Happy Birthday Kelly, who 49 years ago came out of your Mom's belly.
You love eating in a deli and possibly talking on your tele ....
So only best wishes and extra prayers are headed your way today Kelly....
an original by BettyG [group hug] [kiss]
Kelly, may future birthdays be healthier and happier for you. they will also take on a special meaning too due to your Mom's life-threatening situation today. [Smile] --------------------
Posted by Kreynolds (Member # 15117) on :
Kelly,
So sorry to hear about your mother.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family through this trying time. It may not mean much, but Happy Birthday.
Posted by Starfall1969 (Member # 17353) on :
Kelly,
Oh sweetie, I'm so sorry to hear about your mother.
I lost my own mom 2 years ago, so I know it's hard to even think about the possibility.
Prayers going up for you and your mom.
Deb
Posted by Dekrator48 (Member # 18239) on :
Kelly,
What a difficult time for you....so sorry.
Praying for your Mom's recovery.
Posted by Zebco 33 (Member # 18376) on :
Kelly, my heart hurts for you as I have felt the pain only a daughter knows for her mother. This prayer is for both of you.
Lord, sometimes we are puzzled. Sometimes we are frightened. Sometimes we have lost our way.
In a world of constant change and threatinging horizons, grant that Your Unchanging Word may always be our guide.
May the revelation of Your Love in Jesus Christ dispel the darkness that surrounds us. As we come to the close of another day, we commend ourselves-all that we are and all that we have-to your gracious keeping.
Be with Kelly and her Mom tonight, we pray, and bless them with your Unconditional Love. In Jesus' name we pray....Amen.
Peace and Hugs to you Kelly....Fondly, Connie
Posted by bettyg (Member # 6147) on :
up for support from ALL of kelly's friends ...
Posted by kelmo (Member # 8797) on :
I came on to tonight and found all your prayers and well-wishes. It really blessed me.
Thank you, Betty, for initiating this thread. My mother's name is Betty, too.
She has had chronic health problems for the past 25 years. Among other things, she has COPD.
She broke her leg last week, and went to the hospital. They couldn't operate due to pneumonia.
Luckily, I was there before they intubated her. As I was feeding her dinner (which was going directly into her lungs), she looked up in the corner of the room and said, "there's a little girl drowning up there"
My mother is also legally blind. So, I asked her if SHE was drowning. She said she was. The pulmonologist was outside the door, he told me to stop feeding, they needed to intubate
Before they did it, I grabbed the phone, called my dad and put the phone up to her ear. They were able to tell eacher I love you, then I was ushered out. When I came back, she was sedated and hooked up to a ventilator.
Today, my son went up to say goodbye and the nurse said a tear rolled down her cheek. My dad came up and told her how beautiful she was and that he loved her. Her heart rate went up to 150, and the nurse told him to leave.
I know when you are dying, hearing is the last to go.
My mom and dad have been together for 65 years. My dad has been her primary caregiver since he retired 18 years ago.
Tomorrow, she will be removed from the vent and transported to hospice. We have no idea what to expect, but we know there will be a funeral this week.
I'm tired today, and grateful they held off one day so I could have this day stay the day of my birth and not the date of my mother's death.
We just pray she makes it to Tuesday. We were all going to be celebrating her 80th birthday that day. But, mostly, I pray she slips away peacefully, and without pain.
Thank you for the poems.
Kelly
Posted by bettyg (Member # 6147) on :
kelly,
thanks for coming on and sharing your feelings, what has been happening to your beautiful mom, betty.
i loved what you did about calling your dad and putting the phone up so she could hear I LOVE YOU again from your dad of 65 years!
blind and she saw the drowning girl.
when mom started hallucinations when her cancer hit hard with a 104-105 fever, she saw her mom in the corner of room, and kept telling her to go away; she wantedto stay here on earth.
another time she saw things coming out of the wall.
another time i moved in front of her window; i was a CAT to her.
yes, i'm glad she lasted thru out your birthday so it doesn't hold painful memories.
hospice is great! dad was there 24 hrs. most. the evening of my moving him there. he informed me he was going to walk his wheelchair out into the beautiful gardens with GRASS galore all around him. he loved to mow on his rider mower!
later i mentioned to him knowing he was dying that mom had waited 11 years in heaven to have her next POLKA & WALTZ with him. a huge smile came over his face.
he died 3 hrs. after his 1st grandchild, jerad, got married in an outdoor wedding in same city! we were all in town. i was only on there after food reception, 10 min. before he died my oldest bro/wife/daughter came for the ending.
we had all family come there for 20-30 minutes for final goodbies and cleaning out the room.
my heart and prayers go out to you kelly & your family! Posted by feelfit (Member # 12770) on :
Kelmo,
Here I sit crying while reading your story. Big tears. For all that life is, for all of the love and experiences and letting go.
