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Topic: how do you "get out of" doing something??

randibear
Honored Contributor (10K+ posts)
Member # 11290

posted

i can't go into a lot of detail but geneal you know what i'm talking about.

soooo, how do you get out of doing something you really don't want to do without bringing up the lyme.

cause if you do and say lyme, then all heck is going to break loose...so you absolutely can't say anything about your health, lyme, etc...

i need a good excuse, a real good one....

and please don't say be honest, i'm sorry, it won't work...yep, i know it's the best policy, but in this case, it ain't!!!

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cbb
Frequent Contributor (1K+ posts)
Member # 788

posted

Don't know exactly what you need but this is what I do.

Tell the person -
It's so difficult to say "no" but with all the responsibilites I have on me right now, I don't have time to do the job justice.

It wouldn't be fair to you or the group if I accepted knowing that I wouldn't have the time to do it right.
I truly am sorry I have to say no.

Not only are you being truthful, you don't have to explain.

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catskillmamala
LymeNet Contributor
Member # 12536

posted

Invent a conflict.

Calculate the carbon impact savings of not participating.

Find another way to participate--something like "I'd really like to spend time with you but there will be so many people at the shower, so maybe we could go to lunch next week."

Posts: 524 | From Hudson Valley, NY | Registered: Jul 2007 | IP: Logged |

randibear
Honored Contributor (10K+ posts)
Member # 11290

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well unfortunately, it's a trip that my HUSBAND wants to take to see his daughter....

arrghhhh, i don't want to go...

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cbb
Frequent Contributor (1K+ posts)
Member # 788

posted

Sorry.
I wasn't even close.

Don't have an easy solution to that one.

[group hug]

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Curiouser
LymeNet Contributor
Member # 14128

posted

Considering your recent loss and family conflict, you could always try using that.

Tell him you're still too stressed and in emotional pain to deal with a road trip and what you need right now is some quiet time at home.

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catskillmamala
LymeNet Contributor
Member # 12536

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How about going and really trying to do all the things you need to do to make it ok?

Like bringing ear plugs, like going but not doing any sightseeing, bring videos or good books so you can read? Rent a hotel room so you have your own space.

Is there something you can trade with him for since it seems to be important to him--like driving you and going to your next doctors appointment? Or buying a sauna (just kidding).

Good luck.

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Geneal
Frequent Contributor (5K+ posts)
Member # 10375

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Be sick. Really, really sick.

That shouldn't be too much of a stretch. [Frown]

I just tell my sisters, husband and Mom now that I can't do this or that.

I don't explain it other than saying I am not physically able to right now.

With my husband it takes more convincing. [shake]

Like being in the bathroom for a while and saying how sick I am/was.

He doesn't push any issues then. He is more afraid of catching something from me.

I am not a fan of being untruthful.....just sometimes a slight exaggeration of that

Truth works for me. Just because I wasn't throwing up or having loose bowels

In the bathroom doesn't mean I don't really feel sick. [Smile]

Besides, where else can I get any reading done without interruptions?

Hugs,

Geneal

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hurtingramma
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Member # 7770

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Good one Geneal! [Big Grin]

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