- BettyG has a heart of gold and that heart of hers is really hurting now.
Many of you may remember BettyG, who posted here at LymeNet for many years, especially helping those new to lyme find information and resources.
A couple years ago, she hopped over to another forum, MDJunction (their lyme forum), posting as Bettyg, continuing with her advocacy for those with lyme / TBD.
We keep in touch from time to time and she just me an email with very sad news. It's taken me two days to write up my own note for it, though the delay is not likely to result in any time sensitive matters.
Any thoughts / wishes can be posted here, or if you are registered at MDJunction, over there. I just could not find a specific thread there. I'm not registered there and it seems one must be to see a member's posting history.
I will send her this thread's link so she can read any well wishes those who remember her may wish to place here.
There is also the option of posting condolences at the link below. But I could not figure that out, exactly. -
Posted by Keebler (Member # 12673) on :
- In the early evening of Thursday, November 13:
BettyG writes that her husband of 40 years, Jack, "The love of my life - died tonight"
. . . A celebration of life was held Wednesday, Nov. 19th in Ames, Iowa .
Jack had been living in a residential care center for many months . . . with hospice assistance ("many hospice folks in every category came; very nice/helpful folks"). . . .
He had been in seriously ill health for several years with multiple conditions that brought both challenges and deepening of love to the couple.
A full obituary and online condolences may be found at
Very sorry to hear. I hope she will be OK. Really tough to lose a spouse. I know she was very dedicated to him.
Posted by TF (Member # 14183) on :
Very sorry to hear this. I will remember Betty in my prayers. Dear Lord, comfort her!
Posted by poppy (Member # 5355) on :
Very sorry to hear it. Tell her we miss her and send our condolences and hugs.
Posted by Robin123 (Member # 9197) on :
Yes, Betty - we send you our love and support during this time. I know how close you have been with your husband.
Posted by Tincup (Member # 5829) on :
You are in my prayers.
Posted by randibear (Member # 11290) on :
sorry to hear this.
Posted by Pocono Lyme (Member # 5939) on :
I'm sorry for your loss Betty. I remember the sympathy poems that you posted here years back.
The one that always comes to mind is I'm spending Christmas with Jesus this year. I'm not sure if that's the exact title.
Hugs Betty. May the Lord comfort you during this time.
Posted by Carol in PA (Member # 5338) on :
Betty, I am so sorry about your husband's death. Please take care of yourself.
Wishing you the best, Carol
Posted by Silverwolf (Member # 9196) on :
Dearest <<<<< BettyG >>>>>,
Holding you in our hearts and prayers.
So very sorry for your loss.
Jus' Silverwolfi and TxCoord too.
Posted by hopingandpraying (Member # 9256) on :
Dear Betty,
My deepest sympathy to you on the loss of your beloved husband. Please find comfort in knowing he is no longer suffering, even though your heart is aching.
Here is the lovely "I'm Spending Christmas in Heaven with Jesus" poem which you sent out countless times to others for comfort. Now, be blessed by the Lord and comforted too.
Christmas in Heaven by Wanda Bencke
I see the countless Christmas trees around the world below With tiny lights, like Heaven's stars, reflecting on the snow.
The sight is so spectacular, please wipe away the tear For I am spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.
I hear the many Christmas songs that people hold so dear But the sounds of music can't compare with the Christmas choir up here.
I have no words to tell you, the joy their voices bring, For it is beyond description, to hear the angels sing.
I know how much you miss me, I see the pain inside your heart But I am not so far away, we really aren't apart.
So be happy for me, dear ones, you know I hold you dear. And be glad I'm spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.
I sent you each a special gift, from my heavenly home above. I sent you each a memory of my undying love.
After all, love is a gift more precious than pure gold It was always most important in the stories Jesus told.
Please love and keep each other, as my Father said to do For I can't count the blessings or love He has for each of you.
So have a Merry Christmas and wipe away that tear Remember, I am spending Christmas with Jesus Christ this year.
