I'm not exactly sure how to word this but does anyone here ever experience points where they lash out? Out of frustration?
When I'm trying to do something, it takes me quite a while to actually get down to do it. For example changing a song. My partner and I got I to an argument bc he was rushing me and
confusing me and wouldnt stop saying "change it change it" when I told him to stop and said I was trying to. It got to the point where I just yelled "f***king stop!" I don't mean to yell or
lash out like that, it just happens. I feel like I'm overloading or something. Does this happen to anyone else?
I tried to explain to him that when I'm stuck somewhere, the more someone tells me things or rushes me, it feels like glass shards are going into my brain and I just can't think or move.
I figured he'd be more understanding since he has Lyme as well. He's not as sick as I am and doesn't experience the same mental blocks that I have but still. Any advice on how to handle this?
Posted by TF (Member # 14183) on :
This is common among lyme patients. Here is a long essay written by a doctor which describes how lyme affects a person. And, here are a few quotes that speak to your issue:
"Sequential task performance is compromised in Lyme. Lyme patients have a penchant for saying, "Wait a minute", 2-3 times rapidly when the only demand on them is to record a phone number, which also speaks of perseveration."
"Personality changes are nearly universal in Lyme encephalopathy with emotional and expressive incontinence being typical. Usually there is a baseline irritability which fluctuates.
Patients with LD encephalopathy react to even mild degrees of stress with frustration, anger or crying spells out of proportion to the situation. Emotions can reach escape velocity and rages can become volcanic with a momentum beyond volitional control.
Unpleasantness is inevitable due to volatile tempers, super critical dispositions, and impatience with themselves or others. Lyme patients can be easily irritated by anyone just walking into the same room even though eye contact is never made or words exchanged.
Low threshold exasperation in unexpected circumstances is not uncommon."
It happens with Lyme. I used to work with a woman who would lose her temper with people and stomp off but then come back and say she was sorry and
explain why she'd gotten upset. The result was whereas they had been licking their wounds and tallying up all the reasons why she was an awful person and why they hated her guts,
they would smile warmly, she would be enthusiastically forgiven and they'd like her better than ever before. I learned from her that it's OK to react and get mad but really important to apologize afterwards.
It lets them know that even though they stepped on your toes, you appreciate them as a person and most important, it establishes boundaries for the future.
So, handled right (apologizing afterwards), losing your temper creates a healthier atmosphere. In the future, they'll respect your boundaries but know that even if they don't, you'll forgive them.
Posted by TrekCoord (Member # 48888) on :
There is also what I call a time distortion with people who's brains/cognitive function have been negatively impacted.
I worked with many youth and most of them were developmentally delayed and one teen in particular was very difficult to work with because his first answer to any request or question was "No!"
I remember clearly asking him to empty a trash can. A very simple task - and look at what I did, I "asked" him, I didn't demand.
He looked at me and said "No!" and walked off. About a minute later he came and picked up the little trash can and emptied it.
It took his brain around a minute to realize I wasn't asking him to do an impossible task. His brain took time to process the information.
A person I know very well had a situation with a relative where they asked the relative a question and didn't get a reply. So after a time [maybe a few minutes or so?] they asked again.
The relative blew up! "I'm trying to remember! Stop badgering me!" Time distortion. The relative did not realize that there had been a passage of time.
The two questions, about the same thing, seemed to come one right after the other and to their mind the questions were asked before they had "time" to respond/answer the question the first time it was asked.
Time distortion: The time it takes the brain to process a simple request and answer.
Posted by Tincup (Member # 5829) on :
So sorry you are dealing with this. Might you have bartonella? This "symptom" often is associated with Bartonella.
May I suggest you sit down and explain it to your loved ones so they will understand. I had to do this myself and it did help. At least they knew I wasn't angry with them.
I have no "hurry" word in my vocabulary and do get rattled when someone asks more than one question at a time.
You can see that by looking outside my place at the pile of crushed telephones.
Push 1 if you want blah blah blah... Push 2 if you want blah blah blah... Push 3456789 and so on.
I'm still trying to absorb and comprehend #1 instructions when they are pounding me with #5, #6, #7 and so forth.
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