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Posted by TxCoord (Member # 9204) on :
 
Silver's brother texted us at 130 this morning saying that dad was having difficulty breathing, getting warm, etc. Silver (her post) talked with her dad and he was adamant that he wanted no extra care and refused to be taken to the hospital or have anyone come and check him out.

Please keep us in prayer as we don't know what we will be able to do with surgery pending (which I can put off if necessary) and Silver being under great stress (her mother passed the day before Mother's Day in '08 and now Dad has gone on Father's Day).
 
Posted by momindeep (Member # 7618) on :
 
Such difficult news for you all...so so hard to loose a beloved parent.

Sincerely sorry.
 
Posted by Harmony (Member # 32424) on :
 
I am so sorry -

Keeping you in my prayers!
 
Posted by hopingandpraying (Member # 9256) on :
 
My deepest sympathy to all of you. I lost my beloved Dad three years ago and miss him terribly.
 
Posted by gz (Member # 43818) on :
 
So sorry for your loss, Silver and Tx. Thoughts and prayers for you guys right now. (((HUGS))) and hang in there [group hug] [group hug]
 
Posted by hopingandpraying (Member # 9256) on :
 
I found this beautiful prayer on ibelieve.com:

My Prayer for You

This is my prayer for you:
smiles when sadness intrudes,

laughter to kiss your lips,
hugs when spirits sag,

friendships to brighten your being,
confidence for when you doubt,

courage to know yourself,
comfort on difficult days,

rainbows to follow the clouds,
sunsets to warm your heart,

beauty for your eyes to see,
faith so that you can believe,

patience to accept the truth,
love to complete our life.
 
Posted by me (Member # 45475) on :
 
I'm so terribly sorry for your loss. Big hugs. [group hug]
 
Posted by Lymetoo (Member # 743) on :
 
I'm very sorry for your loss, Silver and TxC. I know how hard it is to lose a parent and especially the second parent.

It just leaves us so empty.

You know to turn to the SOURCE of all LOVE and that will be your strength and peace.

God bless.
 
Posted by Robin123 (Member # 9197) on :
 
On Father's Day, of all days!

Sounds like he went the way he wanted to, that he made this choice.

Silver, it's a big change - be gentle with yourself during this time.
 
Posted by Tincup (Member # 5829) on :
 
Silver, and TX too...

Losing your father is one of the most difficult things you will have to go through.

A bond between a daughter and her dad is special--- it is profound and everlasting. This won't be easy for you dear one, and I feel your pain as do others here.

Maybe you'll take comfort knowing no matter where a father is he watches over you always.

Both of you have my deepest sympathy on your loss.

Hoping&praying (above) has a beautiful prayer that may help lighten your load.

Please let us know what we can do for you.

[group hug]
 
Posted by lpkayak (Member # 5230) on :
 
Oh silver i am so sorry. The others have given wise advice. I agree it is very hard...took me five years. ..but it does sound as if he went on his own terms. And yes...it is a time to be gentle with yourself ...
 
Posted by aklnwlf (Member # 5960) on :
 
Sorry for the loss of your beloved parent.
 
Posted by Silverwolf (Member # 9196) on :
 
It's just that Silverwolfi here,

Thank You so much, each replier ,for hugs, and condolences,and the prayers.

oops be right back....Sorry, IBS, three weeks with little sleep,an infection,and grieving, are making this Not-at-all-merry-go-round ride very difficult.

I know, my dad is at rest,and at peace now, even tho' everything else is a swirling mess at the moment.

My Brother is trying to handle everything alone,and not doing very well.Right now he is showing the frenetic, frantic side of his Asperger tendency self.

We've been trying to help him prioritize long distance, as to what must be done. Dad left no will. And there is legal help and advice,and Ministerial help available to.

They finally have the body, on the way to Oregon, should be at the Mortuary any time now. And they've been in contact with my Brother,

Our phone keeps dying,and losing it's battery power [even after a replacement], so TxCoord has gone to get a different phone. He should be back in a bit. Soon as he finds something that fits our need,and isn't to heinously spendy.

