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I just don't have any words to convey my deepest sympathies. I'm so terribly sorry. TS
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So sorry for your loss at this time. We'll keep you in our prayers
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I hope in time your heart will heal. I'm so sorry for your loss. My condolences...
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mike, those were beautiful words in the song above you posted. xox
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So sorry to hear this.
We prey for your peace and strength at this trying time.
Thank-you for thinking of our Lyme community in honor and remembrance of your husband.
God Bless You-
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I am so sorry for your loss of your husband. This disease is terrible. You are courageous to want to do something positive so soon to honor him. You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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I'm so, so sorry. :-( This breaks my heart. You and your family will be in my prayers.
I would like to post this. It's beautiful and reading it made me tear up:
You can shed tears that he is gone, or you can smile because he has lived. You can close your eyes and pray that he'll come back, or you can open your eyes and see all he's left. Your heart can be empty because you can't see him, or you can be full of the love you shared. You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday, or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday. You can remember him, only that he is gone, or you can cherish his memory and let it live on. You can cry and close your mind, be empty and turn your back Or you can do what he'd want: smile, open your eyes, love, and go on. ~ David Harkins
-------------------- One can never consent to creep when one feels an impulse to soar. ~ Helen Keller
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So sorry to hear of your loss. May God Bless you and your family.
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Has anyone heard from SMJ???? I have come back to this tread at least 10 times since last night. It is really worring me and I don't know why (other than the obvious)???!!!!
Mettalic Blue----beautiful!!!!!
Disturbedme---very nice.
If anyone has had contact with her, please PM me or post it??? If anyone hears about a fund, or if the is a memorial site posted for him; would you mind PMing me please????
I just remembered that this is my last night on my week break from tx and have to start all abx. back tomorrow. So I'm afraid of not be able to look at the comp. for a while, but I can see PM's from my phone as it is not as bright.
God Bless
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i figure tonight was perhaps visitation and tomorrow funeral, etc.
i'm sure she will post as soon as she feels up to it unloading all the grief/stress she has been going thru since this happened suddenly.
come back when YOU FEEL UP TO IT; we're always here for you.
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It's been about two hours since I posted and I can't sleep. I keep getting angry, then crying. I then go to all of the sites posted to reads about yhe IDSA guidelines and all suggestions on how and what to address in a letter.
Them I try to compswe a letter and I CAN'T!!!!!!!!! I can't seem to put my thoghts, my words,-----can't even strat it!!!!!!!!!!! WHY???!!!
I'm sorry its just that I;m so upset right now, but i know complaining doesn't help any. It's just that there was a time that I cuold write a porfessional letter, abfter staying up all night doing research to back the letter. Now----I'ts hard to post right now.
I hate waht is happening to people. And most want to uren their heads to it all untill they have a faimly member orf them themselves are infected. Why!!!!??????? I honestly don't understa nd!
Some say money-----------sorry, cant' except that one. There is no amount of mon ey can replace a lost life ofr quility of life.
Polotics-----Nope, I can't except that either!!! Bavere has there been a time when all agree on any one issuse.
Oh I'm sorry, i can see all of the mistakes im making but i can't correct them right now.
Betty----Please pray that the Lord will opens the eves of so many woh are responsa ble or have a pert in patients not being diagnosed right, having correct treatment,---yhou know.
God bless you all
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Sorry for your great loss. Wishing you lots of support in the days to come.
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I am so very sorry, what a tragic loss. Please accept my heartfelt condolences.
How kind of you to think of others at this time. You are in our prayers.
-------------------- This is NOT medical advice - and should NOT be used to replace your MD's advice. Info is only the opinion of those who publish the site.
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I am thinking of you and your family. This is just so very sad and we are all thinking of you and lifting you up in prayer.
I pray your pain will ease with time and you will forever be filled with only the good memories of you and your husbands life together.
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So sorry for your lose. I am praying for you and your family during this very hard time.
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You all are such a blessing. Thank you for these words. I will read them again later on because everything is just a haze for me. I'm still in disbelief and the heartache is unimaginable. You know what Karl was going through, though. I know he is free of his messed up body and is healthy and whole again.
Karl was only 34. Way to young to die. He started with this in January 2008. Never did we think he would be dead a year later.
I'm going to keep fighting this fight for him because no one deserves this. They did an autopsy and found no cause. They are now doing toxicology. It's such a nightmare because I want to scream at them what the cause is, but they will never listen.
I will post the obituary notice. His funeral is scheduled for this Saturday. His parents were on vacation and I had to wait until they could get flights back to plan anything.
Peace be with you.
In Memory of Karl Joedicke July 30, 1974 - February 20, 2009
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Smjkoj,
Wow, he was so young, too young. I have read of Lyme disease victims whom they found the spirochete in the heart or brain. I don't know if they would routinely test for that.
I am 30 and have told my husband many times that if I should die to make sure they check for Lyme Disease. The word needs to be out there that this diesase does kill.
You are right in that he is free now. Out of the misery that is Lyme. You seem like such a courageous, strong woman and you took such good care of him.
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Smj,
I cannot even begin to express in words how sorry I am for your loss. I hope you will take great comfort in the fact that you were all you could be for him while he was here on earth.
