randibear
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been thinking about bea and steve.
my husband has told me to not prolong his life for even one minute, even if they tell him he might make it, he told me no, don't take that chance, let him go. especially if he's comatose.
he's to be cremated with no viewing, funeral, notices, etc. cheapest possible and to spread his ashes in a river if i can.
me, same thing, only i wnat to return to ohio where i have a funeral plot with my sisters.
husband has also told his family not to descend on me asking for stuff, stay away.
we need to update our will. i have things i want my sisters to have, two of them anyway. not the third. the money goes to husband.
have you made these plans? believe me after what i went through with mom i want my wishes followed. it's too late after you're going to read the will.
one woman buried her father and then read all his papers afterwards. stupid...he wanted to be cremated. she felt terrible.
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lpkayak
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my dad wanted to be cremated-i knew it and planned to do it but his sister made a big deal that she wanted a showing etc so i decided it was more important to do what the living wanted
now i wish i was stronger and did what he wanted. i was pretty young and he died very unexpectantly. he didnt have much money and wanted it to all go to my mom...not "wasted" on the funeral etc...so he said
oh well. i know he knows i did the best i could.
i had my stuff all done before a surgery but it needs to be redone. i recently was told my will would not be honored cuz i moved to a different state. not sure if this is true. one more thing for my list.
i guess we're all thinking of bea and steve
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Dogsandcats
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Yep - everything is written out - signed and sealed. I have told my sis and children of my desires.
Once I am gone, it is up to them.
My parents had everything organized and purchased. It was easy for us to implement during a devastating time.
-------------------- God will prepare everything for our perfect happiness in heaven, and if it takes my dog being there, I believe he'll be there.
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linky123
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Leaving clear instructions takes the heat off the family.
My aunt had a living will, but the language was ambiguous, so it made end-of-life decisions hard to make.
If you don't have a living will, get one. If you do, take a look and make sure it is specific enough.
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Andie333
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This is one place I've had a lawyer advising me.
Hopefully, we've both got all our documents squared away.
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beaches
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Hell no.
I have always believed that where there's life, there's hope.
I've always had a hard time thinking about death when I'm still alive.
That said, I need to seriously update my will.
Don't dare pull that plug on me unless you know for a fact that I won't pull through.
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randibear
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Yeah it was hard to hear him say that but he doesn't want the doctors and hospitals getting everything which ain't much. He also says he doesn't want to live disabled. Thats how he feels tho. he says if he's unconscious and there's even a remote chance of living don't take it let him go don't spend a fortune keeping him alive.
I disagree but hey it's his decision
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kam
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No. But, it is on my mind to do. Primary doc gave me the paper work but so limited on what I can do each day.
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i think its important to talk about even if youre healthy.
i'm 28 years old, and have spoken to my sister about what i would want to happen and information about what to do because of lyme (like no steroids, or organ donation).
I keep a google document with all my medications and details for her if she ever needed them incase of an accident or anything.
Posts: 844 | From CA | Registered: Apr 2010
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Instead of a Living Will, I have a Medical Power of Attorney, which is similar to a Business Power of Attorney. You name the person(s) you want to make your medical decisions IF you are unable to do so.
It is more flexible and covers any medical decision, not just "end of life". I named two of my children and have talked with them extensively about my medical opinions. They understand and also think the way I do.
I'm not sure if this is available in all states, but I suggest you check it out.
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