My mom, who was 87 and suffering from congestive heart failure had a hip fracture and fell a week ago. She made it through the surgery, but went into renal failure.
There are 10 of us "kids", 18 grandkids and 20 great-grandkids.
Unlike Randibear's family, we all get along and nobody is fighting over anything. In fact, we're having a hard time convincing some of the next generation to take something to remember her by.
One of my sisters-in-law was so touched when we told her that she was getting the "memory quilt" that we had done for my mom's 80th birthday. She was instrumental in putting it together.
So far, we're all coping well, but the time will come when everyone goes back to their respective homes that it will really hit hard. I visited with my mom once or twice every week and am in charge of her financial dealings. My youngest brother and I are co-executors of her estate and we have no clue what we have to do! First step, call her attorney.
Please keep me in your thoughts and wish me luck. I had to cancel my LLMD appointment last week, but only postponed until the 20th, so I should be OK.
Posted by tdtid (Member # 10276) on :
Hurtinggramma,
I am so very sorry to hear of your loss.
It's true what they say....the death of love one either brings out the best or worst in people.
No one knows how it will effect even those closest to you until it happens.
I'm glad you are all there for each other. Still doesn't ease the pain of the loss, but please know we are here for you.
Cathy
Posted by bejoy (Member # 11129) on :
I am sorry to hear about your loss. Even when someone is older, and it may be their time to go, when you love them you still miss them a whole lot. Thinking of you. I hope you can still feel her close by.
Posted by treepatrol (Member # 4117) on :
Sorry
Posted by Geneal (Member # 10375) on :
So sorry for your loss.
Sending prayers to you and your family
During this most difficult time.
Hugs,
Geneal
Posted by Lymetoo (Member # 743) on :
I'm so sorry to hear this, hg!! I know she will be missed greatly by your family. My mother died of congestive heart failure and kidney failure too. [and lyme]
I know you will be able to handle the paperwork....just one step at a time.
HUGS to you and your family! Posted by AZURE WISH (Member # 804) on :
So sorry for you loss (((hurtingrandma)))
You and your family are in my thoughts. Posted by mtree (Member # 14305) on :
10 kids!!.
boy did your mom have her hands full....and lived till 87...sounds like a very strong person...
Hg... I'm so sorry for your loss.
mtree
Posted by joalo (Member # 12752) on :
I'm so sorry about your mom. I know how hard it is to lose a parent...
Posted by PinchotGail (Member # 5066) on :
So sorry to hear about your Mother's passing My Dad has congestive heart failure also. Sending prayers to you and your family.
Cyber hugs,
Gail
Posted by lymeinhell (Member # 4622) on :
I am so sorry for your loss.
Just know that people care that you are hurting.
Here's some things that helped get me through many losses:
BUSY.... Busy always helps. Things that involve lots of little work with your hands. Stencil something. Plant some bulbs (planted over 1000 when I lost my Mom). Hang border. Then rip it down (when I lost my Dad, lots of rooms got redone) ... Detail the inside of my car.
And then there's always shopping... or window shopping..
Know that it's ok to feel however you feel. Hurt, angry, melancholy, or even if you just need to stick your head in the sand for a while. You're entitled to feel that way. We all heal differently.
Remember her. Talk about her. Tell stories about her. And she will never leave you. Posted by desertcanyon (Member # 17998) on :
I am so sorry.
Posted by proudmom (Member # 15532) on :
Sorry to hear of your loss. It sounds like your mom has left quite a legacy and raised a wonderful family.
Peace be with you and your family while you all go through this transition in life.
proudmom
Posted by Peedie (Member # 15355) on :
Hurtingramma I'm sorry to about you mother passing on. My husband's mom died just 2 months after my dad died in a very similar way your's did. How very wonderful she lived to see grandchildren and greatgrand children! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. -Peedie
Posted by bettyg (Member # 6147) on :
grandma,
sending you my heartfelt sympathies to you/extended family on the loss of your beloved mom!
so glad things are going well on dividing up things and NO FRICTION.
may you receive some comfort from my below poems; MOM POEMS ARE AT END OF COLLECTION!!
is her funeral tomorrow? best wishes and we are here for you anytime you need us ok!
does youngest brother live close by since you are co-executors? that will help on paperwork of both of you signing checks.
do an inventory of her lock box....required.
Posted by hurtingramma (Member # 7770) on :
Thank you everyone for your kind thoughts.
The funeral is today, then the hard part begins after everyone goes home.
Bettyg - thank you for the poems. We actually used the "God's Garden" on the back of the card that were handed out.
My brother, the co-executor does live nearby and we have a good attorney to guide us through the process. We got papers out of her safe-deposit box yesterday. Mostly her will and he insurance papers. She was well prepared.
Her funeral had been all pre-arranged, including all the music and readings for the service, who she wanted to sing what (we're a musical family) and she had put all her assets with one agent and listed the estate as beneficiary.
She has been preparing for this day beginning 4 years ago when she had a quadruple bypass.
I may make it through the song I'm singing in a quartet, but I know I will break down when my brother sings "How Great Thou Art". He sang the same song at my son's funeral in 1982.
Posted by randibear (Member # 11290) on :
i am so very sorry for your loss. i'm still grieving and will grieve for you also.
i'm happy tho that you are not going through the hell i went through with my sisters
not only did i loose my mother but now my sisters are dead to me, so i have no one.
Posted by feelfit (Member # 12770) on :
((((( hurtingramma )))))
In my thoughts!
feelfit
Posted by bettyg (Member # 6147) on :
hurting gramma
i'm glad you enjoyed the poems, etc; they have helped me many times since i started losing close family members since 79....
wow, a musical family and a quartet; your mom's so proud of you all!! prayers headed your way... Posted by Liz D (Member # 16739) on :
Sorry for your loss..
Posted by GraceT (Member # 16558) on :
You have my Deepest Sympathy!
I'd love to spend time with my Mom, but have a roadblock to get to her. She's 84 with terminal cancer.
All of her properties will go to the other children. I asked her to leave me out of her will many years ago, because I knew there would be problems w/middle sister.
So Very Glad your family has the kind of communications, integrity and values that family should be made of.
In your Mother's passing - your family story touches my heart-strings.
Mom - Be with the Angles. Grace
Posted by eric555 (Member # 18343) on :
Very Sorry For your Loss
Have no other words...
Posted by LisaS (Member # 10581) on :
Like Eric, I have no other words, just soo sorry for your loss!
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