I have to go to my PCP tomorrow, and Wed., TxC' goes and talks to pre-op' again for more tests.

Most likely there will be a small private internment, for Dad, and then a memorial services at a later time. Hopefully we can make the memorial, course everything is up in the air right now. It could all change again anytime. Will be glad to have it all done with.

I miss my folks greatly, Mamma died Mother's day weekend 2008, So I guess ,with Daddy so lonesome,he felt Father's day would be all right to Go See Our Heavenly Father.

It has been weird Since 2000,so many family members and close friends... I lost my favorite Grandpa on my 15th Birthday [course that was in the early 70's.

But we have had Aunts Uncle,and parents die,both sides of the family to many of them since 2000.Often on or very near a Major Holiday.

Such as the day after Christmas, Mothers day, Fathers day, Easter, Valentines day, and New years Day.

There is no close blood family here on earth now, over 65,on my side of family,and only one,and Uncle on TxCoords side of the family.

We have some family that has 'adopted us, sometimes they are even closer than 'real family'. And they are both very ill,and in their 80's.

Gets where I don't want to answer the phone anymore. But I keep looking to that Source of all Divine love, and the Hope we have because of this!!!

Sorry if I am rambling, my brain keeps remembering all the loved ones. It's like every time,we get one finally at rest,another one goes.

While I know it is the way of things,it is still very hard,and my heart aches. Some losses do not mend until it is our turn to leave the earth.

And right now,I am trying to help my hubby,and myself toward a measure of health.On both sides of the family, we have nieces,nephews and grands,that need a listening ear. And some reassurance that someone still cares about them.

We don't have children,because of LD,and other health issues, so all the nieces and nephews are sort of ours too,whether they realize it or not.

Gotta close,hope this is making some sense, thanks again so much, please keep us in prayer,it truly helps.

Jus' Silverwolfi here
 
Posted by MADDOG (Member # 18) on :
 
Hope you are doing ok silverwolf i will pray for you.

MADDOG
 
Posted by Lymetoo (Member # 743) on :
 
I hope you will be able to attend the services, TXC and Silver.
 
Posted by Tincup (Member # 5829) on :
 
Checking back to see how you both are doing. Thanks so much for letting us know.

Sounds like you will be very busy for the next few days, which maybe will help so you won't be all consumed with the sadness. Bless your hearts.

During this time it may feel like everything is weighing heavy on you, I kinda see it above, and all things you attempt may seem more overwhelming than normal.

Just remember to breathe in, breathe out, and move on when it gets that way. Please. Hate to see you hurting.

Now- I don't want you laughing at me, but I'm gonna tell you a secret. No one in the whole world knows this about me.

I don't do "games" on the computer or whatever gadgets they have out now. With one exception, just so I could convince the kids I am, yes I AM, in the 21st century.

I play solitaire on the computer. It is a whole lot easier than trying to sit up in bed and laying out regular cards on a water bed that won't sit still!

Each time I win I say a prayer, which includes these words (yes, if you can't tell it is my own prayer- wrote it myself)...

"Thank you Lord for taking care of me, my family and my friends and all those I don't know yet."

At that point I will often think of someone at LN and add them in by saying and "the person at LymeNet", or "those at LN" before continuing with the next part of the prayer.

Well, I've been using your screen names in that part so you will be sure to be noticed by our heavenly Father.

The problem is, after a long time of being an "ace" playing the game and wracking up LOTS of points, my luck has suddenly changed and it seems I can't win!

I know you all have a lot on your plates right now, but I can't help wonder if you guys are the problem?

Bottom line- if you want my prayers, can you at least toss some of that Vegas luck my way in the meantime? I mean heck, that's only fair, isn't it?

[lol]

Love to you both!
 
Posted by Silverwolf (Member # 9196) on :
 
Hi all <<<<< Lymenet Family,and Repliers to this Post >>>>>,

I am hanging in here as best as possible,trying to give each moment,each day to the Lord. Some situations have arisen which happens all to often when there was no definite Will and no signature from the deceased.

