Oh Geneal ... Posted by feelfit (Member # 12770) on :
Geneal,
Happy to give you big hugs right now....esp. since you've helped me so much along the way....
so, so, sorry about your dog...they're a part of the family. Hugs to your children too....
been thinking of you and of your strong spirit. I know that you'll get through this one too..
Feelfit
Posted by Lymetoo (Member # 743) on :
That's so awful!! I've had to put a pet down too... really a hard thing to do.
I know you loved him well, as did everyone in your family. Once in awhile, I will dream about my dog .. he died 20 yrs ago!
So that love goes deep!
I will keep your family in my prayers, Geneal. Posted by Dekrator48 (Member # 18239) on :
Geneal,
I am very sorry for you and your family.
Perhaps it would help you and the kids to find some small ways of memorializing your doggie.
Even the kids drawing pictures of happy memories with your dog, planting a little garden in his honor (maybe indoor plants right now), or other ideas that you may have.
I wish it were easier to work through the grief but it will take time.
I am praying for you and your family for healing in many ways......BIG HUGS!
Posted by merrygirl (Member # 12041) on :
so sorry to hear this news.
you dont deserve this!
MAy your dog RIP
I will say a prayer for all of you.
pm me anytime.
god bless, melissa
Posted by lymewreck36 (Member # 4395) on :
Geneal, once, three years ago, I thought I was going to die. I was so down and out. Crying relentlessly.
And you were there for me. I don't know if you remember that, but I have not forgotten.
I'm holding you up in prayer. May these trials pass quickly and God restore you to a place of peace and stillness of heart.
Mary
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Posted by Topaz (Member # 20216) on :
I'm so sorry, Geneal.
*big hugs*
Posted by Geneal (Member # 10375) on :
Thank you so very much.
Your prayers and hugs for me are such a blessing in this very difficult time.
Even with 6 other dogs, I just keep looking for him.
Watching for him and waiting.
My youngest cried himself to sleep last night.
He is really affected by Tupper's loss.
I had him cremated so I can keep him close to us.
My little one said he wanted a "leg bone" to keep.
He was really upset when I told him it didn't work that way.
That was kind of funny in a sad way.
I looked at pictures of him when he was hale and hearty
And thought "Oh my God!" When they go down gradually,
It is so very hard to see the changes.
They were pretty severe.
He couldn't drink water and we tried for two days to help him pull through.
I just didn't want to die of dehydration.
There was no interest and no joy in him.
Just calm acceptance of the end.
Don, greater words of wisdom. You are so right.
Thanks Dad.
Mary, You are so very kind to me as all of my friends here are.
A heartfelt thank you to all.
Also to AliG who let me cry on her shoulder yesterday.
Thanks for the shoulder and support.
I haven't eaten in about 2 days. Can't.
Just gag on food.
Already clothes that were tight are loose.
I can only hope and pray that the Lord allows me to return your love and support.
Hugs,
Geneal
Posted by jenny76 (Member # 18205) on :
Geneal I am so sorry for your loss. I know that words cannot take the ache in your heart away but know that we are thinking about and praying for you.
Know that he will always be a part of your family and in time, when the pain has healed a bit, keep his memory alive by talking about all the funny and cute memories you have to hold on to.
Hugs
Posted by Stacyb (Member # 13084) on :
Geneal,
Prayers and hugs to you for all that you are going thru. You were one of the first to reach out to me when my son was in trouble over a yr. ago with symptoms. You should know how much your kindness has helped. He is doing so well now.
Hope things get better soon!
Posted by just don (Member # 1129) on :
Geneal, Your so welcome my dear. here is another whole round of hugs and well wishes since this is a NEW day,,,so you get new hugs and prayers
Posted by randibear (Member # 11290) on :
i am so very sorry for your loss. i just about went out of my mind when my baby died and she was 12 1/2.
they truly give us unconditional love. no matter how many you have, you love them all.
it's especially hard on children.
you've been a steady rock for me and i appreciate all that you have done.
give yourself time to grieve, it's ok. look at pictures of them and remember.
we still talk about her practically every couple of days and laugh about the stuff she did.
maybe you could have a little ceremony with the children with the ashes and talk to her/him. like they did in marley and me. it might help
again, i am so very sorry.
i wish there ws something i could do for you so if you need anything, anything at all, just pm me.
Posted by janice victorov (Member # 22937) on :
Hi, I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. It's tough losing a pet. They are members of the family.
you will be in my prayers.
Janice
Posted by grandmother (Member # 19908) on :
Posted by sixgoofykids (Member # 11141) on :
Hugs, Geneal, I'm so sorry ....
And, six dogs? Are you crazy???? (This coming from someone who has six kids and knows she is crazy!)
Posted by sammy (Member # 13952) on :
Sending you a Big Hug and lots of prayers too
Posted by 2roads (Member # 4409) on :
Oh Geneal,
I am sooo sorry for your family.
I believe Tupper to be in a better place. Surely out of pain and illness.
It's so hard to see the children sad, but it is a teaching in the circle of life. Someday they will experience more loss, and remembering how they coped with Tupper will help stear them in any future loss even if it is more horrific.
Time is your best friend. Time lessens the pain. Try to celebrate Tupper's life with stories and laughter and remind them that he is not gone, but with God. He's playing one heck of a fetch with the big guy, and giving him a run for his money.
