here for you, your Mom and your family as you go through this.
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