Had a car accident Sunday and couldn't come at a worse time.
It's confirmed last week I have adenal exhaustion and was doing well at trying to relax. Things were going better in my life and I was starting to feel hopeful for the future.
I certainly failed during and after the accident to stay calm. I'm still in shock and stunned. I lost mhy wonderful car. It was like my dear friend and now have to go through all the insurance stuff and find a new one.
I'd like to just sleep all day, but am still wired, yet exhausted.
Just when things were looking better and I was feeling hopeful, everything falls apart.
Thankfully I wasn't hurt exccpt for some abrasions and black and blue marks from air bags.
I'm beginning to think air bags are not so great. If they hadn't gone off, my car might not have been considered totaled. But then I'm sure they've saved lives.
Has anyone found good coping methods going through something like this? I'm hoping I don't relapse.
Posted by DaveNJ (Member # 17362) on :
Thankfully I wasn't hurt exccpt for some abrasions and black and blue marks from air bags..
it starts with counting your blessings...its just a car ...but you only have one body...take a deep breath and be thankful you were not killed.
Dave
Posted by alliebridge (Member # 9103) on :
Marz,
Sorry to hear of your accident. I too, had a bad car accident back in 2007. I can relate to much of what you wrote here.
I'm not sure if I can help you with coping methods, though. It's common to have a flare in symptoms after an accident. So don't be surprised. It may not be a total relapse.
My airbags didn't deploy and I hit my forehead (on something) despite wearing a seatbelt. So, if airbags can prevent head injury, I'm all for them (but I have heard stories that they can cause injuries).
My LLMD recommended a cranial osteopath for me. That really helped. I had a therapist, who helped with the bit of post-traumatic stress I had. I also saw a PT for my injuries.
Maybe your LLMD will have some recommendations for you.
Posted by Geneal (Member # 10375) on :
I lost my house to Katrina.
I coped by focusing on what I didn't lose.
I didn't lose my children, my mother, my animals.
Everything else can be replaced.
I hope you get to feeling better soon.
Glad you weren't hurt too bad.
Start thinking about the joys of having a new car too.
Hugs,
Geneal
Posted by Dawn in VA (Member # 9693) on :
I think it involves just taking one step at a time, baby steps, to avoid becoming overwhelmed. And know that it will pass.
Do a small gesture for someone else every day. A friend of mine who lost her spouse began by opening doors for people. She said it helped immensely.
And talk to yourself like you would a dear friend or family member. What would you say to them if they were in your situation?
Sending support through the wires, dawn
Posted by Marz (Member # 3446) on :
Thanks guys, I am starting to see this more in perspective. I think the shock is wearing off.
Yes, it is just a material thing which is what I said at the scene. But it's been my faithful friend for over 10 years so guess I'm grieving.
I've been through worse things and will survive this.
Just didn't need this much adrenalin. At least my way too low blood pressure has gone up above normal which might be a good thing for me!
Posted by Silverwolf (Member # 9196) on :
<<<<< Marz >>>>>,
Good advice was given here dear friend !!!
I am glad you were not seriously injured...please be very gentle w/ yourself for awhile.
Take things slowly, and it's okay to cry if you need to and laugh when you can... I know adrenal exhaustion can make one feel so weary.
Crying can be cleansing,and laughter really can help us to feel better...
Jus' Silverwolfi friend
Posted by bettyg (Member # 6147) on :
so glad you are alive and able to talk about this !! hugs/kisses
yes, another road block on the lyme journey to remission...
Posted by Marz (Member # 3446) on :
My doctor called yesterday when I was gone about blood results from last wekk, but had to leave message he'd call me back.
I'll ask if I should come in because lower back and neck are stiffening up. Headache comes and goes. Not any worse than the lyme usually causes, but think it's from the accident. Nothing horrible or serious.
It's just going to put a crimp on car shopping because the adenaline has stopped and I'm very tired.