up that her husband was on his way home (they live with me)... he quit his job.
I am so upset, because he just went back to work on Tuesday after being home for 6 weeks from a fall that occured at work.
They moved in in Nov. and the BOY(22) got this job in Feb. and I haven't had peace since... so as you can see here in my post...he's only worked 1 week since he moved in!!!
I got mad,took a shower and put my make-up on... got over being mad... now I can't quit crying.
Maybe I'm being self centered... I like my alone time during the day, and can't seem to have it anymore.
I will talk to my daughter tonight and give them a date to move out... 2 more months enough?
Diane
PS.. It makes my head and body ache when I stress... anyone else?
[ 03-11-2010, 11:44 AM: Message edited by: MDW005 ]
Posted by momintexas (Member # 23391) on :
First off....here's a hug.
You are not being self centered for wanting your alone time during the day. We all need alone time sometimes.
It's perfectly understandable to be emotional. You are in a stressful situation.
These days, commercials make me bawl. You at least have a legitimate reason to be upset!! And I think 60 days is a very fair timeline.
Keep your chin up and hold your ground. Posted by Lymetoo (Member # 743) on :
Bummer!!! I know what you mean about down time and peace and quiet too!!
Hope he has a good reason to be quitting!!!
2 months sounds generous
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Posted by Hoosiers51 (Member # 15759) on :
Awwwww...I completely know the feeling! I don't do well with others sharing my "space," unless it's my husband. I feel tense when others are always around me, like I can't relax.
I think that would drive me nuts too. You aren't overreacting.
I had a lot of relatives staying with me around Christmas. At one point, when my Mom had been at my place for over a week, I just started crying from being so overwhelmed by not having quiet time. I just couldn't stand it anymore.
I think 2 months is more than fair. Best of luck, and so sorry!!! (((hug)))
Posted by MDW005 (Member # 22706) on :
Thankou everyone for the hugs.
Posted by MDW005 (Member # 22706) on :
Talked to my daughter (24)... she was very understanding and agreed that 2 monthe was plenty. End of May they will move, and then then boys will be out of school for 2 1/2 months for summer break. I might get 1 week of quiet time.
I guess 1 week is better than none.
Diane
Posted by Topaz (Member # 20216) on :
I think it's a great idea that you gave them a date to be out. That way, you are helping them out till they can get back on their feet, yet can look forward to your own space once again.
Posted by MDW005 (Member # 22706) on :
update... daughters husband still does not have a job.
We told him he has two weeks to find a job, and if not he is forcing us to kick the both of them out.
I told my daughter I would drive him around to look... he got upset and didn't want my help. so he is out walking right now. He told my daughter it's a pride thing!
I'm sorry can someone please tell me the difference between PRIDE and IGNORANCE
I told him while he is walking to think about those two words.
Lyme rage!!! Scorpio sting!!! or just fed up!!!
I need a nerve pill. anyone know of a good supplement. Thanks for listening
Diane
Posted by TnFlowerChild (Member # 24717) on :
What he needs is a GROW UP pill!!!
You have my condolences....
Stick to your guns or he will never grow up! It's a shame you have to "raise" him too!
Keeping you in my thoughts...
P.S. Xanax is good for giving you a case of the "don't-give-a-sh**s"! Nothing I know of that is natural works that well! (Not easy to get a Rx for though...) Posted by TnFlowerChild (Member # 24717) on :
Oh by the way...
Posted by MDW005 (Member # 22706) on :
Thank you flower. I needed your voice and hug.
Diane
Posted by 2roads (Member # 4409) on :
Here's another hug....
I think you have been very generous by offering a roof and a ride.
In my opinion, a date is a good idea because he sounds like he needs a little goal making and motivation.
Sounds like they have children and you are really doing a yo-mother (grandmother) thing.
Maybe he could put an add in the paper, and look there as well.
Hang in there-
2roads
Posted by MDW005 (Member # 22706) on :
Hi 2roads. No they don't have children. But they do have a husky dog that sheds all the time. this daughter I don't think will ever have children. So I have a grand-doggie. Thankyou for the hug.
Posted by sutherngrl (Member # 16270) on :
Tough Love!!! I had to use it!
When my son was 20 and 1/2 and my daughter was 23 and both living at home; I gave them 6 months to move out. I told them they HAD to go even if they had to live in a shack or worse.
I did not back down. And it was the best decision I ever made.
Some kids have to be forced to grow up and take responsibility. Stick by your guns!!! It will pay off in the end.
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