would they say that to someone who had cancer? who just had been through chemo?
would they say that to someone with AIDS? heart attack? stroke? etc. etc.
that's what I would ask them next time,
my LLMD would prefer me not to really get out of bed at all, but I do have to work,
when I am not working, I hit the bed and don't feel guilty about it at all,
Ask you mother-in-law if she thinks that this disease is fake,,,,,
if she does then tell her to go find some ticks, let them attach to her, and tell her to never get treatment,
then tell her to wait about four years,,,,after she has tried this little experiment and waits four years to see what has happened, then let her know that she has your full permission to tell you to grow up
(but by that time the suffering and pain will have completely debilitated her),
Has she not educated herself? Has she not watched "Under Our Skin"?
She sounds very rude and ignorant.
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**** her...... what a *****.
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The world is full of ignorant people. Some of them you have to put up with, for a time.
We are not given the respect that others with "real diseases" are given. It is not going to change until the disease is finally proven, which I have absolutely no hope of happening any time soon.
I'm tired of people in general. I wish I didn't have to deal with them.
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helped me with anxiety, panic and sleep as well, and made me feel calm,
helped our marriage tons and tons!
on high doses
went off for a while, not a pretty picture, am asking the doctor for it again, too much tension and arguments around here, over nothing
its okay to need help, its okay to ask for help, its okay to rest, its super okay to sleep all you want
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Then it's especially crazy that anyone would think you were blowing smoke!
Sheesh
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- It's amazing how different people can have totally opposite reactions to some meds.
Amitryptaline nearly killed me. I tried it many different times. And all it's cousins, too. They all made me much worse in just about every way - and suicidal on top of that.
In a post above, Missing says it helps her.
Just a reminder that, even with lyme, we have very different bodies. -
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John S - your MIL made a ridiculous comment. What a *****!! Especially with you holding 2 jobs. I hope she thinks twice before making another stupid comment.
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John S,
I just have to say that my situation is different then yours, but last night my MIL was a complete A$$ too, and for that I am sorry.
I mean, I am an ex-lymie, my husband and daughter as well. Son, not so lucky, so still going through it. None of which I share with her.
Last night was my husbands birthday. They hung out for two hours while I ran the kids around and prepared for a small celebration. When I arrived, we had a delic crock pot dinner in front of a movie "Cool Runnings" (rent it soon if you haven't seen it, I think it wil, make you feel a little better). My daughter, her Boy friend, my son,hubby and her were all there.
Basically, I was avoiding a one-on-one MIL experience to avoid her rude innuendos (seed sewing she calls it) and disrespectful comments. She never throws them at the bread winner (her son), just me.
But, she had to get it in, and she did it in front of everybody. As the movie was just about to start and I about to open my mouth to eat, she asks from the other side of the room if I had seen DR. Oz yesterday. Before I could really acknowledge, she said it was really good. Then quickly added "it was about obesity".
I swear, all I could do was laugh. I looked at my daughter and we broke out laughing. I had made the Biotch a nice meal, invited her to dinner, minding my own business and that's what I get. Keep in mind I'm 5'11''. I'm not humongous. I'm pear shaped with a wider flat rear then necessary, a little chunky, but obese? I don't think so. Even if I were, what the &(*&(*&(*.
Good for you for demanding respect in your own home. My approach will be to next invite her in 2011.
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2roads, I couldn't contain myself if someone said that to me. I'd be on top of them pounding a hole in their face. And mind you, it wouldn't be in Lyme Rage. *lol*
I just flat out don't like being direspected in my own home, nevermind out and about.
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Kudos for you all for not tolerating disrespect in your own home. I feel the same way.
Fortunately our families for the most part have always respected us and understood (well not fully) what we are going through.
But pre-lyme when my MIL and mom were alive, wow what guilt trips they both sent us on. Mind you, we have always been very inclusive and never excluded any family member on either side from any holiday or celebration. Yet my MIL would always tell hubby that I favored my family which was not the case. And I could have done backflips down the highway and it wouldn't have been good enough for my mother (though on some level she did understand and appreciate what I did). Of course there are many more details to these situations but not worth going into at this point.
One of the last straws with the MIL was that she was going around telling people that if it weren't for her son we wouldn't have a house. She was implying that he rescued me from the gutter. Hmmm...not really. I was my own person, had my own career, car, home before we married. After hearing her say this a few times in our home (!) in front of family and friends I told hubby there were 2 ways to handle it: He could address it with her or I could. Needless to say he did and she didn't say anything about it after that.
As for my mom, there was a point that I had to stop talking to her for several months. I didn't like doing that--she had been up to a certain point a very understanding and loving person--but something changed and the relationship became very hurtful and upsetting to me. I had an infant to take care of as well as the rest of my family and my own health. I was trying to do everything I possibly could for my mother but nothing was good enough. I did not need this added stress. The only way at that time for me to have peace in my home was to cut off communication for awhile.
Thankfully amends were made before they both passed away and we made sure relationships were renewed between them and our children. This was pre-lyme!
I imagine my tolerance level and willingness to put up with nonsense and overlook things would have been harder living with lyme.
But pre-lyme and now, no one will ever disrespect me in my own home.
Good for you John for drawing the line.
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My mother in law has been lying real low since she sprayed my house (and flowers) with bleach.
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Life is hard enough without this disease.
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quote:Originally posted by 2roads: Yeh,
Feeling the way I have recently, I can't help but wonder if it was laughter to replace tears.
I just thank God I could feel silliness in such an akward moment. But, she is so juvenile, mentally ill really. She's my Baby Jane.
I have a lot of rage towards her, but I guess I just felt resigned. Ya know, like the gift that just keeps giving.
Let's hope we don't ever have to ask what happened to her. LOL
People like that say things like that because inside they're already miserable in some respect. That's what I keep forgetting.
People who hurt people are usually hurt people themselves. That's the case most of the time from what I've experienced in life.
Doesn't make it ok or even excuse them -- in-fact I say "**** you" --..........but, if it comes down to letting go of a resentment, and accepting that life is painful for them too, then I'll take that as some sort of consolation, at least until I can totally forgive.
Something to consider I guess?
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I happen to think this kind of thing really has little or nothing to do with lyme, but more to do with respect.
I wouldn't allow my family members to speak to my husband that way. (he doesn't have lyme)
He would never allow a member of his family to speak to me that way.
Neither one of us would be disrespected in our own home by someone who felt they could say what they wanted because they're "free babysitting" or something.
No matter what their opinions are, they know to just keep it to themselves.
My in-laws have absolutely NO understanding of lyme disease. They never will
BUT ~ they DO respect me.
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You are right Metallic. I do think of that too. She is mentally unwell, but also very miserable inside. It is very easy to see on many fronts. I know living like that cannot be pleasant for her, and that is sad.
But, she has been given perfect physical health. She's 75. There is so much she could be doing to help herself and others. She has the bones of an ox. Unlike anyone in her family. I can't help but question what was God's plan for her. She hasn't seen a doctor in her life. There's gotta be something more for her.
But, her issues keep repelling people because she is also so self-ritous, and unfortunately gives christians a bad name by talking the talk but not walking the walk.
Yeh Carly, I wish my husband would have stuck up for me. But the truth is, he probably wouldn't have for himself and he also wouldn't have invited her. He has so little expectation of people and would rather be to himself....quite sad, actually. You can be sure a Mother that took a daughter and left two sons behind was the beginning of that perspective. Yup, she's a real winner.
Way to go Misfit!!!! Maybe I oughta offer up the bleach with hopes of not hearing from her for awhile. See, it worked out in the end, cepting your poor flowers.
Feeling any better John S?
Hugs Family
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