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Posted by Silverwolf (Member # 9196) on :
Hi <<<<< LymeNet Family >>>>>,

Just after getting some reasonably good news, it is never easy to find out someone you love dearly has passed away.

TrekC' and I found out that 'Papa' our "Adoptive Dad"... passed last night at about 9:00pm. He had been ill, but had been doing better, until he fell a few weeks ago.

He has struggled w/ severe asthma for years, and after he fell it went from bad to worse. We wept with 'Mom',as she told us by phone this a.m.
We were hoping to see them late spring once we made sure ,health wise, it was okay to travel.

This dear couple made us a part of their family,back in 1990, and basically considered us as two of their children [they have several of their own].

We planned to try our Cardio-size as usual, this being Friday.Then We got some early mail,and in it was a medical bill I was not supposed to ever have to even see.It was close to $30,000 out of the blue.

It was pertaining to my surgery and surgeon. 'Amerigoof Madicaid' [ Yup I's Ameri-group Medicaid] is so slow to pay that someone contacted a Collection Agency.

I went thru the roof,as we say,and TrekC rescued me from totally 'dropping my basket'.But it took me quite awhile to stop shaking.

Ameri-group has been messing up about my Cardio Size too...and enough was enough. TrekC' called the Collection agency, they looked it up,and were shocked that it had been sent to them.

'Another Billing group' supposedly hadn't been doing their jobs. We gave the basic info' and card #'s for my Ameri-goof info'.

We now have an e-mail proving I have a '0' owed balance. But it was very angering to me. This should not have happened.

So,it will be back to Cardio-Size next week,and we are seriously thinking about calling the 'Governors Office on Consumer Health' to report all these mess ups.

Anyhow, I'm gonna miss 'Papa'... so many family and close friends are no longer with us. Sometimes it is overwhelming.

Jus' Silverwolfi here
Posted by Bartenderbonnie (Member # 49177) on :
So sorry to hear of your dear one who has passed on Silverwolf.

When I was at my sickest point, I dreamt that I met God. I was totally engulfed in His presence. It was beyond BEAUTIFUL !

I woke up crying. I wanted to so be with him.
I am not afraid to die now. I don't want to leave this world just yet but I'm not scared anymore of the inevitable.

Your dear one is now wrapped in God's loving embrace..
This should bring you great comfort as he is in the presence of God.
Posted by Silverwolf (Member # 9196) on :
<<<<< Hi B'bonnie >>>>>,

Thank you for the reply...I am reminded of a song speaking of Gods love...In the Arms of Love,Holding me still ,holding me near, safe in the Arms of Love.

You were given a wonderful dream, a peace and comfort bringing gift!!!

Papa is safe and loved, no more pain, no struggling for each breath, I will miss him very much. But he was ready to go,and he told Mom, he was so tired,and ready to go home.

He knew God was calling him home to Heaven. I couldn't ask him to come back. I am concerned for Mom' and all the Kids and grandkids.Many of them are grown adults now, and a few are not far from Mom.

She and Papa were 'young at heart' tho' in their early 80's. And Mom has had some recent health problems too. They were/are such a blessing to those around them,always reaching out to help others.

I know I'll see Papa, and my Mom and Dad again, and TrekC's folks too. But I hope for a chance to see 'Adoptive' Mom again before she leaves this earth.

For me, it gets overwhelming at times, and so often w/ extreme health limitations [as so many of us are facing]TrekC' and I cannot get out to travel and see dear friends and family.

Tho' saddened by so many losses, there is Joy in knowing the ones TrekC' and I have lost are safe in the Arms of the Lord.

During a serious health issue this year, I did not know if I would awaken from surgery,many, many were praying for me, and my TrekC'love too.

I gave it all to the Lord Jesus, and went to sleep, safe in the Arms of His Love. I am still here to speak of it. It has been a long road, and I have a long way to go, but a merciful loving Lord carries me.

Another song ' Safe am I, safe am I,in the Hollow of His Hand... Sheltered O'er, sheltered O'er in the Hollow of His Hand... '. This is wandering thru my mind right now.

Bills, and other things bug me sometimes, but
I am so glad for the Love and Grace of the Lord, even when I am grieving the loss of a dear friend.

Thank you again for sharing your experience, and the peace God has given you thru it!

