MDW005
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This morning my daughter called to give me heads
up that her husband was on his way home (they live with me)... he quit his job.
I am so upset, because he just went back to work on Tuesday after being home for 6 weeks from a fall that occured at work.
They moved in in Nov. and the BOY(22) got this job in Feb. and I haven't had peace since... so as you can see here in my post...he's only worked 1 week since he moved in!!!
I got mad,took a shower and put my make-up on... got over being mad... now I can't quit crying.
Maybe I'm being self centered... I like my alone time during the day, and can't seem to have it anymore.
I will talk to my daughter tonight and give them a date to move out... 2 more months enough?
Diane
PS.. It makes my head and body ache when I stress... anyone else?
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momintexas
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First off....here's a hug.
You are not being self centered for wanting your alone time during the day. We all need alone time sometimes.
It's perfectly understandable to be emotional. You are in a stressful situation.
These days, commercials make me bawl. You at least have a legitimate reason to be upset!! And I think 60 days is a very fair timeline.
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Bummer!!! I know what you mean about down time and peace and quiet too!!
Hope he has a good reason to be quitting!!!
2 months sounds generous
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Awwwww...I completely know the feeling! I don't do well with others sharing my "space," unless it's my husband. I feel tense when others are always around me, like I can't relax.
I think that would drive me nuts too. You aren't overreacting.
I had a lot of relatives staying with me around Christmas. At one point, when my Mom had been at my place for over a week, I just started crying from being so overwhelmed by not having quiet time. I just couldn't stand it anymore.
I think 2 months is more than fair. Best of luck, and so sorry!!! (((hug)))
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MDW005
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Thankou everyone for the hugs.
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MDW005
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Talked to my daughter (24)... she was very understanding and agreed that 2 monthe was plenty. End of May they will move, and then then boys will be out of school for 2 1/2 months for summer break. I might get 1 week of quiet time.
I guess 1 week is better than none.
Diane
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I think it's a great idea that you gave them a date to be out. That way, you are helping them out till they can get back on their feet, yet can look forward to your own space once again.
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MDW005
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update... daughters husband still does not have a job.
We told him he has two weeks to find a job, and if not he is forcing us to kick the both of them out.
I told my daughter I would drive him around to look... he got upset and didn't want my help. so he is out walking right now. He told my daughter it's a pride thing!
I'm sorry can someone please tell me the difference between PRIDE and IGNORANCE
I told him while he is walking to think about those two words.
Lyme rage!!! Scorpio sting!!! or just fed up!!!
I need a nerve pill. anyone know of a good supplement. Thanks for listening
Diane
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Stick to your guns or he will never grow up! It's a shame you have to "raise" him too!
Keeping you in my thoughts...
P.S. Xanax is good for giving you a case of the "don't-give-a-sh**s"! Nothing I know of that is natural works that well! (Not easy to get a Rx for though...) Posts: 238 | From Jackson, TN | Registered: Mar 2010
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MDW005
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Thank you flower. I needed your voice and hug.
Diane
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2roads
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Here's another hug....
I think you have been very generous by offering a roof and a ride.
In my opinion, a date is a good idea because he sounds like he needs a little goal making and motivation.
Sounds like they have children and you are really doing a yo-mother (grandmother) thing.
Maybe he could put an add in the paper, and look there as well.
Hang in there-
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MDW005
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Hi 2roads. No they don't have children. But they do have a husky dog that sheds all the time. this daughter I don't think will ever have children. So I have a grand-doggie. Thankyou for the hug.
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sutherngrl
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Tough Love!!! I had to use it!
When my son was 20 and 1/2 and my daughter was 23 and both living at home; I gave them 6 months to move out. I told them they HAD to go even if they had to live in a shack or worse.
I did not back down. And it was the best decision I ever made.
Some kids have to be forced to grow up and take responsibility. Stick by your guns!!! It will pay off in the end.
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