Things have gotten more difficult for me. I have been feeling a lot of pressure and when i went to get an utrasound on tuesday they found that my cervix has shortened to a dangerous level. It was fine 3 weeks before. I am now ordered on bedrest for the remainder of my pregnancy
They want me to get to 36 weeks. I will be 24 tomorrow. I also had to start blood thining inj to prevent blood clots. My weight loss is up to 24 pounds. Baby appears to be healthy. But it would be bad if she was born any time soon. I have pretty much been bedridden but now That it is mandatory, it fes bad and overwhelming and i dont want to be in bed, go figure! please pray that i make it much much further.
Thanks
Posted by Dekrator48 (Member # 18239) on :
I'm sorry to hear this.
Praying for you and your baby, merrygirl!
Is someone able to help you, so you can remain on bedrest?
Posted by merrygirl (Member # 12041) on :
Thank you. Well i have a great husband buthe works 6 days a week. Its only been 3 days so i dont really have an idea how this is going to work. My son is 5 and we recently had to pull him out of preschool for medical reasons. So preschool is out. We dont have a lot of money so hiring help is not likely an option. Family has offered some help but everyone has their own lives to live so not sure how consistant it would be. It is scary and i am beyond overwhelmed.
Posted by skies (Member # 28064) on :
I'm sorry to hear about all this!! I'll say a prayer for you and your baby today.
I hope that you start to feel better soon. Take care of yourself!
Posted by philly78 (Member # 31069) on :
Saying a prayer for you. Please! Listen to the docs orders and stay in bed. I say this from experience. I had a lot of complications with my pregnancy and was told to stay on bed rest. Of course, I didn't listen and my water broke at 26 weeks.
The good news is that they admitted me to the hospital and miraculously, I didn't deliver until 32 weeks. I was only allowed to get out of the hospital to shower and use the restroom. That was it!
Looking back, I think I could have prevented the premature rupture of my membranes had I actually listened to the doc. But I am stubborn!
I'm sure you are scared and overwhelmed. I mean, who wouldn't be? My advice? Take all the help you can get from family members and friends at this time and don't feel bad about it. It is time to be 'selfish' about you and the baby's health. I only say this because back when I was told to be on bed rest, I felt guilty for not being able to do things.
There will be some things that you just cannot do and that is okay. I wish you the best of luck and hope that things work out for you. Prayers coming your way!
Posted by kam (Member # 3410) on :
Praying for peace for you Melissa and for a healthy mom and baby.
Posted by merrygirl (Member # 12041) on :
Thanks everyone! Philly your story is amazing and gives me hope! Wow! Bedrest is not unfamilliar to me. When preg with my son i had preterm labor at 30 weeks i had medical intervention and bedrest for 8 weeks.
I was dialated the whole 8 weeks. But he was 30 weeks along and i knew in my heart he would be ok. But geez 24 weeks is not good. I am trying to stay positive but this pregnancy has been really rough. I have to take tons of meds and even had to haveva ct scan because they thought i had a blood clot in my lung.
I feel so guilty for exposing my baby to all this stuff. I wasnt supposed to get pregnant. I had an iud in for over 1 year and it moved out of position on its own i got pregnant. I knew my body couldnt handle being pregnant and didnt want my kid to get lyme so that is why i put the iud in.
But it looks like God had a different plan. I dont regret my baby but i just want her to be ok. I just want her to stay in for many more weeks. My husband works 6 days a week. He may be able to cut down to 5 but its going to hurt financially.
The poor guy works a physical job, then has to come home and cook and clean take care of pets and kids. The guy is a saint. He has done most of this for the 4 years i have been sick.
I wish he could be home for awhile to help me cope. I feel so scared and alone. Its a crappy situation. thanks for the support and for letting me vent
Posted by penguingirl (Member # 28688) on :
Sending you hugs and prayers!
Posted by DKat (Member # 30941) on :
merrygirl, Asking for help is always humbling and not very fun. But...you're carrying a heavy load right now, not feeling 100% and caring for a 5 yr. old boy is not easy. Add to that mix fighting lyme/co, expecting a new baby and all the housework and it can seem impossible!
Take all the help your family/friends are willing to give. Let them show their love and caring for you in whatever way they can. This isn't forever.
Would a family member be able to ask for help from a local church? We have a local 'soup kitchen' that I believe would be willing to pack up a meal for your hubby to pick up once in while....do you have anything like that in your area? Any help, even one meal, would be one more day to check off the waiting/resting calendar.
I'll be praying for you. That your son will be able to have enough play time from his dad and your family so he will enjoy snuggle time with you. Now instead of a preschool teacher, he will get to learn from his mommy.
This scripture helps me through the tough times. Isaiah 41:10 So do not fear, for I am with you; do not be dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you and help you; I will uphold you with my righteous right hand.
I'm looking forward to your post until the post finally comes saying you are holding your healthy little girl.
Posted by Lymetoo (Member # 743) on :
OH, merrygirl... I'm so sorry! That must be so frightening. Please ask for all the help you can get. Family needs to step up if possible. OR as someone suggested, call your church for help. (if you don't have one, I understand)
Sure hope you can get some help. Will pray for that little girl .. and YOU!! Posted by LSG Scott (Member # 21624) on :
I'll be praying for you Merrygirl
Posted by tickled1 (Member # 14257) on :
Oh no Melissa! I am so sorry! Sending hugs and prayers your way! I sent you a PM about something unrelated before I saw this. Feel free to ignore it. You have bigger fish to fry!
Posted by MariaA (Member # 9128) on :
wow. I'm really sorry to hear that- please try and see if you can get any help through a church or something- people DO understand the 'complicated pregnancy' part of needing help much more than they understand the Lyme part, and it seems like you should be able to get some help. Any family members go to a church that might have retired or otherwise sympathetic folks with free time who might help?
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