It is hard going right now,cannot say more at the moment. But just to let y'all know, your tho'ts and prayers for me and for TxCoord during this hard time are a huge comfort...it means so very much to us.

TxC' is enduring more pre-op testing,well at the moment he's in line somewhere waiting. His Wheelchair is coming apart,and he'll need it for awhile after this.So it has to be replaced soon.

Since these appts. all need to be kept before the surgery,he's taken in His wheelchair too.We have to locate his Crutches,and walker ,but they are here somewhere. Happy happy joy,joy let the treasure hunt begin. Sorry,I digress...

I am waiting on a call from my PCP's office to see if I am still battling an infection,that I've been fighting since Dec. at least, perhaps it has been all year.

Death is never easy, or convenient, for anyone. But there is peace in knowing daddy is at rest. He was really missing Mamma too.

Continued tho'ts and prayers,are so appreciated,and we are very grateful for our LymeNet Family. You know, when others cannot fathom, what the life of a person with Borellia infections,and Co-infections is like, 1st hand.

Will try to update as we get more info', difficult going from a long distance away. And TxCoords surgery has to be done.

They are hoping for a smooth replace and repair of the broken knee prosthetic, and no cancer in the bone above the knee. And that is our prayer,TxC' has been thru more than enough.

Some how thru all of this, I have to get a CT of the lower abdomen. And then I will be seeing some specialists,Urology,and Neurology [again] as well.

Trying to keep my chin up, will try to get stuff done,mostly after TxCoord is released from Hospital.

Funeral plans for my Dad are up in the air, paper work and so on,being looked for,so death certificate can be signed, and this all finished. It's complicated, Dad lived in Washington Sate,is to be buried in Oregon. And of course,TxC' and I are in Nevada.

Better close for the moment, trying to keep Laundry up...

Jus' Silverwolfi Sad today,but carrying on with the tasks at hand.
 
Posted by me (Member # 45475) on :
 
Thinking of you and TXCoord, Silver. Prayers being said and positive vibes being sent. And big, gentle virtual hugs. [group hug] [group hug]
 
Posted by Silverwolf (Member # 9196) on :
 
Hello <<<<< me >>>>>.

Thanks so much, for the prayers and thot's, the vibes and hugs!!!

<<<<< Tinny >>>>>, funny friend, you made me laugh, wish I could send ya some good luck!!!

You don't want our luck around here tho, see folks we love pass away over Holidays and special days for us, and or so near as to be pretty much the same thing.

Just one example, just before TxC' went to New York to compete in a Joke telling contest [Lol,evidently it's spelled 'knew yoork'],sponsored by Readers Digest. We lost his
46 year old brother to a sudden massive Heart Attack.

We get to the funeral in Alabama, get back,home, get ready for the joke-a-thon. Get to New York, and our luggage doesn't , 'til the next A.M. So we went to the RD sponsored dinner to meet with Readers Digest, Editors and so on. A big deal[and they footed the bill for all the contestants].

In spite of our Sadness, and luggage delayed,which arrived in time, we then get to the
contest, TxCoord wins, so fun... until we got back to our hotel and called my folks to let them know.

The the reveal that my Uncle,one of Moms brothers has just died, so heart breaking for us, then we get home, and the prize money went to fix a sudden car and tire problem... bye bye money[ altho' it was provision for the car situation].

That was in 2006, and RD, did the Joke-a-thon for St. Jude's Children's Hospital. It was really,fun but that doesn't ease the ache of grief. Only time,and the Hope we have in the Source of True Love helps it.

I do hope Tinny,that your game improves, it is a fun diversion. LOL!

Jus' Silverwolfi here doing laundry...
 
Posted by Keebler (Member # 12673) on :
 
-
Silverwolf,

I wish you every warmth & comfort in the "best of" collection of experiences shared with your father.

May the essence & goodness wrapped up in key physical & emotional memories stay within your heart, mind and very character.

