You know, the stage where they want to do it themselves & throw a fit when they screw it up?
I was getting a drink, knocked the cup into my lap.
Pouring a little applesauce into a bowl, dumped the entire jar AND missed the bowl.
Making ice tea, spilt the mix all over the counter & floor.
Put dinner in the oven... forgot to turn it on.
Fell transferring from the wheelchair to the couch, cause I didn't lock the brakes. (Didn't get hurt.)
Had trouble opening a door to enter the mall, somebody had to come help me.
I've always been a "I'd rather do it myself" type and having to ask (or wait for) someone else is driving me nuts.
When stuff happens I get really PO'ed and cranky. I KNOW it's because of the LD but can't seem to take it in stride.
I try to be polite when strangers offer help but sometimes snap at family out of embarrassment or frustration.
It sounds childish but I wish I could throw myself down, drum my feet on the floor and throw a real hissy fit.
I'm just really down over being so out of it.
Geri -
Posted by Tracy9 (Member # 7521) on :
Hey, wait for me. You just described me perfectly, so no throwing yourself down and throwing the hissy fit until I can get there to join you.
Posted by Geneal (Member # 10375) on :
Hi Geri.
I bet you are one of those people who love to help others.
Part of independence for me is my ability to do for othersas well as myself.
After Hurricane Katrina, I had to learn to become a good receiver.
I didn't ask for Katrina and I didn't ask for Lyme and company.
While these two events had me down and out, I learned from each.
One thing I learned is that the good feeling I
Always got from doing nice things for others,
Was something I was cheating someone else out of if I refused their help.
Does that make sense?
Try to give it up and try to be a good receiver.
Just so that you don't stop someone else from that wonderful feeling.
I had to learn to laugh at my mistakes.
I didn't always succeed, but I tried really hard.
When I needed help, I learned to accept it.
I was so grateful it was offered.
Hope for better days for you.
When you get to the the independent person again.
It will come.
Hang in there.
Hugs,
Geneal
Posted by Keebler (Member # 12673) on :
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Are you getting enough good sleep and rest during the day, too. ?
Maybe you need some way to move the anger. I actually think temper tantrums are (sometimes) just a nervous system that is overloaded and trying to shake it off.
I stumbled upon this article the other day and he talks about this sort of thing. It's hard to read the way it's all squished together so I hope you can at least enlarge the type.
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thinking of you and saying we're here for you ok. ![[Smile]](smile.gif)