I am not sure I can believe anything he says right now.
There is no proof of anything prior to this event, however, trust has been broken.
We talked for 3 hours Friday night, most of all day Saturday and Sunday.
I was brutally honest and didn't hold back one thought, one feeling at all.
I am praying for God to show me which way to go.
It was a good thing to talk and communicate.
That has been missing for a long, long time.
Doesn't clear the water much, but clarification of me was of utmost importance.
I have decided not to take any immediate action as of now.
The children are my focus and according to him, his as well.
I still don't know how this will pan out.
Trust isn't an easy commodity for me at all, especially given the circumstances.
I thank all of you for getting my head above the water that I was drowning in.
Thank you for caring about and loving me so much.
You all truly were my life raft in a sea of confusion and despair.
If you don't mind to continue to pray for me and my children,
I would be so grateful.
Thank you so very much.
Hugs,
Geneal
Posted by penguingirl (Member # 28688) on :
Hugs and prayers Geneal! We are here for you always.
I am glad you were able to speak your mind.
Please just focus on taking care of yourself and your children.
Posted by HopesAlive (Member # 29774) on :
Geneal,
So nice to see you posting, and thank you for the update! You are going through a lot right now, and it IS confusing and not at all easy.
You don't have to make any quick decisions. Like you say, continue to concentrate on your children and yourself, right now, and pray for guidance and take your time sorting out what will be best for you and your children, in the end. That decision does not have to be made today or tomorrow. You are doing what you believe is right for you, and I, for one, support you no matter what you decide, because this is YOUR life, obviously!
I am so relieved that you and your children are safe, and so happy you are posting again. Thank you for opening up and sharing with everyone here. That, alone, takes courage.
And, yes, take time for YOU right now, take good care of yourself, be gentle with yourself, and know that, with time, your answers will come.
Posted by Dekrator48 (Member # 18239) on :
So glad to hear you are ok and I will continue to pray for you and your family. Posted by Lymetoo (Member # 743) on :
We're all so glad you are safe. Those long hours of discussion will go a long way for you and your family. Maybe he finally got the point and the depth of your pain.
The future is bright if he truly loves you. Time will tell and you are smart enough to know what to do. You and your God are trustworthy!
You'll continue to be in my prayers. Call me when you can. I hate to call since I don't know when is a good time to do so.
gg
Posted by Dogsandcats (Member # 28544) on :
When I was in a place like you are my sister gave me the best advice.... You will know when it is time to do something.
It was so true. When the time came, I knew it was time for me to separate from him and keep the kids safe. Divorce did follow.
It wasn't easy, but the difference was I believe God was guiding me.
Take good care of you....will keep you in my prayers.
Posted by Arkie-hinny (Member # 26546) on :
Hang in there girl!!!! You've got a good support group here and we have your back.
Posted by lou (Member # 81) on :
This is your decision, not ours. We just want you to be in a good situation.
Posted by momindeep (Member # 7618) on :
Trust will not return, until genuine forgiveness is extended.
Posted by Laura_W (Member # 31491) on :
Prayers and strength being sent your way. No matter what desicions are made... we are here for you.
For me, when I considered divorce it was an emotional rollercoaster... I thought about it, but it took a few years before I finally took action.
What is meant to be will be. I am wishing you and your children the best. I am glad that you found the strength to voice your feelings and thoughts... GOOD FOR YOU!!!!!!
No matter what, we are here for you. Stay safe, and continue to stand up for yourself. You have already done more than I was able to do.
Hugs, Laura
Posted by kidsgotlyme (Member # 23691) on :
Praying for you Geneal... Posted by just don (Member # 1129) on :
Point of clarification,,is he away from home on the road selling something all week. In general of course.
And are you like on summer break from school for now?
So what time of the day or night is he thru working for the day? And where does he stay?Hotels or motels? Different place each night?
Its a good thing you were able to clear some air last weekend. Does he call the kids every night? Its a good thing his kjds are priority now.
IF you two can work things out that is certainly the best course to take. If it smells like three day old fish it probably is!! Hopefully it smells like 3 day old roses.
Would a good old family vacation help things get better?? If no week time even a fun weekend to amusement park, water park, or even zoo for all 4 of you to do together.
So basicly what you have said is he has completely and totaly changed his mind??? And wants to stay as husband and father??
In this coming of age has he said 'anything' about treating his possible co's and or lyme? Or is he still denying ??
take care,
Posted by Mindy159 (Member # 31149) on :
I've heard one too many flower stories...
Best wishes to you and your family.
Posted by karenl (Member # 17753) on :
I would also need a year to make a decision. But he could use the time to transfer your savings and also take out loans, sell things....
Try to get information about divorce from local groups ... to prevent financial problems. You need to know the facts.
Or try to find a group online to get financial advice from other divorced women. You cannot risk a financial problem. Stay cool but get prepared for all alternatives.
Wish you stay strong.
Posted by kam (Member # 3410) on :
Good to hear from you. For some reason I am thinking of what they told me at the domestic shelter.
The cycle of abuse
Honeymoon period Tension Release of tension
Back to honeymoon period
I know i don't have the words for the cycle right...guess I need to do a search on the computer
Abuse is not always just physical...emotional is the worse.
Posted by kam (Member # 3410) on :
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