Light & Love in the stars and the moon - always shining there for you - even when behind clouds.
-
 
Posted by Silverwolf (Member # 9196) on :
 
Hi <<<<< Keebler >>>>>,

Thank you for the kind wishes, I've been thinking about some of our camping experiences, and travels.

Dad loved the forest and mountains,and Mamma loved the ocean. We have some very sweet memories and even a couple of funny ones.

For instance, sharing a huge pack of Salt water taffy, because we were on a nature trail,and something big was wandering about in the brush and trees. Here was just a handful of us. My dad and his friend, and a couple three of us kids.

'Hurry kids eat quickly you know bears can smell sweets...' just funny things like that. Water from a river sparkling in the sun. A sky full of gorgeous stars, at night, twinkling like diamonds on deep blue velvet.

The beautiful blues and greens in the ocean,while your wading.Family times when things were going well,and we could all just relax, no phones, just the crackle of the campfire.

My Dad was a character, he could be stern of temper, a little to stern sometimes. But he cared about people,and liked to help others by fixing their cars. That was fun to him.

I will miss Dad, as I miss Mom, they are safe in the Arms of the Lord, rejoicing in family and friends who've been waiting with the True Source of Love!

By the way <<<<< Lymetoo >>>>>, I love that way of speaking!!! Our Hope is in that True Source of Love.

The sun shines,and the moon and stars, they all reflect that Love!!!

Even in the midst of grieving, there is joy,and hope.

Thank you each one who has sent,hugs,prayers, tho'ts and wishes to us,in this hard time.Both Both myself,and TxCoord, greatly appreciate it!

Jus' Silverwolfi
 
Posted by Tincup (Member # 5829) on :
 
You must know we care about you both. Very much so. And we hurt when you do. Glad you do have some sweet memories now.

And funny ones too! Not that I think eating taffy with bears wandering around would be funny, not to me at least, but if you do that's fine.

Just don't invite me to go hiking with you until I first check your backpack for bear attracting goodies!

HA!
 
Posted by Lymetoo (Member # 743) on :
 
Silver, I hope things are going a little better now. It's a day by day thing with grief.

And yes, tapping into that SOURCE is so vital to our well-being. Sharing stories of your dad is so cathartic. Glad you are able to do that.

Hugs and love from all of us. Hang in there!

[group hug]
 
Posted by Silverwolf (Member # 9196) on :
 
Hello <<<<< Tinny,and Lymetoo,and all Our LymeNet Family >>>>>,

And thank you, for the kindness and caring, it really really helps, that you are all here,and we can encourage one another.

My hardest time right now, is with getting my brain to just rest, I wake up at odd time, can't sleep, ongoing problem. Now it is worse,but I think that will calm down as things are tended too.

We found out this evening, Dads Internment is to be Tuesday coming. We are unable to be there,as much as we'd have liked too. My cousins will be there with my brother so I know he wont be alone.

Several of our family members are buried right close in the Cemetery. Hopefully later on we can see the grave site.The tho't is also to have a Memorial gathering at a later time.

We are okay with it, Dad knows our hearts,and our love!It will be a relief to know his body is taken care of now. His spirit is with the Source of Love already.

Tinny, and anyone who likes nature, All'ay'all, You'd have laughed at the taffy incident, if you saw us looking over our shoulders, our cheeks puffed up like chipmunks, try to get that taffy chewed up and swallowed.

We were on a rope cable bridge, which swung with every step, trying to stay in step so we didn't fall. There we are chipmunk cheeks,trying to balance on those boards over the creek. I've never liked cable - rope type bridges...

Staying in the Source of Love, holding tight there.

Will check back in soon.Thanks again for the kind support in this time.

Jus' Silverwolfi
 
Posted by Silverwolf (Member # 9196) on :
 
Tried to edit, with new info',and our Computer is acting up. So will try it here.

The burial/internment was to be Tuesday, some sort of paperwork issue, is holding things up,so we'll see what happens.

Jus' Silverwolfi here trying to make our PC behave.
 


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