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Posted by Brandimc (Member # 22017) on :

I found out that my motherinlaw hid my video cause she did not want me to show it to people!!!! [Mad]

Im ****ed!
What would you do? [cussing]

Posted by Tincup (Member # 5829) on :

After I calmed down.... GGGG [Mad]

RRRRRRRR!!!!!!!

I would take one of her prized possessions and hold it for ransom.

But that's me.

Posted by springshowers (Member # 19863) on :

Oh Gosh> I would confront her.
And tell her exactly how I felt.

Thats horrible.

Posted by ThatColorGreen (Member # 16016) on :

***??

i'm with showers.
...I would remind her that she has no right to take things that don't belong to her.

how she FEELS about lyme is her business, but she needs to keep it to herself; as well as her hands!

That is so childish; people never cease to shock, disgust,-- etc etc-- me.

ai yai yai. I'm sorry. That's so frustrating. I can only imagine how outraged you must be feeling.

~Green~

Posted by 2roads (Member # 4409) on :

That's somethin' my mother-in-law would do.

I would say that is psychotic behavior. She lived a life of decadence until her mid-50's, to include infidelity with her hubs best friend and splitting the children in half to go her separate way with her squeeze. Married again a few times after that.

Now she is back lecturing religion to everyone, but sadly is still no example and hides behind the jargon...very condescending and judgemental.

I do not feel she is a Christian, just mental and lost. But. she does not approve of Halloween. My mother-in-law visited a few years ago at that time. The day after, she ripped my pumpkin lights from the hearth and just threw them in the corner behind a table.

...did not ask permission to do so, nor did dshe put them neatly away....

I'm sorry, but there are certain traits of mentally unwell people, and that would be one of them.

Just ignore it.....Better yet, give her hell first.

HUIGS,

2roads

Posted by seekhelp (Member # 15067) on :

Start taking her dishes one by one and breaking them.

Posted by Lymetoo (Member # 743) on :

quote:
Originally posted by ThatColorGreen:

...I would remind her that she has no right to take things that don't belong to her.

how she FEELS about lyme is her business, but she needs to keep it to herself; as well as her hands!

Indeed! I would definitely speak to her (try not to yell!) and GET IT BACK from her!!!

Posted by JamesNYC (Member # 15793) on :

I'll send you a tick to stick on her!

Posted by Brandimc (Member # 22017) on :

...AND she refuses to watch it.

Posted by Lymetoo (Member # 743) on :

quote:
Originally posted by Brandimc:
...AND she refuses to watch it. [/QB]

We kinda figured that!! [Big Grin]

What some people will do! [shake]

Posted by kam (Member # 3410) on :

Ah HA Another lyme denialist at work...

Don't know why but I kind of find this funny. Again lyme sick humor.

And I also am looking at it from the outside.

I guess this means she can't play in the sand box until she returns what she took from someone else. HA!

Posted by carly (Member # 14810) on :

quote:

Start taking her dishes one by one and breaking them.

Seriously, I'd either confront her or let it go. You can't change some people.

Posted by catskillmamala (Member # 12536) on :

I know you're mad at her, but if I recall, you have to live with her.

I found the best way for me to convince my disbelieving loved ones that I was sick was for me to get better (hard to do when I'm stressing out about not being believed). As I got better they were stunned at the difference and began to see that I really had been ill.

Plus the arguments about depression and hypoconrdia seem to be blunted: if I was a depressed hypocondriac would I be telling you that I'm getting better? Would I be getting better? Would I suddenly be able to concentrate, drive, see, remember, listen, socialize, breath, sleep and eat?

I wouldn't even ask her to watch UOS or engage her in any way that is going to bring more stress upon yourself. You have to get better, not convince her that you are sick. Make your wellness your primary objective. If trying to get her support is actually damaging you further, let it go.

Posted by massman (Member # 18116) on :

Got any cop friends ?

Have them talk to the MIL from he!!

Posted by Brandimc (Member # 22017) on :

you are right, cat, I cant convince her of this disease, so i must get better so we can move out of that unsupportive environment.

Posted by 2roads (Member # 4409) on :

Brandi,

I didn't mean to expound on my in-law, but I really think that Lyme is just a subject symptom.

Okay, so she does not support the diagnosis. But, that disapproval can be reflected in only as much as a frown, a more normal approach.

Suffice it to say, that I think she has issues and sometimes when dealing with mentally unwell people, you have to remember their sickness to cope.

I'm not talking about depression or hard times falling upon us that make us desperate, I'm talking a screw loose.

Try to separate that out when dealing with your frustrations.

I would call her on it though. [tsk]

Yeah, it is also never easy to live with your in-laws. even parents as we are older. Hopefully, this too will pass-

2roads

Posted by pmerv (Member # 1504) on :

You should ask her politely to return it so you don't have to spend her son's hard earned money to buy a new one, and then if she won't, buy a new one and don't speak of it to her. She obviously can't deal with it or at least with how you choose to deal with it. Maybe you should take an honest at how you are dealing with it yourself and maybe tone it down a bit? I don't know you so I can't tell, but sometimes we don't appreciate how we are affecting other people. Maybe her friends are asking her about you and she feels embarrassed, or maybe she is worried about you or her son. There are a lot of possibilities. All I know is, we can't control other people, we can only control ourselves. So be the best person you know how to be.

Posted by peacemama (Member # 17666) on :

I know that I shouldn't laugh, but what a whack job.

Seriously? Hiding your UOS video.

I hope you can clear this up and I hope she moves into the world of grown ups soon.

Posted by MADDOG (Member # 18) on :

Put buggers in her favorite cerial,then tell her after she eats it.

MADDOG

Posted by merrygirl (Member # 12041) on :

I am with optimistick...

that is not normal

Posted by sixgoofykids (Member # 11141) on :

I would tell her son to get my video back or he can move to her room.

Posted by randibear (Member # 11290) on :

grrr, i'd start misplacing stuff that she uses, seriously....

or just forgetting things...conveniently of course.

people refuse to recognize this illness because we're not in a full body cast or something.

i hope you get to move out soon.

Posted by lymewreck36 (Member # 4395) on :

I just ran across this post. Blows my mind.

Perhaps by now you have recovered the dvd?

My mom can't watch it because she starts to shake and cry. She can't manage focusing on her baby having this disease. My Dad can't either.

Is this part of it????????

Mary