[ 03-29-2009, 05:39 AM: Message edited by: DeafFromLyme ]
Posted by Geneal (Member # 10375) on :
Oh Erika.
Don't know what to say.
Sending you positive thoughts and prayers.
Hugs,
Geneal
Posted by ticked-offinNc (Member # 15420) on :
Erika, I am very sorry you are faced with more Loss and sadness. How are you holding up?
How are your beautiful babies? Do you have any support system?
Posted by Tracy9 (Member # 7521) on :
Oh honey,I can't tell if you are being sarcastic or not....but I am going to assume you are.
Are you okay? Do you have family nearby, friends? I'm close by but bedridden so I'm not much help at the moment......wish I could be.
Posted by bettyg (Member # 6147) on :
erika,
my heart is very sad for you right now .... the loss of the love of your life when caring for your little one and going thru lyme treatment.
one suggestion, is to post on our GRETA post; let her hear 1st hand what it feels like to be left due to lyme disease complications, etc.
just hit enter so we have paragraphs that are broken up ok; those of us who have SUBSCRIBED TO COMMENTS, are sent EACH one after it is posted!
you/family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Posted by soleil16 (Member # 16326) on :
Erika, I am so sorry this happened. I can only imagine how diificult it must be to handle all this and Lyme. You are in my prayers tonight. Soleil
Posted by lakes592 (Member # 18905) on :
Erika, My god I am so so sorry to hear this. I don't even have the words. I will be praying for you.
Ann
Posted by LisaS (Member # 10581) on :
I'm sorry Erika, this disease takes away everything!
On the other hand it helps us know what is important to us and who truly loves us.
Posted by lymemomtooo (Member # 5396) on :
The stress of these damn diseases is too much for most to endure. So sorry that you are going thru this. hugs..lmt
Posted by pab (Member # 904) on :
Erika Posted by feelfit (Member # 12770) on :
Erika,
So sorry. Please let us know that you are ok.
Feelfit
Posted by Keebler (Member # 12673) on :
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Erika,
Although you might actually be happy about this (your post does hold some mystery) . . .
I'm sorry to hear of the pain you are experiencing (or should I say happy to hear you are ready to move on in health?).
Whichever it is, is there a good LL therapist with whom you can work though all the emotions you are feeling? And, if at all possible would your husband also go to counseling either with you or alone? (But I assume you've already discussed that.)
Also, know that this still may work out - or not. But life will go on. You can be happy again. Really.
Oh, and regarding practical matters, get a good attorney. You deserve respect in how this matter is managed every step of the way and you need to have some legal and financial advice.
Take care.
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Posted by Ocean (Member # 3496) on :
Erika,
I too feel badly for you. I hope you have someone to help you nearby. I wish there was something I could do to help.
Take care, Ocean
Posted by DeafFromLyme (Member # 18795) on :
Thanks Everyone! I'm sorry that my post may seem like I was happy. I was trying to express how angry I am by thanking Lyme. I meant it sadly and angrily. I wanted to Thank Lyme for taking everything I had away.
Happy, not at all. Very sad and hurt. I appreciate everyones support I am OK for now. I have my moments where I'm so mad I cry and cry an dcry, then I have moments where I think it must be meant to be....
Maybe he'll realize I am fighting the biggest fight of my life and will come around. I don't know. Thanks for all the prayers and well wishes.
I hope eventually things
Posted by Dekrator48 (Member # 18239) on :
I am also so sorry that you are going through this. I will pray for you.
Posted by Tracy9 (Member # 7521) on :
Do you have friends and family to support you? I know you have small children; we are close enough to become "phone friends" and we have little lYmie get togethers when we feel up to it.
Very worried about you and concerned that you have help!
Posted by mtree (Member # 14305) on :
so..so..very sorry
mtree
Posted by Geneal (Member # 10375) on :
Try to take this time to take care of you and your babies.
Sending you prayers of support.
I know how devestated you must be...
Remember that Lyme doesn't define you...neither does your husband.
Hugs,
Geneal
Posted by Lymetoo (Member # 743) on :
Ditto what Geneal said!!
hugs!!!
Posted by 2roads (Member # 4409) on :
So sorry Erika.
What a weak man.
Hugs,
Greta
Posted by just don (Member # 1129) on :
One day at a time,,one moment in life!!
One breath,,,one step,,then take another!!!!
protect your self, your kids ,,,and your rights!!
Posted by DeafFromLyme (Member # 18795) on :
Hi everyone.
I'm sorry for dropping all my problems here. I feel like thats all I do. I just felt like I had no where else to turn, and you guys are always so supportive.
