Hi, I will give a brief history, for those that I have not told yet.
Throughout my illness, my husband has been my support, both financially and emotionally. He has taken on the burden of paying for my treatment. We do not have insurance. He has given up so much. We have our struggles, as any family dealing with chronic illness does, but we are a family, and we will face this together.
We do not have a lot of money, as it all seems to go to the doctor. I have been totally disabled from this illness. I do not get out of bed many days, nor leave the house most days. We are young and have 2 children, 13 and 3. Our life has been severely altered, as you all know too well.
Anyways, I want to do something for him that shows him how much I appreciate him. He is very practical, and not a lovey dovey kind of a person. Any ideas? Nothing expensive, just thoughtful. I can tell him how much I appreciate him until I am blue in the face, but gestures are bigger to him than words. For you that are the caregiver, what would be special to you?
Thanks you, in advance.
Posted by James1979 (Member # 31926) on :
That is so wonderful that you love your husband so much, and that you have a good relationship!! It brought a tear to my eye.
My opinion would be a heart-shaped "box" of chocolates. Dark chocolate is better than milk chocolate, if you can find it.
Hopefully others will give you better opinions than mine! May God bless your beautiful relationship.
Posted by searching4truth (Member # 28481) on :
My Grandma always said the way to a man's heart is through his stomach! Chocolates are a great idea. It is a gift that keeps giving, because I love chocolate!
I DO love my husband. But my illness has put a major strain on my marriage. So that is why I want to do something for him. I am very stubborn, and am determined to come out the other side stronger, wiser, and hopefully a little more relaxed!
Thanks for the great idea.
Posted by James1979 (Member # 31926) on :
quote:Originally posted by searching4truth: My Grandma always said the way to a man's heart is through his stomach!
LOL! You grandma's saying makes it look like most men are hedonistic.
Too bad it's usually true! Posted by seibertneurolyme (Member # 6416) on :
Does he have any hobbies? A new power tool or a fishing lure would probably be appreciated if those were his interests.
I know that the one thing I splurge on in our budget is I always have to have something to read.
Or maybe he is into music? A new CD or movie should be affordable.
Bea Seibert
Posted by Lymetoo (Member # 743) on :
All of those suggestions are good! Are you able to write a few sentences of heartfelt thanks along with it?
To marriage! Posted by kam (Member # 3410) on :
What are his likes? I am reminded of a mtg I attended a long time ago.
The speaker talked about the different ways a person accepts and receives love.
it was an eye opener for me. He explained how when his wife was sick he thought he was showing love by cleaning the house, making the meals, etc.
But, the way she received love would have been if he had just spent time with her.
My first thought was if I had someone who was sick all the time like I am and bedridden was to give them the gift to get away from it all for the weekend.
Here one can go camping fairly cheaply if you have the equipment and like the great outdoors.
There are several places a person can camp without having to pay a campground fee.
Posted by James1979 (Member # 31926) on :
Yeah, tools are a GREAT idea! Especially if he's a handyman.
Another good tool idea is a foldable pocket knife, or a swiss knife if he likes having a bunch of gadgets all together. Just make sure it's lightweight if he doesn't like heavy things in his pocket.
Posted by randibear (Member # 11290) on :
does he watch movies?' buying a movie that he likes is something both of you can do
Posted by Lymetoo (Member # 743) on :
quote:Originally posted by kam: He explained how when his wife was sick he thought he was showing love by cleaning the house, making the meals, etc.
- Would someone please send that man over here ASAP!!?? Posted by James1979 (Member # 31926) on :
Tutu - it was just a figure of speech. No man actually cleans the house. Posted by Lymetoo (Member # 743) on :
Sure they do! But not MINE!! Posted by randibear (Member # 11290) on :
mine neither. He refers to the kitchen as that room with the beer holder (frig).
Posted by lou (Member # 81) on :
If you don't know what to get but have an idea of where he would like to browse in his area of interests, you could see if that place would have a gift card, so he could choose it himself.
Or if you know of something he has wanted but not gotten, go for that.
Posted by searching4truth (Member # 28481) on :
These are all wonderful ideas! Thank you!!
Posted by Susie R (Member # 30780) on :
How about time off? A getaway with his buddies or something like that? Maybe get some help with the kids so he can go off?
I'm a caregiver for my disbaled young adult son, and the thing I need more than anything is a couple of days to myself.
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May God bless your beautiful relationship.
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