So very difficult.
I pray that your Mother finds peace and calm. And that you and your Dad and the rest of the family are bathed in her love.
Thinking of you, Feelfit
Posted by merrygirl (Member # 12041) on :
I am so sorry. may it all be so peaceful...
your in my thoughts.
melissa
Posted by randibear (Member # 11290) on :
oh kelmo, i am so very sorry.
i was not in ohio when the hospital transferred mom to hospice but my sisters said before they intubated her she spoke her last words. "i think i'm in trouble now". i will never forget those words.
she never came out of her coma. she lived two weeks in hospice. they had stopped all feeding and she was on oxygen.
she had a heart condition which doctor's didn't find until too late.
i cannot tell you it will get easier because for me it has not. all the "should have, would have, could haves" in the world won't bring my mom back and every day is a day lived in grief and pain.
i keep feeling if i had only been there maybe i could have saved her. my sisters thought she was faking and not wanting to do things, but it was because she was short of breath and couldn't get enough oxygen.
i'm glad your family got to say goodbye and the nurses were kind.
please know that i am thinking of you and wishing you the very best.
i will pray for you and hope that you find some peace in the coming days.
Posted by Keebler (Member # 12673) on :
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Kelly,
May your feet feel the energy of the earth,
May your soul feel the strength of the sun and, as the sun sets, bouncing its light off of the moon . . .
May you feel that magic of the moon soothe and nourish every cell of your being.
May you be filled with many fine memories of laughter and love.
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Posted by LisaS (Member # 10581) on :
I am praying for you Kelly. I truly believe that death is just a rebirth into a much better realm!
Posted by sammy (Member # 13952) on :
Dear Kelly, my heart goes out to you. I'm praying that God will comfort you as only He can right now. I'll also be praying with you that He will comfort your mom and allow her to pass peacefully and painlessly in her sleep.
I'm just so so sorry Kelmo. Words are not enough. Wishing I could give you a big hug right about now.
Posted by DaveNJ (Member # 17362) on :
Kelly,
my thoughts and prayers go out to you. I'm glad you and your family had chance to share that special moment. My mother died when i was 22 adn i never to say goodbye....in some way you will see that special moment as birthday gift once the pian passes.
Keep the Faith,
Dave
Posted by bettyg (Member # 6147) on :
more prayers headed to kelly; and thanks EVERYONE for stopping by and posting for our dear lymenet family friend Posted by John S (Member # 19756) on :
I wish you and your mom best wishes.
Posted by just don (Member # 1129) on :
Kelmo, best wishes and strength to you this week.
So sorry you are going thru this right now.
May your mother have peace in another, better place!!
Posted by Jane2904 (Member # 15917) on :
Kelly,
I am so sorry for all that is happening right now.
You and your Mom are in my thoughts and prayers during this difficult time.
Big Hugs to you, Jane
Posted by mtree (Member # 14305) on :
so sorry you are going through this...Kelly....
wow.. 65 years your parents are togther...what a huge blessing for them to have each other for this long...
I pray for peace and comfort in the coming days ahead for you and your family...
you are in my thoughts.... mtree
Posted by hurtingramma (Member # 7770) on :
I'm sorry you have to go through this, Kelly. My mom passed in Nov. and it was very difficult. Mothers' Day was especially tough this year.
She had broken her hip and came through the surgery just fine, but went into renal failure. She knew she was dying and was ready and eager for it. She waited for most of the family (including grandkids) to get there, even said hello to a couple who had just arrived, and died about 10 minutes later when we had to leave the room for housekeeping to come in.
The Dr. told us that it often happens that way - they don't let go until nobody is around to see it.
Good luck and I will be praying for you and your family. Peace.
Posted by Melodymaker (Member # 16434) on :
Kelly,
So sorry you and your family are going through this difficult time, but I'm so glad that your Mom has all of you to support and love her. That's a blessing for her to be sure.
Hospice is an organization that will support her needs and your family's needs through this time. Ask for any help you all need, and let them bless you.
Keeping you all in prayer.
Posted by Hoosiers51 (Member # 15759) on :
Kelly,
I just said a prayer for your mother and also your family.
I will be thinking about you all.
When my grandfather died, it seemed like he was hanging on for us because he was in a semi-coma and was suffering as well but we knew he could hear us, so we told him that we were all doing okay and that he could let go if he was ready to be with God. After we told him that, he only took one more breath and then passed very peacefully right there.
We were actually very surprised that he understood what we had said, but we felt better that we were able to comfort him and reassure him.
