Topic: bridal shower coming up and i don't know what to do
lpkayak
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my last son is getting married in oct to a smart, sweet, hard-working...woman. i love her.
and i feel so blessed all 4 kids have found wonderful ppl to spend their lives with. i know that doesn't always happen.
i've recently had some trouble getting along with all my kids - i think a lot of it is lyme related. changes in things that i can and can't do.
them in a sort of denial...but they probably just don't get it...it is hrd for m to explain things well.
they are all good ppl but they are weary of this disease too...the two younger ones never knew me when i wasn't sick.
anyway...the problem at hand is i am older, out of it, foggy---never real into style and whats "in" or "cool"...maybe i'm supposed to say "hot"
you get the pic
so the shower is going to be hard on me cuz it is 2 hrs away in her families house and i am not that comfortable with her family. i am trying. but we haven't had much time together yet and it is stressful.
i'm willing to put the dog in a kennel and get a motel room etc and we are hoping my two sisters will come to help me.
but honestly...i have no idea what to wear or what to get for a gift.
does anyone know the amt of money i should spend on a gift? it would be so much easier for me to give $...but i suspect thats not ok at a shower.
my sisters may come up with ideas but i can't count on them-the extra travel will be hard on them in $ and time.
so if you have thoughts...that will hlep out my lyme brain
i am one of those "its the thought that counts" down to earth ppl...but this family is wealthy and cares a lot about things
when the kids bought their house i planted a bunch of my perennials around---with their permission...and when i found out she liked daisys i planted a big bunch near the front door.
this year the gardens came up so beautiful...but she never mentions anything to me about them. she did say thank you when i did it.
i just don't think it means anything to her...i know thhese flowers will have babies and be there forever...but that kind of thing isn't so impt to them ..or her.
so i don't know what to buy for a gift. no clue.
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For my bridal shower, the gifts were all things that were for me, not for my house and new family. They were little luxuries. One of my favorite gifts was from a bunch of my girlfriends, they bought me 12 massages, to use when I felt like it. So, a gift certificate to a spa would be a wonderful idea. Weddings are always so stressful, she might really like being pampered. I would say anywhere between $50 and $200 is good. If money is tight, stick to the lower end of that.
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I know that sentimental gifts may not be big in this situation, but one of my favorite gifts was from my husband's aunt. I had never met his extended family who lived in a different part of the country. She sent a cookbook (maybe Betty Crocker), with all of her favorite recipes marked. She also wrote notes or stories next to them.
When I met her several years later, I felt that I knew her through her cookbook.
Maybe if you had something similar that had stories of your son as a child, or some of his favorites, it might strike a nerve.
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lpkayak
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ohhh rere...see that sounds like me. something i would love to get and love to give. i think i will save that idea for christmas or something in the future...i really like it...
i hear thru the grapevine there will be a registry...i didn't know at first...so that does take a lot of stress away
thanks to you all
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