Topic: narsisistic personality disorder: anyone dealing with friend or relativ with this?
daystar1952
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Jackie....I interrupt also and I have noticed that this is a trait of people with Lyme and or CFS/Fibro. I can often predict who has these chronic illnesses by observing whether they talk fast, interrupt and drift into other subjects(can't stay focused on train of thought).
Now that you bring this up tho...I wonder if we have these traits just due to Lyme brain or if it is at least partially due to dealing with the narcissists in our lives?
That is fascinating that you saw them actually place blood on the child at a fox hunt. I want to look into that more. I thought perhaps it was a rumor.
Even though it's not fun relaizing that a parent or other person close to you has these traits....on the other hand it is fascinating and empowering to learn that its not you that has the deficiencies. I look back and say...."Oh my God.....that's what she was doing when she would do this or say that. It is just so revealing.
I feel the same as you Jackie....I just always thought my mother had odd quirks and said stupid or hurtful things because she didn't know any better. Now I can see that she certainly did know what she was saying and doing.
Despite this tho....we must not stoop to their level. In a way, that's what they want
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jackie51
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When I read this thread Thursday morning, it hit me like a ton of bricks.
I do think lyme plays a big part in our behavior and when I am doing most well, I have more patience and I truly care more about others. When I feel sub-par, then all my energy is just getting me through the day.
My mother has actually felt better in the last 5 years as she has been taking plaquenil due to RA. I have noticed that she actually listens to me talk about the chronic lyme. But, I still am careful. Sometimes she listens only to subject me to criticism.
I don't think my mom knows what she is doing. I think for the most part she is miserable. All these beautiful grandchildren, great grandchildren, and it barely registers on her radar. Though, she does brag about us. Go figure.
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daystar1952
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Supposedly they have no real feelings and have become very adept at acting. Hey....maybe that's why most people in the acting industry are so screwed up!
I always knew my mother was mstly about appearances but I never knew the depth of this or why. Now that she is 92, most appearances are fading fast and her behavior is getting so much worse that it has finally given her away. They say there is nothing worse than an aging narcissist and that you are much better off if you stay completely away from them.
However, if you are an only child and are the only one really left to help...then I feel we have to do what is right.In my case I feel I should be as kind as I can be and helpful.....BUT that does not mean that I* should let her walk all over me and use me. I am learning to set boundaries and not respond to all the drama and chaos that she creates over nothing. It's amazing
Supposedly they do this for attention. Yes....be very careful what you divulge to your mother. That is a very telling trait.....they can be very nosey and interested but it is usually to use against you...by criticizing or in some other ways that a normal person wouldn't even tie in to the info shared. They think totally differently from us which is why it's so hard to understand them and to realize what they are really up to.
They have made very careful study of "normal" people because they had to learn how to ACT normal.Because they know us so well.....what they think are our weaknesses...they know how to hurt and manipulate us.
So....consequently...it is also becoming necessary for the free survival of the "normal" people....to learn all they can about what makes these people tick
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lpkayak
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wow-you guys are creeping me out. i foxhunted a lot when i was a kid and there was never any blood on kids...actually i dont think we ever caught a fox
but i interrupt too since lyme and my head traumas and i know it is cuz if i have something to add to a conversation i need to say it right then or i will forget it...if i can write a note to myself...then i dont have to interupt
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