Topic: What do ladies with lyme do with their grays?
Keebler
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- It's important to remember that "old wrinkled women who have dirty and stringy long hair" may not have the resources for it to be any other way.
It takes physical energy, physical ability, and resources to maintain one's appearance. Not everyone can do that. I just went 5 full days without a shower due to major skin rashes. Had anyone seen me, I would have been mortified.
As for a nice haircut, those with "long stringy" hair may not be able to afford a haircut or go into even a low cost salon.
I've not been able to go into any business in four years. No longer can afford to have someone come to my home to cut my hair (minimum $50. for that) . . . so, through sheer luck, I've been able to cut my own hair 4 times with okay results.
It takes me all day, each time, and I have to rest on the bathroom floor on and off - barely able to vacuum up and shower after all that - but I'd guess that most who can't afford or can't go into a salon might not be as lucky as I have been with scissors and my razor in hands that go numb.
It's an adventure. Never know what the end result will be but that's the exciting part. Mostly, I just need to get it from irritating me so I keep it short.
Yep, I just take that razor to the back and go to town, giving, "shag" or "layered cut" a whole new meaning. I could use a better mirror system as most of this is just doing it "blind" but some angel of home haircuts must be with me.
Still, they style aside. As common with lyme, et.al.,
Many times, I have to decide between energy for preparing a meal or a shower.
So, it may be easy to assume women with dirty or stringy hair may have just let themselves slide but I know that is not the case (even if it appears so and even if they seem to have just given up, is that not the effect of ill health?)
For many, just skipping one day can be too much. My hair needs daily washing to keep from getting oily. But my body can't handle that and bending over a sink is a sure way for me to pass out. My guess it that may be the same for other women who appear to "let themselves go."
Defending all who may be misjudged. We can't know the truths of anyone else's life. Ever.
I have also learned that not everyone can have clean clothes.
For those who need help with laundry (and whose hands won't allow wringing or hand-washing of clothes in the sink), they may only be able to afford such help once every month or two.
I have to limit the clothes I wear as the person I hire every 6 or 8 weeks can only carry so much to the laundry room, down stairs and quite a distance.
So, I understand now more about others whom I've misjudged in the past. I'm sure there are many out there who can't afford to hire anyone at all. And, for many the criteria to getting any help is if they can "toilet" themselves or not. If so, no matter what else, they are on their own.
We just can't know. -
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I think it also depends upon HOW you gray. My mother's never looked "bad." It was just interspersed with her brown hair. She never went completely gray and she died at age 81.
If mine will look like hers, I'm not going to change it. (I say)
I realized not long ago that a photo of her at age 59 showed almost completely brown hair. (didn't realize her age in that pic until recently)
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randibear
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My sil has a job and works full time. And she doesn't have Lyme. So she can afford haircuts and shampoo.
Sorry but i disagree. I've been poor, dirt poor. Raised in the mountains of tennessee where all we had was rain wAter and lye soap. But we never ever went dirty.
Ive gone maybe 2 days without a shower. I just cant stand it. I admit ive gone out lots of time with no makeup but I'm clean.
I've seen women and teenagers buying tons of stuff in Walmart so there's no excuse. If they can afford beer And cigarettes then they can afford soap. And If they've got enough energy to be out shopping then they have energy to shower.
I'm not talking bout sick people cause I am one. But as Bad as I feel I'm clean when I go out.
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map1131
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gigi, certainly wasn't meaning to insult you, young 81 yr old. I'm 55 and I don't want to feel 100 and look 100.
Shouldn't insult anyone with that number.
My hair dresser told me my "silver" is not the pretty headed colors. Some people have beautiful silver/gray and I'm not going to be one of those. Of well.
Toxic for now Pam
-------------------- "Never, never, never, never, never give up" Winston Churchill Posts: 6495 | From Louisville, Ky | Registered: Jan 2002
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A friend of mine had quite a bit of gray hair. She started taking iodine drops and most of it has turned back to dark.
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Pocono Lyme
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I just came across this and remembered this thread in case someone is interested.
9 But he said to me, �My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.� Therefore I will boast all the more gladly about my weaknesses, so that Christ�s power may rest on me. Posts: 1445 | From Poconos, PA | Registered: Jul 2004
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AuntyLynn
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lymenotlite -
I've heard the same thing about copper restoring hair color - and women need copper as we lose it every month - but it's a tricky thing to supplement IMHO. Too much can actually be dangerous.
PoconoLyme -
I think this is the natural brand that is sold at Whole Foods Market. If I wanted to color, I would certainly give this type of product a try.
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AuntyLynn
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quote: The one problem I have found is that potential employers react to gray hair. Again, if the large proportion of older people who work would go natural, then this would no longer be a problem. [/QB]
Unfortunately, I believe you are correct on this. Walk into a job interview with a shining head of silver, and some personnel managers get this look on their face like they just can't imagine WHAT on earth you must be thinking!
Honestly, I think the tie-dyed hot pink streaks (matched with the obligatory tatoos) are more accepted around here than someone who has decided to go natural. (But as I said, hair color is a real "culture" here in metro NY.)
Kind of sad that the "beauty industry" has made so many people feel uncomfortable about themselves. (But it's all about some faceless executive's bottom line.)
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