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Originally posted by randibear:


Somebody jus keeps flushing the toilet and I'm in it.....

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Hey, I don't even drink, but this calls for a six-pack!
 

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Posted by linky123 (Member # 19974) on :
 
Yep, a six pack might just be the answer.
 

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Posted by Keebler (Member # 12673) on :
 
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Oh, I'd say call a white linen gourmet meal delivery, complete with a fine wine and luscious dessert.

A livery service to get you where you want to go - it's not quite up there with a chauffer arrangement (although it can be, depends upon the vehicle they use) but a nice step up from a taxi. Many cities with airports have livery companies.

Charge it to those who leave you without transportation or not take your logistics into mind when they work out their own.

Do it up in style, m' dear.
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Posted by MADDOG (Member # 18) on :
 
Talk about the flu!! EEEKKKK!!!!!

I was just at the family christmas Eve get together.

10 people were there 7 of them had the flu.

And my natural killer cell count is only 8 yep 8.

Going there was worse than shooting myself in the foot!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

EEEEEKKKKK!EEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEKKKK!!!!!!

MADDOG
 

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Posted by SEREN J WEED (Member # 7280) on :
 
Poor Randibear!! I'm with lpkayak, siting here feeling sorry for myself. But after hearing Randi and MADDOG'S misery I feel very lucky to be alone even though I can't do any booze.

Happy Holidays to all!!!
 

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Posted by randibear (Member # 11290) on :
 
Great...his stepmom fell. Has brain bleed. Went to hospital at 1:30 this morning.

Uncle can't make sister's dinner. Another sister has drama going on. So other sister tells me well show up or not....

Damn we drove 1100 miles. Friday sister says she's recuperating and cant see me other one says I have to work.

We're leaving sunday. Hey don't inconvenience yourself on my account. Id hate to put you out....
 

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Posted by lpkayak (Member # 5230) on :
 
What happened to maddog? I thought he was happy howling at the moon


And honestly i wasnt really feeling sorry for my self...i am facing the reality that this is a new phase in my life...the hermit, curmudgeon phase. And its ok.

I was only about 50% yesterday(25 th) and i would have been ok just hangin out wit books and movies and etta.

But a friend who does a lot for me really wanted a crowd so i went over thinking i could handle a two hour dinner

There were no clocks to be found and i didnt listen to my body...and stayed too long-made an awkward exit...and have been sleeping now for 16 hrs and not ready to get up-not sure how many days it will take to get over this

I woke up with the answer of what i will put into the relationship with my kids...and if anything more happens i will consider it icing on the cake

Im in the hunkering down time...and im close to the ocean where i always wanted to be. I just have to enjoy...
 

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Posted by Keebler (Member # 12673) on :
 
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lpkayak,

You say you are: "facing the reality that this is a new phase in my life...the hermit, curmudgeon phase." (end quote)

Please do not make the potentially soul crushing (yours and others) assumption that a hermit (due to circumstances of health) must also become a curmudgeon. You may not have a lot to say about one but you can resist the other.

You can have all kinds of choices, including eccentric ones. Have some fun, try on other styles, even if you aren't the life of the party or just can't handle being around all the energy of others. That's taking care of yourself to know that and find your own quieter places.

The cloak of a curmudgeon can put the damper on creativity at a time when you could pull out all the stops.

Still, that does not mean you have to be around a lot of people. You don't have to go over the top. Even if alone a lot of the time, there are ways, as you found, to make sure there are elements of life around that are important to you. You don't have to dance around but can simply savor whatever delights you - drink it in - in your own unique style.
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[ 12-26-2014, 05:21 PM: Message edited by: Keebler ]
 

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Posted by lpkayak (Member # 5230) on :
 
Your right keeb. Lately my reactions to a lot of stuff are curmudgeon like...i feel a bitterness about what has happened to my life...i lash out at others...im mad at almost the whole medical esrablishment...

I have been fighting lyme half my life and i wasnt like this until recently. Im just worn out i guess.

But even so...i do find joy during day. Usually acting foolusg with etta. Sometimes after i accomplish something small. Like organizing my counters or closet. Or finding i have something a needy friend can really use

I still do the positive stuff. The super negative stuff is new to me...i hope it will go away
 

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Posted by Keebler (Member # 12673) on :
 
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Your last line: "The super negative stuff is new to me...i hope it will go away" (end quote)


Well, it is not likely to just go away. It's calling for your attention.

It is important to identify and face, attend to whatever (all) there is behind curmudgeon "behavior" or impulses, or even just what we may label "negative" -- emotions are emotions.

We have to honor how we are feeling & not run away or push it down. To let it fester can really turn us into a nightmare, even to our surprise, often at the most inopportune times or with people we hold dear.

Other than self-hurt, curmudgeon "behavior" is also rejecting and abusing others around us.

I do think it's possible to acknowledge all hardship, tough emotional issues we face - in realistic perspective - and not let it turn us inside out, though. We Can't let it take away the very soul of us.

Sometimes, it's enough to notice "oh, THAT's where that's coming from" and we can thank the part / aspect of our psyche for bringing it to our attention & understanding -- AND then we put another aspect of ourselves in the driver's seat, so to speak.

We can be aware of all kinds of rough & tumble emotions and still not allow them to drive us off the road.

This is where a good LL therapist can help.

Sometimes, a LL ND can, too, as it's pretty amazing how certain nutrient deficiencies can turn us into alien beings. Even just low blood sugar does that to me !
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Posted by Robin123 (Member # 9197) on :
 
You know, related to this discussion, I just saw the movie "Night at the Museum," starring Ben Stiller, Robin Williams as Teddy Roosevelt, and more well-known cast.

And what I realized they were all doing was slaying or taming dragons, as the creatures in the museums came to life. Lots of dragons. And they had to come up with creative ways to deal with them, like at the sink or swim level.

Perhaps same here - to come up with solutions that successfully fight back against our Lyme dragons.

Agree with Keebler, that being alone is not necessarily a bad thing, if we can make some of that time quality time for us, as we can.
 

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Posted by linky123 (Member # 19974) on :
 
Hey randi, you home yet?
 

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Posted by randibear (Member # 11290) on :
 
yeah just got home. tell you about it later.

it's so nice to have peace and quiet
 

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Posted by linky123 (Member # 19974) on :
 
Glad you made it.
 

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Posted by Ann-OH (Member # 2020) on :
 
I love Ohio, so saying you should never, never come back is hard to do.

But in your case it seems like the best advice I could give, while hoping you love where you are and find peace and joy in Texas!

A Happy New Year hug,
Ann - OH
 

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Posted by randibear (Member # 11290) on :
 
Yeah when you have families like ours its best to stay awhile. When I say I aint never going back for. Christmas I dang well mean it. You'd have to.be a masochist to put up with them.

Next year I'm going on a cruise for a couple of weeks.
 

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