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timaca
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What do you all say to yourself, or do for yourself to help yourself stay positive when you're having a bad day?

Thanks....Tina


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Some days are so hard, but if I get out of the house, and distract myself, it is so much easier to get through the day. I am able to, though. I find that staying home, and focussing on the illness makes it worse m=for me.

I came across a quote the other day, on one of the lyme groups, and can't remember where, and as simple as it was, I found it to be consoling: " Tough times never last, tough people do..."

So, hopefully, you'll feel a little better too!


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Hi Tina!

I have been worried about you and not seeing you post after I knew things were rough for you!

Have things improved physically at all?

Staying positive thru this treatment/disease. I dont know- for me, watching funny stuff on tv/ movies helps. Or watching something more tragic than my life like Hotel Rwanda or a documentary on a war or something makes me feel like I got it made.

Distraction works the best for me when it is rough going.

WHat can you do to distract? Sometimes time is all that is needed to get over a hurdle. SOmetimes more than that, but try the time first.

Know I am thinking about you and hoping you are able to find the strength to swim or do something fun today.

Trails


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Hi Trails~

Thanks for posting and sending good thoughts my way. My e-mail quit working recently, so I can't send e-mails, yet I can post on forums...go figure!

My shoulder DID improve. It was just killing me (which is why I thought of you!)...now, a few days later, it is MUCH better. I figure that is a lyme thing for sure. It was nice to do a few weights at the club today (not near what I used to do, for sure...but nice just the same). And your're right...I need to watch how I sleep on my shoulder too!

I am feeling less "lymie" today too. I was great last Friday, and then took a nosedive. I hadn't expected that, and sure didn't like it, for no one wants to go backwards!

I wonder if it wasn't related to my menstrual cycle...I am going to track that. I heard there can be flares around that time of the month, and that could have been what happened to me!

Thanks for your suggestions...I do try to find things to make me laugh. I love Dave Barry books!

And...someone wrote that friends are those who stick around when the going gets tough...when other people tend to leave. So..it's nice to look at the friends that have stayed around me during this time! (A certain doctor seems to be one friend that left! )

Thanks for stating in your private email to me that the SLOW in improvement cannot be emphasised enough. That helped a lot!

Good luck with your move, and keep me posted!

I'm glad I could write to you here. You can still e-mail me, and I can read it through my server's web page for now....

Thanks everyone for the positive suggestions....only another lyme person really knows what it feels like to face ANOTHER day feeling yucky.

Tina



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Oh gooooood. Glad the shoulder is not a constant.

I am having a horrific day with lots of lyme symptoms and it is b/c I am going to get my period any second.

I went from feeling pretty well yesterday to arm buzzing and tingling, severe awful headaches, vision problems, concentration is OUT OF IT, stabbing pains in my face, twitching that is much worse, ringing in my ears and severe severe severe fatigue. As in pack a box and go take a nap, (for an hour) pack another box and quit for the day.

Oh well, it will get done. And I get monthly flares BIG TIME so I can only hope that this is what is happening again. Track it for sure, you'll be surprised!

We'll keep in touch!
Slow and steady wins the Lyme race.
trails


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Hi timaca,

When I am at my lowest point, I think of something I am grateful for and focus on that.
So, when I am in pain, I think of how bad the pain used to be. When my son is having a bad day, I think about the wonderful doctor he has..etc

This helps me along with praying.

Good luck to you.


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Timaca,

When I am having a bad day I do three things:

1) think of a beautiful waterfall that I have hiked to

2) play uplifting music
3) get on my knees and pray to God

Hope things look up for you soon. Hiker


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It depends what kind of bad day I'm having. If I'm in lots of pain, I take medicine for the pain and give myself an excuse to watch bad tv and cuddle with my cats.

If I can handle it, sometimes I get all dolled up and go out for a night on the town. Pretend I'm healthy, and it sometimes makes me feel healthy.

Sometimes I just think about how lucky I am that I found Lymenet and that I found out I have Lyme and got treatment. The days were a lot worse when I didn't have answers or hope.


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I understand what you're going through. I'm in the dumps now too. Remember you're not alone. It has really helped me to share with everyone here.

Also, try to think back to something that you did that made you smile. Trust in your heart that you will be in that situation again- both happy and healthy.

