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Posted by Carlie (Member # 8745) on :

I have had lyme for over 25 years, was treated

about 10 years ago but came back with a vengence.

Tried to take oral anti-biotics, but was unable

to b/c of stomach problems. My lyme has affected

me neourlogically for the past 10 years, and now

I have much neuropothy, pain, and numbness in my

legs and arms. Now down to my external problems.

My husband is disabled due to back problems, and

has not worked for the past six years. He has

not an ounce of empathy & support left for

anyone but himself. I am still trying to work

as we have some financial committments to our

bank for about two more years. Recently, we

seperated due to some personal problems

involving a long lost daughter of my husband.

He insisted we bring

her into our home b/c she was in an abusive

relationship (I did not object at the time b/c

this is the work that I do). It was a disaster

to say the least! She is 28 yrs old and has

two children who she did not watch at all. She

slept all the time and never did anything to

help at all. She finally moved out after 3

months of hell. (I and and a girlfriend moved

her out while my husband watched.) I always

treated her kind, even tho it was hell. After

that she called daily for my husband to take

her hear, there, and everywhere. She took up

fishing b/c my husband likes to fish. They

then fished daily, while leaving her

two year old son in the hot car, in a car seat,

until I finally said something about it being

a safety issue for the baby. All while I worked

a 40-50 hr. a week job. They went to a 4th

of july fireworks display together, while I

stayed at home with my daughter and grand

children. My husband and her were secretive

about much of their relationship. It was really

crazy. We started fighting about this. It got

to a point I told him to just go stay with her.

He finally did. Stayed gone 2 weeks and then

returned about a month ago. Of course there has

been numerous problems with how he treated my

children, especially my youngest that he raised.

He was not good to her, and not really good with

the grandkids until his daughter came into the

picture. He all of a sudden changed into an

interested Dad/Granddad. Since this he has

been cold, (he had began pulling away

anyway for the past seven years). He had an

affair 10 years ago and I took him back. Any

way I keep telling him we need to work on

our issues, and he seems to not really care to

do anything different. Oh, he make a half

hearted attempt here and there, but not

anything of importance. If I tell him I am in

pain, or anything he acts like he doesn't hear

me, or tells me to go to the doctor. He does

not even know or care about lyme, nor does he

want to. I guess I was just so frustrated this

morning after spending the holiday alone b/c

he went fishing with his buddy most of the

afternoon, and just his lack of giving a s---t

about our relationship, or the way I feel. I

know this is long and wordy, but I did not know

who else to talk to. I start IV anti-biotics

tomorrow. I sure hope they help! Meanwhile,

I guess I will just keep praying for God to

show me what to do. Yes, I have ask him to

leave again. It is not good! Thanks for

listening. I guess I better get to work.

Carlie

Posted by AZURE WISH (Member # 804) on :

You deserve better than the way he treats you. You dont need someone who is always taking and never giving.

It isnt good for anyone but I think it takes a bigger toll on people who have had an illness long term especially when their immune system is taxed.

Good luck with the IV.

Best wishes

Posted by Lymetoo (Member # 743) on :

Sorry to hear all that. I think you're making the right decision by asking your husband to leave.

Keep us posted on your IV progress! Hope it goes well!!

Posted by bettyg (Member # 6147) on :

Yes, get rid of him for good! You were an angel to take in your never-met-before step-daughter.

Wishing you the best on your IV. May God carry your burdens now to give you a much needed rest. Gob bless you. Bettyg [group hug]

Posted by Carlie (Member # 8745) on :

To all who responded,

Thank you all so much for the support. I am not

usually like this. I am usually the person that

looks at a glass and says that it is half full,

insted of half empty. I guess that is what has

got me thru, but it so good to know that you all

are here and willing to listen and give support.

Thanks Again! I will keep you posted. By the

way, he did not leave.

Carlie

Posted by northstar (Member # 7911) on :

He did not leave when you asked him to?

Maybe he needed telling, not asking? Then, the next step would be legal help.

What do you think would serve you best for your future?

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