I hope that God will bring comfort to your mother Betty, and all of you during this time.
Hoos
Posted by bettyg (Member # 6147) on :
KELLY,
more remarkable and heartfelt comments from ALL your friends here at lymenet! keep them coming gang! so touching.... xox
Posted by kelmo (Member # 8797) on :
Thank you for your AWESOME support.
My mother past last night around 10:40 MST.
Yesterday was my mother's 80th Birthday. Hospice brought in a cake for us. In the two days that she was in hospice, everyone in the family had a chance to be with her.
She had to be so heavily medicated that she wasn't alert. Once in a while we would get an eye blink or a noise. The first day, I got a smile when I entered the room.
My dad kept busy at home, and we forced him to stay there. My nephew drove down from Vegas. It took hours because he had a flat tire. He arrived at 10:00pm. He was the last grandchild that didn't get to say goodbye to her.
That was all she needed.
I was there almost all day, then at 10:15, my dad said he needed is medication. He was getting unsteady. He was going to go home and get it, but I told him I would. I had to drive to three pharmacies (Phoenix is a big place, and drugs stores are like Starbucks).
When I made it back, she had passed a few minutes before.
Before I left for the errand, I kissed her, told her I loved her, and that she had a good birthday, everyone was here, she could let go. She did.
Our family has not always been pleasant. But, it was a good experience last night. Lots of love and support. It may not be like that again as everyone processes the loss.
I feel very loved and supported by your thoughts and prayers. Thank you.
On the good side. My daughter is going to take her first trip since becoming ill. She will visit a family in Illinois and see Chi-town. This will be a test of her strength and recovery. I told my family she may miss the funeral, but I had to send her; she NEEDS this.
God Bless Kelly
Posted by bettyg (Member # 6147) on :
Kelly, my heartfelt sympathies to you on the loss of your dear mom on her 80th birthday!!
how strange; 1st they thought she would die on your birthday; but she chose her own special day to go home.
so glad all the family made it and you kissed her your final goodbye and told her it was ok for her to go. they're all waiting to hear that .. you gave your permission and she used that time to make her departure.
glad you family got along yesterday; will be plenty of fighting afterwards; death brings out the worst in all of us...
Posted by kelmo (Member # 8797) on :
Yes it does...been there with my husband's family.
Hopefully, we can rise above it.
Posted by bettyg (Member # 6147) on :
kelmo,
glad you dropped in; been thinking alot about you kelly. hope folks can put aside differences.
is your dad still cognizant to make good legal arrangements and handle your mom's estate?
sadly if they didn't have a plan b backup plan to do so after he's had time to get thru his grief, sorrow, and anger over losing her. we never want them to go although we know we don't want them hear so SICK and NO quality of life to enjoy life.
rest in peace betty ... i believe that was your mom's name too; i read so much; i get so CONFUSED!
Posted by sammy (Member # 13952) on :
Dear Kelly, thank you for stopping by to give us an update.
I've been thinking of you and praying for you all week. I'm just so glad to hear that you were able to have an extra couple days to be together as a family to love on your mom. Although I know a couple of days would never be enough when you're saying good bye.
May God bless you and comfort you Kelmo.
Big hug:)
Posted by Carol in PA (Member # 5338) on :
Kelly, I'm so sorry about your mother.
Carol
Posted by mtree (Member # 14305) on :
Kelly...
I did the same with my Dad...told him he didn't have to fight anymore...it was ok...we will all be ok..he could go....and he did..
I really believe that helps the person that is passing over....I think some really need to hear that....
so very sorry for your loss... mtree
Posted by Lymetoo (Member # 743) on :
Kelly... I'm so sorry about your mother. I know what it feels like to lose a mom. It's awesome that she made it to her 80th birthday!
I know the love you had for each other will carry you through. Hold all the precious memories close to your heart.
Posted by randibear (Member # 11290) on :
kelmo, i am praying that you won't have to go through what i did with the family after mom died.
remember -- death in a family does not change people, it only makes them more of what they really are....
Posted by Starfall1969 (Member # 17353) on :
Kelly,
I'm so sorry to hear of your mom's passing, but glad that she is at peace now.
How special that she went home on her birthday--
my grandma died 4 days before her 97th birthday and was laid to rest on her birthday.
I'm glad you all got a chance to say goodbye.
Your family is in my prayers.
Posted by bettyg (Member # 6147) on :
thanks everyone for stopping by; kelly's mom did die on her 80th birthday; see the post kelly started....
rest in peace kelly's mom, betty !! xox
Posted by lymemomtooo (Member # 5396) on :
Kelmo, so sorry for your loss..Hope with time, you are able to remember the good times and not the rough times of the past week..lmt
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