I remade my will this weekend, to include an NDR of DO NOT RESUSCITATE if I fall terminally ill.
My dh got very upset but understood and agreed to it. I do not want to come back w/more issues on top of my lyme issues. Have had quite more than enough of suffering.
Dh actually asked me to ask my lyme friends if they would agree. I don't have children b/c that would definitely change my outlook. Understand that.
Many nights, I feel as if I'm dying and fall asleep to wake up crying that I'm still here.
And please, I know many will want to say pray or do you have an LLMD.....yes to both and still feel same way. It's not a herx as I've felt this way for years.
Would never harm myself, one b/c of the pain it would cause others but also, it's against my religion. I don't think God is against our final wishes, knowing what we've been through on earth.
Posted by lostlyme (Member # 38561) on :
Yes I did one about 5 or 6 years ago .
Notarized , and all the I Important stuff.
But it is up to the doctor , about dnr it's really there choice.
At least it's professional , written and explained well .
A great legal document.
Posted by GretaM (Member # 40917) on :
I wanted one but was told "no" because I am early 30's.
When things are very bad pain wise, I welcome death.
People who don't have lyme don't understand this.
I am not a suicide risk. Same as you about suicide.
But I would not want technology saving me if lyme and co finally got my body to the brink of death.
I understand you exactly.
Posted by Mvdr (Member # 43034) on :
I had one done with my will in my 30's. It is not up to the Dr. they have to follow it. I have prayed many times for God to take me throughout this Lyme journey. Things are not as bad as they were now that I'm 7 months into treatment. Pain is much better and chronic headaches are diminishing. Praise God. I was never afraid of dying...just living with this endlessly.
Posted by lostlyme (Member # 38561) on :
Some doctors won’t agree to a DNR because of moral opposition or ethical decisions.
Posted by Pocono Lyme (Member # 5939) on :
I told my doctor when I was hospitalized. It put him in a precarious position as he had to perform a procedure that could cause me to go into cardiac arrest yet could be saved.
Not wanting to put him in that position, I told him OK but after the procedure, if I survived without incident, I then definitely want to be a DNR.
Just so you know. Your next of kin can go against your DNR status. If they tell the doctor to do everything, that's what they will do.
Posted by Dogsandcats (Member # 28544) on :
My parents both had DNR's in their wills. I have had one in mine since I was in my 40's.
My mother put just me and my sister on her DNR. My brother fought it in the end. My mother knew he would and did not list him. It was hard to go against his desires, but she had always been very clear about what she wanted.
She was in a hospital that did not recognize DNR, so we moved her to a hospice facility while in process to bring her home to die. She did not make it home.
It is hard for some to talk about, yet for the survivors it gives peace that - either way- they followed the persons wishes.
Posted by lostlyme (Member # 38561) on :
Sorry to hear dogsandcats ,Yes hard to talk about but then again keeping , fighting or denying a dnr is a selfish act in my opion.