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My lady friend is struggling badly right now, she is running out of ability to work, money, and is having a hard time thinking she can see me in this state. She needs to get her life back, and she believes that it's not fair to me. Anyone else out there deal with this - it's terrible for both of us - she has left to go to a LLMD this weekend in another state, and I hope this might help her.
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fflutterby
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Stick by her no matter what. It is clear that you adore her. It can take a long time to get her life back. Without my husband, I am not sure I would have been able to cope and I have been treating 15 months.
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just don
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They say if you cant be handsome,,,you better be handy. In my case I would have to be triple handy!!!!
And I still strike out!!!
I concur,,,make a way to be handy enough to be needed and helpful in all ways!!!!
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I'm not giving up by any means, I just wanted to know if others had seen this - I don't have lyme, and don't understand all of the aspects of it, but just want her to know I will be there, and that she does not have to give anything in return. I was hoping other significant others would reply to this.
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lyme in Putnam
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Its just as bad for the family and friends they don't knw how to help. We suffer, but so do they. Stress makes everything tenfold, I'm sorry you're going through this. My husband has held me down during my first rocephin herx, holding me from my nerves with fear, has just been there. My 16 yer old had it or 3 years but not to ths point, thank god. Dr. J. Fixed him with orals. It takes a toll, hoping she gets better soon. God bless.
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lpkayak
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unfortuneatly lyme ends up being a cause for breakup and divorce. the fact that you acknowledge her condition is huge...dont doubt her. i hope you make it thru
-------------------- Lyme? Its complicated. Educate yourself. Posts: 13712 | From new england | Registered: Feb 2004
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I have Lyme and my husband is a huge supporter of me. He could easily have written what you said.
I am like your lady friend in that I do not(and did not) want to put him through what he is having to go through and I don't think it's fair to him either.
I am not myself and he doesn't deserve having to deal with it but he sticks by me and loves me dearly. I'm incredibly lucky with him.
I do understand where your partner is coming from.
I myself often doubt myself and have little confidence due to Lyme, since I felt my life and myself as a person was stolen. But that's really not true, it just feels that way.
I feel forever indebted to my husband for his never ending and long suffering support.
Years of loving patience on your part should help your partner the most and it sounds like you are off to the right start.
I do not think what you both are experiencing is uncommon. Best wishes!
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Check out a new website I found called lymespouse.org. It just went live about a month or so ago.
It is hosted by a spouse of a lyme sufferer. It is a great resource for the spouses!!
My husband found it one day when he was at his wits end with me (I'm the Lyme sufferer). It made him feel a lot less alone. You can also join the chat group on the site for support.
Hope this helps!!
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