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Hang in there. I never knew your mom but was always very moved and touched by your posts about her when she was so ill. I cried when I heard she had passed away....and even my husband got teared up.
Sending prayers your way and love.
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Dear Randi,
She is there with you. In your heart, your memories and in spirit.
I am so sorry for your loss.
I've got a shoulder to lean on whenever you need to.
Hugs,
Geneal
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randi,
i used to go out and sit in the middle of our large back yard and talk to mom, dad, my sister, and my sister-in-law. it always feels so good, and i feel their presence!
it will be 18 yrs. july 22 for my beloved mom!!!
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I'm so sorry. Just seeing that header made me want to cry. I hope you can find some solace from your friends here, or from just knowing how many have read your posts about your Mom and witnessed your love for her.
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RandiBear,
Losing a parent is soooo darn hard. Sadly, I know after I lost my dad, as much as I know everyone WANTS to know just the right words to say to make you feel better, the sad cold fact is that what would make you feel better is to have your mom back.
It's so hard and goes so much deeper when it's feeling like you are losing part of your own roots. It sounds like you were very close and I know the habit of wanting to pick up the phone to call is a hard one.
Please know we are here for you and keep her close to your heart. I know she's watching over you right now and she doesn't want her daughter sad.
Cathy
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I wish you blessings, beautiful memories, and peace.
The pain of loss is difficult to bear. Betty's advice is great, just talk with your Mom. There is much we don't know about our next life, and I'd like to think everyone who has gone before is cheering us on. Still, we miss them terribly.
After my Mom passed away, I saw someone in the store from behind who looked like her and actually took a few steps to tap her on the shoulder. Realized in time that it wasn't her, but I was surprised as how our minds replay the past.
You'll pick up the phone again to call her, that's ok and normal. Also, I found through the years that when you've had deep sadness, and something else happens, that old sadness will compound it. That's also normal.
Don't let others ideas hamper your recovery. Do whatever makes you feel comforted and gives you peace. That's different for each of us. Wishing you showers of blessings!
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I lost my Dad over 15 years ago and I still miss him so much!
What I find comforting is the feeling that he is around and he can still hear me if I need to talk or I believe I feel his presence when I ask for it.
I also have little things that remind me of him. One is a butterfly...long story
So when I see one I think "Dad's saying hi" What you really believe about that doesn't matter...it's still comforting.
My son never knew him but if he sees a butterfly he says "Hi Grandpa!" So it's neat that he has this connection to him even though he hasn't known him.
Hang in there....
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Randi, My heart truly goes out to you. My dearest friend lost her mother 5 yrs ago and I have been there through all of the different emotions that it brings.
She was 35 when she lost her Mom. What I have learned is that no matter what age you may be it's never easy.
I use to cut and style this amazing woman who was in her 70's. She was worldly, smart,funny,filled with lots of stories and kind. I loved her.
One day she said to me as we were talking that she misses her Mother. I stopped what I was doing and put it down and stood infront of her and listened.
It never occured to me that someone of her age and a Mother herself could she still long and miss her Mother in the ways that she did.
I have always been an extremely sensitive and deep person but that conversation with her made me understand it on a deeper level.
She taught me a valuable lesson that day, one of many.
Randi, I wish you peace with the memories you have of your Mother a smile along with those thoughts.
Lymetoo, your Mother and I have the same birthday so I will say a prayer for her each year.
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I understand what you are going through. I lost my mom just about two years ago (8/2/06). She was 95. My dad died when I was ten. He was 68. His birthday is coming up August 11.
I still find myself wanting to talk to my mom and ask her questions,. There were so many things she knew and most of them died with her.
I still grieve for both my parents on occasion. It does get easier, but it never goes away.
Perhaps your new dog will help you get through some of the rough times. I know my dogs bring me great joy and comfort.
Even on my worst days, when I am in bed almost all day, I have one lying next to me, snuggling up and waiting for a belly rub or just to be petted.
Hang in there. We are all thinking of you.
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