Topic: Anyone choose to get rid of your cats? I did today. Am Sad : (: *
springshowers
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I got two new kittens about 4 years ago. They turned out to have LONG LONG Hair. They were only like 5 weeks old when i got them.
I love them.
But ..
Lately the issues that surround my home (tons of cat hair and dander and litter dust).
Along with the fact that I am not really well enough to give them all they need too..
Along with the fear of Toxoplasmosis and Bartonella which were the first things I also got when i was really sick.
I just felt I could not keep up with them and the issues at hand in a healthy way..
They shed a ton and they are so fluffy.. I tried to shave one of them once and it did not work out too well..
I feel horrible..
I have visions of giving them up to the shelter. I put them up in various places this year to give away online on the adoption sites and did not get a single call.
Luckily they do not kill anymore at shelters and work with the no kill shelters and foster homes.
Also i can call up and look to see if they were adopted.
Ughhhhhhhhhhhhhh I keep crying.. This is so agsinst my grain. I have adopted and taken in so many animals through the years.
I have NEVER done such a thing...
I really feel it is best.. but it feels horrible.
Yes there are much much worse things in this world and with this disease.. but..
This is emotional..
I do have a dog left.
I had Two twins and one died about 6 years ago so I got my male a new girl .. Then the male died of old age this last year..
So i have one dog and she very has short hair and sheds very little.
She also can be put outside.
THANKS for listening..
I wondered if anyone else had to do this??
Maybe sharing will help my tears..
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Sweetie, I am so sorry for you pain. I wish there was something I could do for you. I can't imagine what you are going through...
yes as you said there is worse things going on in the world...but this is YOUR world and it's hard. We (lymies) have already had to give up so much that its just seems so unfair--like they say lifes not fair--yeah, like we don't know it-hum
I know it probably won't help much but I am sure they are beautiful Cats and since you are working with a no kill shelter I am SURE they will find them a loving home.
I just want you to know you are in my prayers.
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I'm so sorry that you had to give up your cats. Those of us with TBI's experience so many losses, it can be overwelming at times. Just allow yourself to grieve...there's no way around it. If a friend can come for a visit, that would be good for you.
You're in my thoughts.
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HUGS HUGS HUGS! I know this must be devastating for you. I completely feel your pain. I can't even imagine what you are going through.
((((HUGS))))
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springshowers
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You are all so sweet.. I felt bad posting this.. We have so much to deal with.. and this is not such a huge deal in the scope of things.
but i sure feel horrible about it.
They gave me their number and I can call to see if they got adopted. I feel sad they will be split up most likely too.. .. Ughhh..
I get attached to animals.
But I do think I had to do this..... sadly
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Oh 'showers, how sad. I've had to do that one time (so far) in my life and I NEVER want to do it again! I felt so guilty and just cried and cried...
My heart goes out to you.
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randibear
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i feel for you. my baby died about 4 years ago and i am still grieving.
i think i'd rather give up my husband than a pet!!! i miss her every single day.
i just couldn't do it, and i'm so sorry you have to go through this.
the pain is just, well, excruciating, i know.
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joalo
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I totally understand! Our pets are part of the family.
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MADDOG
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I allmost lost my lizard named peaches about 7 months ago.
I put her in the tub in warm water and rubed her,and she started breathing again.
Lizard CPR
5 foot long Iguana that likes peaches,and chasing my hand out of the cage snapping at me .
She is 7 years old.
MADDOG
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springshowers
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Ugh..
I miss them..
I am second guessing myself...
But.
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kam
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That amazes me about your lizard Maddog. First time I have heard of lizard CPR.
I had a cat be friend me when I first started IV. Then I got the service dog and the cat left home.
When I was getting ready to move, the cat showed up but wouldn't come close to me.
That was a special cat and I wished I had worked it out so I could have kept her.
But, like you, I was too sick at the time to do what was needed to have the dog and cat learn to live together.
I think of getting another cat, but kittens can be too much for us.
Perhaps when you are better you can try it again.
