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My daughter's husband left a year and a half ago.
He was extremely emotionally obusive to her, she had not worked in 15 years but they started a network marketing business (he still had his regular job) and she became really good at it.
After he left he quit his job and paid her no support (three children). He left her with the mortgage and house, at that time the house was worth less than the morgage.
Anyway, she has struggled through doing network marketing, facing all the fears and dread about being useless and only about a month ago did I start to see her come back.
Both my son and I ahve been lending her money anyway the house sold about two months ago and her father told her that he thought she would end up with enough to put a down payment on a small house.
She would not call to find out the penalty on her mortgage so I knew she was trying to shut it out as she did not believe that her financial nightmare was going to end. She rented a small house until everything settled down.
So today she moves out of the house she has lived in for fifteen years with the help of good friends and the children accepted the downsizing which she was so relieved about.
Today was also the closing on the house and the lawyer had called her a couple of times with problems on the water tank lease.
After the move was finished she called me and I told her she has to call the lawyer which she finally did, he said "everything went well all closed but it looks like you will come up a little short but we can arrange payment terms"
Well thank god she had just parked because she had a major panic attack, weezing and unable to catch her breath the children were so frightened.
It was a joke, the lawyer made a joke about the money.
I am so so angry what if she had been driving when he had his little joke. I just can't believe that anyone would do this, I have never heard of such a thing.
I think she should report him but she won't she said he was so frightened listening to her and the children crying that he was never likely to do this again.
Would it be possible for me to report him or does it have to be my daughter I am just so so angry.
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Tincup
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OH NO! That is awful!!!!
How horrible for her, the kids and you!!!
I am angry about it and I wasn't even there.
As for reporting him.... I would take time to cool down first. Then I would wait until all paperwork was done, money was settled, etc and there was no way the attorney could retaliate.
If you still think it is a battle you need to pursue, I would then consider writing him a motherly note and giving him the what-for, but not reporting him.
My bet is he didn't do it intentionally ... and didn't know she would have such a severe reaction if he did.
I also doubt the bar would be able to do anything at all about it. Reporting it would be a lot of paperwork and added stress you probably don't need... and you all would have to relive the incident over and over again.
Your daughter seems satisfied at this point to let it go knowing he learned his lesson.... so you may want to consider that?
But.. cool down first. I know you have to be upset. I would be too.
kidsgotlyme
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That's so sad. Some people just make stupid mistakes and I'm thinking that he probably feels bad enough. He'll probably punish himself enough without anybody else having to.
I know that I have said things in jest to someone before and it be totally inappropriate at the time.
Don't get me wrong. It was not right that he did that! Especially if he knew what she has been going through.
It sounds like you are a great Mom. At least your daughter still has a good support system. Glad everything worked out.
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Intriguing title "shocking lawyer behavior".
Thank God she wasn't driving at the time!
Unfortunately, not everyone is clued into the feelings of others. It's obvious to me he totally misread her state of mind. Rude? yes! Hurtful? Definitely! Irresponsible? Yes! Again, thank God she wasn't still driving. Intentionally mean? I don't think so.
I think maybe a letter that comes from her -after all is said and done with her legal isues- might be appropriate.
Most importantly that I can see, she has such a good, supportive family!!
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Dekrator48
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maps,
I agree that it is totally appropriate to make it clear to the lawyer (letter from daughter) when all the loose ends are settled, that his "joke" was not appreciated and could have sent her to the hospital.
I wouldn't waste my time and energies on reporting him. Hopefully he will have learned his lesson.
Your daughter will benefit if she can put all this behind her and move on instead of dragging it out.
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Carol in PA
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From what I've read about lawyers, they seem to think that apologizing for something means that you're guilty. So if he goes into defensive mode, he may do everything possible to CYA (cover your asp) in case he gets sued.
I hope this incident scared him enough that he will consider his words from now on.
I'm sorry your daughter had to suffer because of his inconsiderate behavior.
Carol
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