Posted by joalo (Member # 12752) on :
Betty I'm so sorry for your loss. You and your family will be in my prayers. Posted by Keebler (Member # 12673) on :
- Betty emails that she is very touched by your kind notes. They mean a lot to her right now and she wanted me to convey her thanks.
She also clarified some detail that seems very puzzling to me, actually, in a couple different ways but there seems little help now in adding my bewilderment:
"he died of Stage 4 Cancer . . . lung, liver -- and death certificate said thought to be metastatic COLON cancer!! he died 2 days after DIAGNOSIS! He had no cancer prior.
in nursing home 8 months; sick since march 20." (end Betty's quote) -
Posted by Dekrator48 (Member # 18239) on :
Betty,
I am very sorry for your loss.
May God comfort you in the days ahead.
Praying for you to receive peace, hope and strength.
Posted by Rumigirl (Member # 15091) on :
quote:Originally posted by Keebler: - Betty emails that she is very touched by your kind notes. They mean a lot to her right now and she wanted me to convey her thanks.
She also clarified some detail that seems very puzzling to me, actually, in a couple different ways but there seems little help now in adding my bewilderment:
"he died of Stage 4 Cancer . . . lung, liver -- and death certificate said thought to be metastatic COLON cancer!! he died 2 days after DIAGNOSIS! He had no cancer prior.
in nursing home 8 months; sick since march 20." (end Betty's quote) -
Keebler, maybe they doctors didn't diagnose him correctly until then?? Or maybe in her grief, she either made a typo, or some other mistake. Heaven knows, it happens to most of us without that kind of grief!
Posted by Rumigirl (Member # 15091) on :
BettyG,
I am so sorry to hear of your loss of your beloved husband. It seems like an unimaginable loss when you have been together so long.
May you find peace and comfort in the great love you shared, which NEVER dies. Please ask for help and caring from those who care about you in this difficult time.
Posted by LisaK (Member # 41384) on :
so sorry for your loss.
God bless
___
Posted by Keebler (Member # 12673) on :
- Rumigirl,
No typo on this from Betty but certainly does indicate some major "issues" with medical assessments being missed, misdiagnosis, etc.
Yet, it's not really all that uncommon to hear that someone had advanced cancer only detected at the last minute when other conditions were concurrent (if that is the proper use of the word). Not that other diagnoses weren't "there" perhaps (or symptoms too quickly got jumbled into diagnoses?), it is just that doctors maybe did not delve deeper. Or that it could be so elusive.
Surely sad, though, as for family who wonder "what if . . . " those thoughts can be a huge burden on their grieving. -
Posted by steve1906 (Member # 16206) on :
Betty, I'm so sorry about your husband's passing, he's in a better place now!
Take care of yourself.
Steve
Posted by mlg (Member # 35383) on :
Betty, I'm sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you.
Posted by Keebler (Member # 12673) on :
- A friend with a background in nursing told me this evening that sometimes cancers can grow very fast so my assumption of a medical overlook may have been unwarranted. It's important to correct that - or at least consider the possibility.
Also to consider that a sudden diagnosis at the eleventh hour in someone so ill with multiple conditions could spare them the pain and suffering of a harsh intense treatment that may not have been in time, anyway.
She worded it much better than that, though. I will recheck my wording tomorrow to be sure it reads as kindly (ly?) as possible. -
Posted by MADDOG (Member # 18) on :
Hang in there Betty. I know this is a tuff time for you. Will be thinking of you.
MADDOG
Posted by kreynolds (Member # 15117) on :
Betty,
My wife and I are so sorry for your loss. Words
cannot express how deeply sorry we are that you
are going through this. I remember when I was
new to Lymenet.... you were always there for
my wife and I, no matter how silly the question
might have been. Just know, that we have been
thinking about you over the years. You will
always be in our prayers and WE MISS YOU! Once
again, we are so sorry for your loss.
Your Friends,
Roy & Katie
Posted by kreynolds (Member # 15117) on :
Thanks for posting this Keebler.. We have been thinking about her for quite some time. Much appreciated!