My prayers are with you!


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Hi,

I think it is important to keep a journal, especially recording good days.

When the bad /painful days come, read the journal, you can be assured that "this will pass".

Due to Lyme and pain being so deceitful, the journal will confirm the truth.

DO not get stuck in the moment or in your world.
Make your lens broud and take in the rest of the world.

There is something we can learn from all of this, even when we don't want to.

Your friend Jesus is sitting right there with ya. Tell Him all that you feel.

Peace,
BJG


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I've had some really low moments since I started dealing with this. I've kept in touch with friends via email (shortness of breath has made it hard for me to talk on the phone). Their support has been invaluable.
I watch funny movies and ask friends to suggest some of their favorites.
When I can work (I work with kids) that takes me right out of myself, so it's a big gift.
I put fresh flowers in different rooms of the house.
I keep a running gratitude list -- just reading it or adding to it -- reminds me of all I do have.
I stay out of the past, when I was traveling internationally and did high-profile work involving a lot of pols and celebrities. It's just too hard to compare that to now, when I sometimes struggle to walk across the room and can't keep up with a lively conversation.
Meditation has been great, too. I try to do that at least once a day.
Did I mention laughing? That's probably the best. I'm in deep trouble when I'm taking myself too seriously.
Hope this helps; at least you know you're not alone with your feelings.



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GREAT thread!

I keep a journal too. Helps my docs see how I've been all month. PLUS, helps me realize that the bad times ARE going to let up, even if it takes a while.

Another thing I do is to make fun of myself and my Lyme-brain. One of my favorite sayings is "If you can't laugh at yourself, someone else is gonna." My co-workers used to get weepy with worry, now they're all Lyme-literate and paste post-it reminders all over my desk, and make gentle jabs about how I'll forget the entire conversation in five minutes. :-)

Another thing I do: Go fishing. Often.

Michelle M


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Thanks, everyone, for your replies. They have been very helpful!

I have been marking each day on my calendar with a score...so I can keep track of how I'm doing (see if the meds are helping!) or see if my bad days are linked to my menses.

The latter may very well be....we'll see what next month brings.

My "rankings" go something like this (and I'm open to suggestions on how to rate my days) A (1) means bad day...I'm down. A (2) means I can function, but just barely and I feel awful. (3) I can function and do slightly above the necessary...maybe add something extra like make some cookies (4) I can do the extra with some enthusiasm and energy (5) A really good day...clear head....lots of energy....normal is even in view (I've only had one of these days since starting IV antibiotics).

I will remember all your suggestions for my 1 and 2 days...thanks SO much...Tina


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Tina,
Before I even had a confirmed Lyme diagnosis, I did a search on google and wound up with a very symptom specific chart, which I track at the end of each day. It breaks this all down into its insidious and obvious symptoms and, like your calendar chart, uses a more graphic representation:
blank for no symptom
-- for light symptom
an x for pretty bad
and completely colored in for debilitating symptom.
I really like this, because I can look at it and very graphically see clusters of good days AND herxes. The herxes are pretty predictable so far, at least in their timing. Their specific symptoms each time have been an endless surprise!
If I can find that link with the chart again, I'll post it or email it directly to you.
Charting like this also helps me remember this is a disease; it's not something I've done or some personal thing.
That's important for me on those really nasty days when I start beating myself up for not accomplishing more, etc.


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Found the chart for anyone who might be interested. There's one with and one without symptoms. It's in a PDF file, but I had no trouble printing it.
http://www.lymepa.org/html/monthly_symptoms_charts.html


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I try to remember that there is always someone who is worse off than I am.

And it could always be worse. Always.


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I have definitely found a connection between menses and flare ups for me, so do keep track of your health thru the month.

I have learned to take life a day at a time. If the day seems too long, then I work hour by hour. I have a warped sense of humor which I thank God for everyday because if I ever lost that, I would just give up....

My motto.....life is too important to be taken seriously (Oscar Wilde)

I know that another day is coming and if today is poopy, hopefully tomorrow won't be. I also think that while my day may suck, there are those that have it far worse and I try to remember them in my prayers. I try to get the focus off me and the illness and on to something else....
cootiegirl


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Awesome symptom list at the lyme pa web site....lots of good info there. Thanks for posting it!

Tina


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