Not sure about the bart and toxoplasma. I have those things too.
I guess we would need to look into that when the time comes.
But, it is amazing how animals affect us. They can leave a big hole.
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I can so relate to your sorrow. I feel so bad for you. Our pets are often our lifeline. I am longing to have a little dog to keep beside me.
Our two remaining cats have to live downstairs in the kitchen or outside. I can no longer tolerate them. My husband cares for them and loves them. Sometimes he brings them up to visit me.
I used to have cats on my bed beside me always. But the doctors insisted we not have them in the house because of my lousy immune system. And I do feel better, I must admit. Whenever I do venture into the kitchen my nose and eyes run and I have to leave.
We gave one to a no kill shelter. Another one got cancer and died. My husband, who gave me my IV's, got a solution to feed the dying cat.
Whenever she saw him coming with the IV stuff she would purr loudly. It must have comforted her enormously. We were grateful that she did not have to suffer long and that we could help her.
I am too weak to care for pets and my husband is way overburdened. But I promised myself that when I am stronger I will get a dog to keep me company. Maybe that would be helpful for you if you are able to handle it.
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My animals are my children. I can't imagine how you're feeling right now.
I'm sorry.
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I am so sorry for your pain. I do understand how pets become family. Words cannot express the loss that is felt in a situation like this.
Perhaps I am a little less compassionate toward animals than other posters here - and I DO feel so badly for you and what you have had to go through...but, I totally agree that you did the right thing...and I wouldn't doubt your decision.
We had a cat too - and she was such a nice cat. She was an indoor/outdoor cat, although we did not originally intend for her to go outdoors. She really was such a wild cat, sometimes coming home only to eat and sleep.
Well, I have been dealing with this illness for 25 years, and only recently did I finally get diagnosed (last year). Once I realized the seriousness of my illness and the fact that all of my children had contracted this congenitally, I became less and less thrilled to have the cat around.
She would come home covered in dirt, fleas, ticks. We would bathe her, treat her, and it was a viscious cycle.
She would leave at times for days, but always came back. Then in the spring, she never came back.
I felt such guilt about it, that I should or could have done something to prevent her from leaving. I was sooooo upset because I felt overwhelmed with guilt that I did not insist on her coming in at night if I couldn't find her right away. Plus, the kids loved her; they were upset and scared for her.
Ultimately, a friend of mine made me feel so much better about it; he told me to look at the situation for what it is, without the guilt; he said "Remember, this is a CAT. She is fine wherever she is." I know that may seem harsh, but I am thankful that no longer are my kids getting flea bites etc...I was sooooo upset all the time about the cat, because I felt like as long as she was around, we would not get well.
Sorry for the long story...I just wanted to tell you that I am sorry for your situation and pain, that it WILL get better, and that the cats WILL adjusst to their new situations. You have done a difficult thing, but very respectable...it is so important to put your health and recovery first.
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Your topic grabbed my heart. So sorry. On a lighter note, last year when my husband was checking out of our marriage, my very sensitive great dane was so stressed out i had to put her on stress herbs.
she would shake and be terrified of people coming in the house. i'd find her sleeping on his bed. i was so worried about her. i prayed. "please g-d take my husband, not my dog!"
she's still here. he got a girlfriend in 3 weeks.
Sorry for your loss. you know you didn't really have a choice. you had to do it to support your immune system. this illness forces us to face the almost unfaceable.
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Karen, my great dane makes her look like a dog!
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springshowers
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Yeah I am missing the cats. I keep reaching out for them and think I see them out of the corner of my eye... I do have one dog .... my only pet left....
Maybe have to give her up too if I loose my house. She can be put outisdie and has a nice big yard and such. She is short hair and does not shed much. I feel bad that I do not give her enough time and attention and walks etc..
It all sucks.. to be honest. and blunt
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wait and see how the dog reacts without the cats. dynamics shift. maybe for the better.
are you at risk of losing your house? i didn't mean to be insensitive during your loss.
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