I thank all for the advice, prayers words of wisdom. I am going to focus 100% on getting well and taking care of my kids. That is my goal now. He is already starting to realize he may have made a mistake.
We'll see what happens.
I keep telling myself that I have to just focus on me and get better because my children need me. I have a teenager (i know I'm too young to have a teenager) a 5 year old and a 2 year old with many of his own medical complications. Although getting better "knock on wood" and I need to be on this earth and healthy to care for them!
I will push forward and fight this disease with all I have. My family means too much to me to give up now.
You all should be so proud of yourselves for the help you give other people. People like me who you don't even know. You guys spend time helping people fight and get better and you all should be commended for that!
THANK YOU ALL!
[ 03-30-2009, 08:19 AM: Message edited by: DeafFromLyme ]
Posted by Leelee (Member # 19112) on :
My heart breaks for you. But you are strong. Really, really strong. You have already proven that by taking hold of your disease and helping your family at the same time.
I am praying for you and sending you all the positive energy I have in me. I hope everything works out the way you want it to.
You deserve respect and dignity. We are all here for you.
Posted by bettyg (Member # 6147) on :
deaffromlyme,
you are more than welcome.
how about starting a new post in support....something like this as we have/had many of you going thru this when instead of reinventing the wheel, you can share info on what has helped you, etc. thru this all.
subject: how many of you are separated or divorced; support group needed to help us cope...
just a thought i had deaf! Posted by johnnylight (Member # 18518) on :
Sorry, Lyme stinks but at least you have friends that understand here. Hope things turn around for you and i will keep you in my prayers too.
Posted by dmc (Member # 5102) on :
So sad to hear. Don't know what to say healing Lyme and your heart takes time. You & your children are in my thoughts. Sending prayers too.
Posted by Starfall1969 (Member # 17353) on :
Sending prayers of strength and healing your way.
Also sending prayers your husband's way, tath maybe he'll come around and reconsider.
Be strong--I know that seems hard if not impossible right now, but I know you have it in you!
Just try to focus on your health and your kids right now.
Posted by DeafFromLyme (Member # 18795) on :
Sending and update....
I must personally thank each and everyone of you for your prayers and support... It worked!
He came home. We have allot to work on but it seems he may have realized I am just sick and tired of being sick and tired and that fighting this disease is not easy.
He wants to help me and be there for me. Hopefully this remains true. I can't fight this alone. I never know what each day will be like. Some days good others not so good and on the not so good I need help and support.
Thank you all and we'll see what happens!
Posted by Leelee (Member # 19112) on :
DeafFromLyme,
I am wishing good things for you, your husband and your children. This disease has to be the hardest road we could ever walk.
I am glad your husband is now there to support you.
We are all here for you. Always.
Leelee
Posted by lakes592 (Member # 18905) on :
Hi, So happy to hear this. I thought this would happen. Men get overwhelmed and want to fix everythng. He must feel very helpless in the fact that he can't fix this for you. Not sure if he has gone with you to your Dr. appt's but I have heard that Dr. D can be very good with talking to husbands about this. Best of luck to you guys!
Take Care, Ann
Posted by mtree (Member # 14305) on :
Erika,
have you seen the film Under Our Skin? this film has helped many families.....it may help your husband...
glad you are trying to work things out... mtree
Posted by DeafFromLyme (Member # 18795) on :
Thank Mtree, yes I bought Under our skin about a month ago. Great film and my hubby watched it with me and I thought he was fully on board.
He said he would be there for me no matter what.... The he jumped ship... Maybe I'll have him watch it again~!! Just as a reminder of what can happen!
Thanks!!!
Posted by Tracy9 (Member # 7521) on :
Erika, Please please feel free to call us; we are only about 25 minutes away and my husband is a great phone buddy. He would be happy to talk to or meet with your husband to discuss how hard this all is, I think some support and hearing from someone who understands might really make a difference.
Email my hubby at [email protected]. I hope your husband will be willing to talk. When we get over the slump we are in we also have weekly get togethers for the lymies in the area.
Posted by Kreynolds (Member # 15117) on :
Erika,
So sorry to hear about this. Another family torn because of this disease....
Hang in there and fight the fight! It may be a tough time right now, but maybe he will realize he has left a good person.
My thoughts and prayers are with you...
You will win the war!
Posted by bettyg (Member # 6147) on :
erika, happy he returned and you 2 can work things out, and yes, show him the UOS dvd 1-2 times more until he GETS IT! xox
Posted by FaithhopeNlove (Member # 19588) on :
Erika,
You aren't alone in this, honi. We are all here with you fighting the fight in our own ways.
You are in my thoughts and prayers and am so relieved he changed his mind and came back to his senses.
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