Posted by randibear (Member # 11290) on :
my husband's friend has a physical. was told he was in good health. month later died of pancreatic cancer.
Posted by Robin123 (Member # 9197) on :
I just watched an online 11-episode series on natural ways to heal cancer. It's available online, "Ongoing quest for the cures," hosted by Ty Bollinger. Excellent info for those even in late stage to turn it around, and tremendous info for avoiding it.
I think it would have been too late for Betty's husband, but there is still hope if cancer is far along to turn it around with natural treatments.
Posted by paulieinct (Member # 17514) on :
Dear Betty<
My deepest condolences to you on your loss. May your memories sustain you. You mean a lot to so many here, and you are thought of often and with great fondness. Your friend, -Paulie
Posted by Keebler (Member # 12673) on :
- Betty asks me to convey her deepest appreciation for the tender & heartfelt wishes from all, truly. Reading them has been a touching experience for her and she wanted to be sure you each get somewhat of a proper "Thank You!" -
Posted by jlcd1 (Member # 18138) on :
My thoughts and prayers are with her.
Posted by Jane2904 (Member # 15917) on :
Betty so sorry for your loss of your dear husband.
My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Posted by Eight Legs Bad (Member # 13680) on :
I'd just like to mention that on the day that Betty found out her husband was dying, she asked others to take over her volunteer role helping people on Lyme forums find a doctor.
Even at such a terrible moment in her own life, she was thinking about others, showing concern and compassion for people she did not even know.
Betty is a great asset to the Lyme community, and a fine human being.
Elena
Posted by mtree (Member # 14305) on :
Bettyg,
So very sorry for your loss.
mtree
Posted by kam (Member # 3410) on :
Thinking of you Betty G
Posted by farraday (Member # 21494) on :
Betty, our friend, We all grieve for you, and with you. You are not alone. I cared for my husband at home with our 3 young children. We had wonderful hospice support. He died in our bed. I felt my world had ended. My younger son climbed into bed with me. He told me recently that he made me watch I Love Lucy. He said that when he saw me crying and laughing at the same time he knew I'd be ok...and that he, too, would be ok. You will be ok, Betty. We'll be here for you...always.
My deepest sympathy. Farraday
Posted by aklnwlf (Member # 5960) on :
You and yours are in my thoughts and prayers BettyG.
Posted by Andie333 (Member # 7370) on :
Betty, I wanted to also say how sorry I was to hear about your husband. This is such a huge loss, and I'll keep you and your family both in my thoughts and prayers.
Posted by tdtid (Member # 10276) on :
I don't tend to come here any more, but thought I would drop in for old times sake.
Yes, I remember Betty and so very sorry to hear of her loss. I'll drop her an email.
Thanks for letting us know, Keebler
Posted by lymewreck36 (Member # 4395) on :
Moved back from Switzerland last year and spent 12 months settling in. Now I returned to lymenet after my long absence and see this post. So sorry to hear of this. Betty G. was always so supportive. My condolences. Hugs.
Posted by Keebler (Member # 12673) on :
- A recent email from Betty - (as she no longer posts here at LymeNet yet has read the notes left here for her) she asks to extend her true appreciation for such kind words from so many good souls -- and for stories of how others managed to come out the other side.
farraday, really touching story about your young son knowing then that if he could get you to laugh why you cried, you'd be okay - and so would he.
[ 01-15-2015, 06:55 PM: Message edited by: Keebler ]
Posted by phyl6648 (Member # 28522) on :
Dearest Bettyg, so sorry to hear of your loss. I just lost my husband, soul mate and the love of my life Oct.7 2014.. We would have been married 32 years this Valentines day. I can feel your heartache and most of every emotion and physical pain you are going through. I am alone as the children, grans are away or so busy with their life and problems they haven't time and I understand as I am a wreck and on a heck of a roller coaster ride. My prayers and if you ever need a shoulder I am a pm away..
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