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I'm a woman with neuro lyme. I am in my mid 30s, married--and I've developed a crush!
It's very confusing to me because I am feeling like a 14 year old.
I'm even noticing men's body's in advertisements, on billboards, etc.. And this is just not me.
My philosophy has always been--my husband is my one and only and I don't even notice other men or pay attention to buff guys in advertisements. This is just how I'm wired--or was wired.
My thoughts are intrusive and obsessive! I have a crush like I'm a schoolgirl!!!
Does anyone think that neurological lyme can affect the brain in this way? Or maybe the lyme has affected my hormones? Has anyone else experienced this? Posts: 2 | From ca | Registered: Oct 2006
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I'm not sure how long I've had lyme. But pretty sure I didn't have it as a young teen. On abx since January.
Maybe it is a herx and as I detox, the feelings will diminish along with the toxins. I hope so. Don't know how long I can take these obsessive thoughts. Totally irrational. Posts: 2 | From ca | Registered: Oct 2006
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I have had the same things. And the crushes can be overwhelming and lead to anxiety attacks for me. It is not normal. It ebbs and flows... as do my emotions with the Lyme. But it does become very obsessy and about the stupidest things... inlcuding a little crush that gets blown out of proportion because of my confused mental state.
And then, by the very same token, I can completely lose interest in somebody and there is no reversing it. Again in an abnormal way.
I like what minimus said - I think that I can feel that happening in me. Like the bacteria, as well as our cells, have memory. When those bacteria come out of the cells, these memories and these f eelings get released and bring us back to a place in time??? When these crushes were normal?
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MagicAcorn
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Crushes are not the same as obsessive thoughts. Crushes are harmless, obsessive thoughts are not.
I think it is unrealistic to think you could never be attracted to someone else, or that your spouse is the only one you will ever notice.
I'm sure your spouse notices other people and probably knows you do too.
In noticing others we realize we are still alive. It is only in the acting of these feelings that morality comes into play.
If it is obsessive maybe it is a problem, but if it is an attraction for someone because you think they are unique and special I say enjoy it. It doesn't have to mean anything.
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treepatrol
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While your in this weakend state dont look at the guy your eyes are what make a covenent first. And remember the love for your husband.
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sometimesdilly
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I've had that crush thing twice since neuro-lyme.
Both times it had NOTHING to do with the man I was obsessing about (both times fairly briefly, thank goodness), nothing to do with my husband, our great marriage- nothing to do with anything that was real. IMO, just weird brain glitches like the ones that make you lose your sense of balance and direction. No different.
The second time it happened, I told my husband all about, and we laughed and shook our heads together. Doing that made it seemd less real and less dark secret-y, so guiltless as well.
This is one STRANGE disease, huh? Be kind to yourself-
Dilly
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lymie tony z
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I've got you......under my skin! I've got you......deep in the chete of me!
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Feva.... Ya give a me.....Feva
Doctor doctor give me the news I got a bad case of lovin you i said a doctor doctor MR MD A will ya tell me. What's ailin me
He said....ya ya ya ya ya ya ya ya ya ya It's true...all you really need.... Is good lovin......
Let's hear ya all sing now......
Anybody want to take a long bus ride to Conecticut with me???
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it is good to have a good sense of humor and we all need it.
i think you may have something there... kristin Posts: 225 | From home | Registered: Aug 2006
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lymie tony z
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Hey minibus...
Nope...way off there buddy... No offense meant to you Kristen...but my first wife was named Kristine...
And if I were gonna pick any name to use ANYWHERE...it sure as steere crap would'nt be anything like Kristine...
I only got one moniker buddy....the zman
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Vermont_Lymie
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Tony Z -- !
This is an interesting subject. I have pondered this question too. I think there was a connection between my neuro-lyme and crushes, despite a happy marriage.
Overall, I think crushes are natures way of telling us that we are alive!
But at my worst period of neuro-lymeness, I found that I developed obsessive-compulsive types of thinking patterns, which are going away now with treatment, and I did not have before lyme. So, they are part of my neuro-lyme complex of symptoms.
Also, unhappiness and depression were part of my worst neuro-lyme symptoms; now lifting after 3 months of antibiotics and supplements.
Neuro-lyme had a big impact on my self-confidence, and as I felt worse, I tended to inflate my estimation of others concurrently.
And, when most unhappy, many people look for diversions, or outside their own mind for reinforcement of their self-worth.
Hope this makes sense. As anxiety provoking as they can be, crushes are pretty harmless as long as they do not become obsessive. If they are a concern, you should speak with a counselor or therapist, they can be a great help! Be well.
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lymie tony z
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Kidding aside blue violet,
What the folks are talking about IS part of this disease in that many experience O/C disorder or bi-polar disorder...
A mainstream shrink though will never admit that it can be caused by a biological infection of the brain... thus interrupting or short circuiting the synapsis of the brain communication...
thus excessive emotional disorders manifest themselves... Like if someone were to open up your cranium and stimulate certain areas of the brain to illicit particular emotional,sensory,nervous system manifestations.
I suppose it could also be a hormonal thing so that the disease in you is transmitted to another mamal....thus helping to perpetuate it's species....
Most individuals with lyme have a lessening of the libido due to numbing of pain along with anxiety and depression.
All these things will lessen and resolve with time and treatment.
Good luck......zman
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I think crushes can be a neuro Lyme symptom and are caused by the spirochetes either affecting a certain part of your brain or an imbalance in certain neurotransmitters.
Hubby has not really had this specific symptom, but he has had the impulsive irritability, cursing at times (not at all normal for him) and maybe the strangest of all is the laughing fits -- everything strikes him as funny and he will laugh so hard he either starts heaving or has a seizure-like episode.
The first time he had a laughing fit I didn't quite know what to make of it as he was getting a Primaxin IV at the time. I did some research and found out there is something called gelastic epilepsy which involves uncontrollable laughter(may not be spelled right). Anyway whenever hubby has one of these spells now he just refers to it as intergallactic epilepsy. It still worries me a little, but it sure beats getting yelled at when the impulsive irritability strikes.
I agree that joking with your husband about inappropriate crushes might decrease the attraction.
Bea Seibert
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It happens to me and a great Lyme friend, too, for the same person! We have a lot (I mean a lot) of great laughs about it. (It's not obsessive for us.) And my hubby is in on the joke. So I figure the boost to our immune systems is good!
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