My grandfather sent me email today asking "what would you like for christmas."
You know, at this time of year, I do think of it. I'd be happy with nothing, but generally do end up asking for something.
For many many years it has been for things like backpacking equipment and books on primitive skills, my favorite hobby. Both of which are heavily infested tick hobbies.
So, this year, I forgot that there were even things like presents involved. I have no interest in gifts.
I've been working a lot on making hand knitted stuff for people for the holidays. Keeps me busy, makes me forget about the pain for a while, and it's cheap.
But, there's still the question of me.
How do you answer "What do you want for Christmas" when all you really want is to get better and there is nothing of material value that will bring even the slightest joy?
Posted by randibear (Member # 11290) on :
i know exactly how you feel. hubs says "how bout a new washer and dryer. make you feel better." or "how about i buy you a rolex?" or "buy whatever you want"....
i just want to be healthy.....
i'd like to go somewhere and just curl up and sleep for a thousand years....
Posted by Keebler (Member # 12673) on :
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I know we may not feel like celebrating, but if your grandfather is reaching out, please reach back. Think of something, even a new CD or a book - and let him share in the joy it brings.
So many opportunities for happiness and love have been taken from us. Your grandfather is offering love. Please do not close that door. Share with him what can bring you some joy.
Even if you have to work hard to come up with something, this will bring you joy and you will feel more loved.
How very nice of your grandfather to say he loves you in this way. If he sends money, he will appreciate knowing how that brings you some ease or happiness - or entertainment.
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Posted by glm1111 (Member # 16556) on :
Hi Miranda,
I am a grandmother and I just love giving presents to my 3 grandchildren.
What even gives me more pleasure is how they love and appreciate what I give them.
It justs fill my heart with joy to know that I have made them feel special.
You might want to look at how good it would make your grandfather feel to know he has made you feel special.
I know it's hard being sick especially this time of the year, but try and think of something you might really want.
Posted by bettyg (Member # 6147) on :
do you own a copy of UNDER OUR SKIN or CURE UNKNOWN book,
or any other lyme book you've wanted to read and keep?
are you having troubles paying for llmd visits, treatments, or meds? if yes, ask for money and tell him it will go towards your bills now or in future.
that's really great grandpa asked you! i do NOT remember any gifts from my 1 grandpa alive ...
Posted by Geneal (Member # 10375) on :
How about a donation to a Lyme related organization in your name?
Or....a gift certificate for a massage.
It is a good way to detox plus it feels really good.
What a wonderful grandfather.
None of mine are still living.
Maybe have him come and spend some time with you.
That in itself, is priceless.
Hugs,
Geneal
Posted by joalo (Member # 12752) on :
Maybe let him take you out to dinner. That would be a special gift to both of you. Posted by MY3BOYS (Member # 17830) on :
having someone who loves you and cares enough to try to keep you smiling and know you are loved is such a blessing
enjoy your grandfathers love in any way he wants to help show it to ya...i know i will be devistaetd when my own grandpa is gone and i try to enjoy him as much as i can...and let him enjoy his great-grandkids!!
randibear..lol..is your hubby for lease?? maybe i can see if a rolex would make me smile?? lol..maybe the bahamas?? love the caribean..tell him to take you on a trip as the temp. there is therapuetic..haha..works for me..has become our yearly get away..fantastic for you
Posted by sammy (Member # 13952) on :
If you like knitting ask for more knitting supplies. Or a gift certificate to your favorite craft store.
You might find another similar hobby that you might like to try. And you can always give your extra creations away. I'm sure they'd make someones day a little brighter:)
Asking him to take you out to dinner is a great idea. Or you two can go to a movie together. Or get some coffee... Anything to spend some time together.
Sounds like you have a nice grandfather:) Enjoy the time you have with him.
Posted by Peedie (Member # 15355) on :
Do you have an unpaid balance with your LLMD? See if he will make a payment for you and mail the check directly to the doctor's office with your account number on it. A credit card bill? See if he will make the December payment for you - these things are all difficult to do at this time of year. It is the gift that keeps on giving to help in that way. -p
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