I can relate to finances. Mine aren't great either, nor is our health progress which means more money, or giving up and later even more money with less hope. I can imagine that everyone on this board relates to financial outcry, especially after the holidays. I am trying to plan and budget.
My husband and I go through ups and downs. We always circle back around and do it again. Sounds like it's just a low time that will pass. Crisis weighs even heavier.
Big Hugs , and prayers. One day at a time.
2roads
Posted by Geneal (Member # 10375) on :
I feel like there is always a crisis.
Maybe one day I will get a "Crisis" free pass good for at least one week.
My husband and I have been through a lot.
More financial woes and difficulties than most.
Katrina, Lyme, rebuilding, no job, two jobs....
With two young children 6 and 8, times just go from mini crisis to max.
One failing reading. One thinks she is going on 19.
I know Tupper was truly loved.
I was wrong though. He was 11.5 years old.
It's funny that he was never a demanding dog.
Not one to be in the center of attention.
Just there. Mostly on the outskirts.
Funny how unassuming he was, he managed to wriggle his way
So deep into my heart and soul. I knew I loved him.
I just didn't realize how very much.
I think the experience was hard but good for the children.
They wanted to know why it was Tupper's time.
I told him because he was sick and not able to eat or drink.
Didn't want to go on walks. In short, didn't enjoy his life.
I told them that the greatest gift of love we could give him was to let him free of all of that.
I am trying to plan and budget. I've managed to curtail
Our grocery bill at Walmart from 300.00+ to 200.00 for two weeks.
I am rather proud of that.
Not easy when there are four people, but many dogs.
Most dogs are about 80-100lbs.
Tupper was 27lbs. Second to my smallest.
He required special dietary care though.
I miss fixing his "special" food.
He would "sing" to me and prance around.
I always fed him first.
He did this up until 3 days ago.
Had major GI surgery 3.5 years ago.
Never had a "normal" system.
I know he lasted this long because of our love and my dedication to his needs.
I'd do it again gladly.
He's not my first dog I've lost. Just the first I was able to hold
While he was being put to sleep. First time I had to make the decision.
Hard, so very hard. Yet, my Mom said that I would know when the time was right.
I did.
Thanks again from the bottom of my heart for all of your prayers and hugs.
I am so blessed to be surrounded by so many Angels.
Thank you and Thank you God.
Hugs,
Geneal
Posted by sometimesdilly (Member # 9982) on :
(((((Geneal)))))) sending you hugs and hope.
love, dilly
Posted by Jane2904 (Member # 15917) on :
So sorry for your loss Geneal.
Hope brighter days are in store for you and your family.
Hugs, Jane
Posted by AliG (Member # 9734) on :
"I can only hope and pray that the Lord allows me to return your love and support."
Geneal, Sweetestheart
I sincerely doubt that I am the only one here that is indebted to you for love and support a thousand times over already. You've paid it forward many times.
You can cry on my shoulder ANYTIME!!!
You know how I feel (heads up - aNOTHER incoming PM) & I'm even saying extra prayers for you over here.
I pray that God will send Angels to rest upon your shoulders to comfort you, give you strength & bring you peace.
MORE Love & hugs & prayers, Ali
Posted by map1131 (Member # 2022) on :
Geneal, you so deserve better days. I pray they are coming very soon. You hang in there for the kids and YOURSELF.
Pam
Posted by opus2828 (Member # 15407) on :
Geneal, lifting you and your family in prayer. I'm so sorry about Tupper.
Posted by Tincup (Member # 5829) on :
You know you will have my prayers to comfort you.
And I was thinking MAYBE we should all chip in and buy you a firefighters hat.. one of those big yellow ones.
It seems it might be useful as you are always running around putting out fires, poor dear.. so my bet is it would come in handy!
May soon the fires you have to deal with, well I hope they will be warming your heart and not be a source of trouble.
Posted by kidsgotlyme (Member # 23691) on :
Sending prayers up for your family during this time.
Posted by elley0531 (Member # 9434) on :
lots of loving thoughts coming your way. You did the absolute right thing for your darling friend. I had to do it once too and saying it is hard is almost insulting because it doesn't even come close to how sad it can be-but a day will come when it feels good to look back on your pup.
Good luck with your finances and marriage-you have been through more than most-try to pull out that inner fighter. My prayers are sent wishing you better days ahead...
Posted by Tracy9 (Member # 7521) on :
Geneal, I am so sorry about Tupper. It seems like just yesterday you lost your beloved pig; I am sure this loss brings that one to the surface as well.
You are, as I have said so many times before, one of the most pure, kind hearted people I have ever met on this board. I only wish more here would follow your lead.
I hate to hear of you hurting. I wish I could take it away. If we could all take a little piece of it from you so you would not have to suffer, we would.
You are a wonderful person. Sometimes changes in life are necessary. I am thinking about your marriage, and the many times you have been treated unfairly.
I don't want to overstep my bounds, but know that you have a lot of people loving you and pulling for you. You deserve to be happy, even if it means a difficult change and tough road in the beginning.
I've been there.....have never looked back once on my decision.
xoxoxo
Posted by Pinelady (Member # 18524) on :
Prayers for a guiding light to help you down your dark and bumpy road.
Posted by JR (Member # 16898) on :
Grief from the loss of a pet is so very real.
Animals more than anyone can love us so unconditionally, good days/bad days no matter what.
Our Vet sends out sympathy cards to families that have had to put a pet down. It helps us to realize we made the right decision.
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