Topic: IT'S NOT WHAT YOU SAY...IT'S HOW YOU SAY IT!
Tracy9
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For God's sake, can people just TRY and word things more politely???
If we eliminate "always," "never", "there is no such thing", "that doesn't work", "you're wrong", and "you have to " for starters,
WOW!!! That would be progress.
I for one am way too sick and exhausted to have any kind of fight, so while I DO admire the energy some of you have...
Enough already of the foot stomping, chest thumping, grandstandng ****ing contests!!!
Everyone has wonderful opinions and points of view. They can certainly all be heard!!!
Is it so hard to start by saying, "In my opinion" "In my experience" "Just my two cents" "I was under the impression that" "It seems for me that" "It's my belief that" "I feel" "I think" "What I see is" "With all due respect" "Studies have shown" "My feeling on that is"
I mean, c'mon guys, it's not what you say, it's how you say it.
Do people have to be rude? Authoritarian? Controlling? Force their opinions down everyone's throats? Argumentative?
I just want to hear what you have to say. I don't need to be told how right you are. Let me decide for myself.
13 years Lyme & Co.; Small Fiber Neuropathy; Myasthenia Gravis, Adrenal Insufficiency. On chemo for 2 1/2 years as experimental treatment for MG. Posts: 4480 | From Northeastern Connecticut | Registered: Jun 2005
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Tracy9
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I guess you can't say ****ing contests here. Let me rephrase; substitute "urinating contests."
13 years Lyme & Co.; Small Fiber Neuropathy; Myasthenia Gravis, Adrenal Insufficiency. On chemo for 2 1/2 years as experimental treatment for MG. Posts: 4480 | From Northeastern Connecticut | Registered: Jun 2005
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A very good doc told hubby to beware of docs that use the phrases ALWAYS and NEVER. People are different and there is just too much unknown about the human body and medicine.
I want my doc to be willing to admit I DON"T KNOW if he doesn't understand or can't explain something.
A doc who says "MOST OF MY PATIENTS EVENTUALLY GET BETTER" is a keeper. I would run in the other direction if they claim "ALL OF MY PATIENTS DO BETTER ON SUCH AND SUCH TREATMENT."
Just my two cents.
Bea Seibert
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Well put Tracy9!
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Tracy9
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Bea, Very well said, and excellent point!
Cobweb, Though I don't usually do it, yes I guess I was shouting....after sifting through so many posts with so much negativity.....yes, I guess I was!! But not at you, I lOVE your posts!!!
13 years Lyme & Co.; Small Fiber Neuropathy; Myasthenia Gravis, Adrenal Insufficiency. On chemo for 2 1/2 years as experimental treatment for MG. Posts: 4480 | From Northeastern Connecticut | Registered: Jun 2005
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Greatcod
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Well, I accept that I am a Negative Nelson. I don't understand why asking difficult questions about alternative treatments is negative. Some people here use the "negative" thing to label anyone who asks hard questions or offers another perspective on what they claim to be true.
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Along with the words that have been mentioned others are:
Good, Bad, Wrong, Right, Should, Shouldn't all have the potential to control, block and hurt people.
Saying all of that:
Sometimes I do my best to listen to peoples hearts rather than their words. It is called "GRACE", kinda like a grace period at work. My expereinces tell me that most everyone here are passionate about getting well and helping others get well.
Sometimes due to the passion it comes across in a critical nature.
This is a brain storming format that usually works well.
I believe Lymenet is a wonderful place for learning. It still works well most of the time.
I have no idea where I would be without the help of so many.
I would not know about the power of Magnesium, Rife, Herbs, Herx's, Side affects, Bryan's books, Scott's {better health guy| expertise or Gigi's expereinces. There are so many that I have learned from.
I appreciate the diffence of opinions. It offers me an opportunity to grow.
{although there are times I want to take the confusion away and have someone tell me what to do.}
I think the only absolute to Lyme is there are NO absolutes.
The wealth of knowledge on this board is truly a gift form God.
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It has been difficult enough being caught in the middle of the *******ing match between members of the medical community. I really don't want to stand in the middle here too.
onthemend
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