randibear
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if you go out to dinner with friends and you are paying, well really even if you aren't paying, does someone have the right to say they're taking all the leftovers home?
crazy i know but it's happened. me and my big mouth said "uh excuse me but I want mine."
I was told I caused an embarrassing situation.
uh, it's lyme....lol
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Keebler
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- I love these kinds of questions. I've also made many stumbles over the years and misinterpreted or acted too quickly. while never had this matter present itself, it just seems logical that:
Each person has a right to their own leftovers - even if they are not paying. It was / is their meal, every bite.
If one diner desire leftovers of another, they should first ask. If they just announce they want them, all, then it's your call to say
[and sometimes the tone can put others at ease]
In a firm yet light whimsical or funny voice / manner kindly assuming they must have just jumped the gun and misinterpreted, you did fine.
Other ways to play it out:
"Hold your horses" and explain you want yours - then to the wait staff: "please put mine in a separate container for me to enjoy tomorrow"
As to whomever told you your standing up for your meal, if they were embarrassed, that's their issue.
Rather than make anyone right or wrong, just remind them that the person asking for all the food must have just jumped ahead, miscalculated and missed a beat. You simply spoke for yours. No big deal. That's communication. No need for embarrassment.
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hiker53
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I usually say at the start of my meal. "Wow, this is a lot of food. Glad I can take home my leftovers."
That way from the start I have laid claim to all of my meal.
Unfortunately I usually eat the whole large meal anyway--LOL
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sammy
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That is unusual!
Usually the waiter comes around toward the end of the meal and asks how everyone is doing, if you need any thing, etc...
And then if you would like a container to take the rest of your meal home with you!
Unless the meal was shared family style that question is asked to the individual. Exception is parents taking care of young children.
Randibear, I understand your question. Your friend should have simply asked if you if you wanted your left overs, and if it was ok that they would like to take home all the left overs.
They made a nice evening end with an uncomfortable situation.
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randibear
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yeah she was snatching and grabbing and THEN announced she was giving the leftovers to her dang dogs.
uh I don't think so. hubby picked up a bill for over a hundred bucks and it was steak so that meat was mine, baby.
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