randibear
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we have been hit hard this year. guess cause we're older or something.
first it was husband's best friend wife. she had cirrohsis of the liver. yep, she drank.
then my best friend's mother. granny
then another friend of husband his wife died of cancer.
then another friend's wife committed suicide. she was a concentration camp survivor and apparently lived in horrific pain every day since she was tortured so much. i guess she couldn't take it anymore. was a shock.
then his mechanic for his airplance committed suicide
now husband's stepsister, has terminal cancer of the brain. they give her maybe at most three months.
then a guy he knew at work died.
now my best friend here has gone into the hospital for biopsy for her lungs. masses have shown up in both lungs. she's never smoked. she's scared to death and so am i.
so very many this year. ain't looking good.
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My FIL used to lament that all he and his wife did was attend funerals. He said this when he was in his 70's. It gets worse.
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randibear
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momma used to say "every day above ground is a good day"....
boy ain't that the truth. it's getting to where i don't want to answer the phone or read the email.
we won't have any friends left if this continues.
we have a cruise planned with my friend and her husband for january to go to south america. hubbie said "well i wonder if we're going or not. we'll know next week i guess"
ann has said that if it's cancer she does not want treatment. so many of her friends had chemo and and all and died anyway. she is determined no treatment. can't blame her. she's 72 i think cause she's older than her husband by several years.
she sent a note and said she won't get biopsy until next week.
rats more waiting....
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"ann has said that if it's cancer she does not want treatment. so many of her friends had chemo and and all and died anyway. she is determined no treatment. can't blame her. she's 72 i think cause she's older than her husband by several years."
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That is my thinking. The chemo would kill me for sure. My stomach is so bad anyway.
But then... when you actually have to face death... you might change your mind!
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TerryK
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Sorry for your losses. I can relate.
Since the end of October 2010 I have lost my sister (57 years old died of untreated lyme), uncle Frank who died because he refused dialysis when his kidneys failed, Aunt Arlita who died from results of cancer treatment for liver cancer, Aunt Barbara (breast cancer) who died from a fungal infection due to immune system damage from chemo and Aunt Rosie who died from a bone infection that was not found in time. None of them reached age 70.
My brothers kidneys are failing (55 years old). He has had untreated lyme disease for decades. 3 bulls eye rashes. He is scheduled for surgery next Tuesday which they say will likely destroy the remaining kidney function that he has left. This will mean dialysis for the rest of his life. He is already very sick with what we assume is lyme. He has told me if he feels much worse on dialysis he will refuse dialysis because he prefers to die rather than suffer more than he already is. This one has me very depressed.
I hope it ends soon because I've had enough.
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nonna05
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Oh- You guy's I'm so sorry for all you're going through
The untreated cases of Lyme,,is that on purpose or just can't get treatment.. Not even basics?
My heart just breaks . I had the brother that died a year ago June,at 52....I didn't know what was kicking my rear,,and he had many of the symptoms, Some worse, then drank and smoked ,
Lost everything and we tried so hard to get medical help,,,, Finally got disability and 2 weeks prior, I called his case worker, when I could barely move etc, and said if we don't get him somewhere now he;ll die,,
two weeks later I called her and said he's gone, but late somebody has to do something for other people.
She admitted it was a mess and that there seemed to be no change in sight..
He lived in the woods, tick bites often, mice,deer raccoons whatever it was there...was also by huge lake so plenty of mosquito's and fleas..
So many and not all old... Lord help us...
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TerryK
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I'm so sorry nonna. 52 is way too young to die! It's so very sad and upsetting.
I would guess there are many here who have family members who don't know they have lyme and are untreated. I know Randibear has that situation as do I.
Like you I didn't know for the longest time and by the time I figured it out both my brother and sister were very ill. Getting help was impossible for my sister due to her abusive husband.
The VA tested my brother once he found a doctor who actually cared what was happening to him and they did an ELISA. It came out the same as mine, indeterminate. His doc called the "experts" and they said no need for further testing. That attitude goes against even the standard mainstream but that was their decision. I tried to get him on treatment but he has been so ill he just couldn't fathom being any sicker plus he has had substantial brain fog and could not handle a complex treatment regime.
Without the buy in of mainstream doctors I'm afraid many just don't have a chance to accept that they have lyme and even if they accept it, without the kiss of approval of the powers that be it is impossible to get help without a lot of money. It's all so frustrating.
Sorry randibear - didn't mean to divert your post.
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