Jus' Silverwolfi here
Posted by map1131 (Member # 2022) on :
So sorry for your loss. A sad day can't be avoided with a loss of a loved one....but a MAD day can.

Especially if you are entering that insurance/medical world. Don't ever let them take you down that scare hole again.

Take care!

Posted by randibear (Member # 11290) on :
I am so sorry for your loss. it's never easy is it?

in two years, we lost seven, yep, seven. now his nephew's wife is terminal. eventually it will come.

I hate bill collectors. they should be sued for causing harm. makes you want to jus burn your mail.

hang in there.
Posted by Silverwolf (Member # 9196) on :
Hello <<<<< map' and Randi' >>>>>,

Losing loved ones is never easy, and the deaths keep happening, year after year, sometimes several.

I know by a certain age, we must deal with losing loved ones... but of course... I wish we could have a few years w/o such losses.

The insurance and medical mess... still can upset me,so as I heart patient I have to be really careful.

What angered me most, and TrekC' wasn't happy about all this either, is that someone had to turn over records w/ all the procedures etc. to a collection agency. AND as a Medicaid patient, that never should have happened.

It has been proven that my balance is '0' , the problem is Ameri-group Medicaid, moves way to slowly to get the monies to the Doctors and so on.

Then the folk who turn it over to collection, knowing I am not supposed to ever even see these bills collection,knowing full well it is wrong... don't seem to think that Hippa-privacy act means anything.

The Collection group lady, who answered was as upset as we were when she checked the records to find out what was up.

She was worried about even mailing the '0' balance proof out ... as the whole thing would show my B-day, SS# and all if it got lost in the mail.

My Cardio-size nurse, said don't let this idiocy get you so upset... TrekC' did the right thing, he remained calm and explained what was up. I, on the other hand was way way angry.

Sadly I can still get angry quickly [Lyme Rage?], but TrekC' is usually good at helping me calm down.

We've been dealing with the insurance about my Surgeon,and Cardiologist prescribed exercises,and constant refusals. They are having a codes disagreement w/ the Hospital[and the Drs. as well].

With Papa's passing, and this almost $30,000 bill enough was too much. We got the situation settled for that bill at least.

So now,I am working on keeping calm, and giving the Insurance mess to the Lord.

Thanks for both of your replies. Just thinking things thru can help. I am still sad,but glad that Papa isn't hurting anymore.

Jus' Silverwolfi here
Posted by Lymetoo (Member # 743) on :
So sorry to hear, Silver. It's never easy losing a loved one. I missed seeing this the other day because we were in Texas attending my father in law's funeral.

It was really nice and my hubby did all the music for it. What a tribute!

My father in law would have turned 91 in February. Now hubby and I are both without our parents. It's awful to be an orphan!

I'm off to bed .. so I hope your tomorrow is a better day. Don't let them aggravate you about the money. They can just sit and wait.

[group hug]
Posted by Silverwolf (Member # 9196) on :
Hi <<<<< Lymetoo >>>>>,

Sorry to here of your FIL's passing, it sounds like the funeral was very nice. If one is able to go to the funerals it brings a little closure,Tho' we still miss them so much.

All of TrekC's and my parents, grandparents, and aunts and uncles have passed on. As have my 'Godparents'. And Now our 'Adoptive' Papa too. Trek has one sibling left out of four.

So our earthly blood related family is getting sorta sparse. Most of them have passed since 2000. We know that orphaned feeling.

On the medical insurance issues, we were told not to even think of paying on any of my heart associated issues. That is for Medicaid-Ameri-group and the hospital/ and Doctor/Surgeons financial dept's to fight out between them.

And ultimately for Amerigroup to get the lead out and get it payed off.

So when we get bills and payment requests, refusals to pay-or trying to deny services required,and such, it is a frustration, we are not supposed to even have to see all this.

The various stresses we've been under from estate settling,and health problems for both of us is more than enough to deal with. And I still fight temper issues from time to time.

That bill showing up, on the heels of our sad news... was too much for me the other day. Doing better now, tho' still bothered by the insurance mess.

Thank You so much for the reply, grieving is never easy, even knowing we'll get to see our loved ones again someday. You two are in our thots.

Jus' Silverwolfi here

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