Your love, care and concern for him and his health were obvious in all of your posts. He was lucky to have such a strong soul supporting and loving him throughout his journey with Lyme.
God bless you and may angels hold you tight in there arms while you deal with the loss of your beloved husband.
Lauren
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Other than stroke or heart attack one other possibility would be sleep apnea. This is a common problem Lymies have and it can kill in some cases.
So sorry for your loss.
It really makes me mad every time I read of another death from Lyme or another tick-borne illness.
Stay strong.
Bea Seibert
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I am so very sorry to hear about the loss of your Karl. I can't begin to imagine what you must be going through. But please remember that we are here for you and will support you in whatever way we can during this difficult time.
May God bless you and keep you. And may you be surrounded by much love and comfort.
Fuzzy
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I am so sorry for your loss. My prayers are with you and your family.
Kindly, Barb
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This is soo sad, such a young man.
I hope these guys will find the right cause of death. It's important to know, for his peace and yours.
Bless you and your family. Selma
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You're in my thoughts and prayers <3
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smj,
THANK YOU for coming back and updating us about karl! wow, 34 !!! healthy 1 year ago.
this damn disease that takes so many young people who have not begun to enjoy life as i have; i'm 59, and i'm so glad i have treasured what i have to date.
thank you for giving karl's name also so we can be on alert for local newspapers in your state.
wow, your inlaws on vacation and the drive/flight back knowing their son has died.
best wishes; we are praying for you and karl! he's NOW HEALTHY and will come and visit you constantly. LOOK FOR THE PENNIES HE WILL BE DROPPING!!
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I am glad your husband is no longer suffering and angry that the doctors ignored you. He was too young to die. I'm very sorry for your loss.
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I've written you a song. Music is included. It titled it "Living Is Dying"
I provided the lyrics alone near the bottom.
Acoustic Guitar, Strummed
Fmin-----------Fmin alt E--0----------------0-------- B--1----------------1-------- G--2----------------0-------- D--3----------------3-------- A---------------------------- E----------------------------
Fmin----------------Fmin alt I wish, things were different Fmin----------------Fmin alt I wish, that things wouldn change
Fmin --------------- Fmin alt Like all of the seasons
C Spring welcomes rains
F Summers heat on the pavement
C Falls colors change
First line of second verse Fmin ---------Fmin alt E--0----------------0-------- B--1----------------1-------- G--2----------------0-------- D--3----------------3-------- A---------------------------- E----------------------------
I wish, that I was flying Fmin --------Am7 E--0------------0------------ B--1------------1------------ G--2------------0------------ D--3------------2------------ A---------------------------- E----------------------------
I was free like a dove
C Peaceful and silent Am No suffering anymore F These dreams aren't sufficient
Cadd9 Grace G Won't you visit Am Strengh C--------------F Don't fail me now
Repeat first verse
Fmin------ Fmin Alt If living, is dying Fmin-------Fmin Alt All lovers, loving together
C ------------------------- Fmin Some suffer, their cross hard to bare F Dry your eyes, remember the good times
Cadd9 Faith G Won't you visit Am Love C I'll carry on
Bridge:
None yet.
Strum first two lines
Fmin ----------------Fmin alt I wish, things were different
Fmin-----------------------Am7 I wish, that things would change
Fmin---------------Fmin alt Like all of the seasons
C Spring welcomes rains
F Summers heat on the pavement
C Falls colors change
Conclusion
Fmin--------------------Fmin alt Your memory, you're dark Winter waters. Fmin -----------------------------Fmin alt It's a bitter end, like salt of the ocean
F It's this bitter end where the sweet begins. C-------------------F Once an illusion, we're one once again.
Am With love lives our purpose,
C I'll carry on, Because love is the motion, the movement is change
------At the word "movement" above pick notes as follows for outro:
----Fmin-C---F--Am--Am7-Cadd9------G------Fmin alt E--0----0----1---0------0----0---------3--------0-------- B--1----1----1---1------1----3---------3--------1-------- G--2----0----2---2------0----0---------0--------0-------- D--3----2----3---2------2----2---------0--------3-------- A-------3-----3----------0----3---------2------------------ E-------0-----0----------0----0---------3------------------
Lyrics Alone:
I wish, things were different I wish, that things would change Like all of the seasons Spring welcomes rains Summers heat on the pavement Falls colors change
I wish, that I was flying I was free like a dove Peaceful and silent No suffering anymore These dreams aren't sufficient
Grace Won't you visit Strengh Don't fail me now
If living, is dying All lovers, loving together Some suffer, their cross hard to bare I dry my eyes, remember the good times
Faith Won't you visit Love I'll carry on
I wish, things were different I wish, that things wouldn't change Like all of the seasons Spring welcomes rains Summers heat on the pavement Falls colors change
Your memory, you're dark Winter waters. It's a bitter end, like salt of the ocean It's this bitter end where the sweet begins. Once an illusion, we're one once again. With love lives our purpose, I'll carry on, because love is the motion, The movement is change.
-------------------- I am not a physician, so do your own research to confirm any ideas given and then speak with a health care provider you trust.
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I am so very sorry to hear of the death of your beloved husband, Karl, at such a heart-breakingly young age.
And so very sorry that you as a young wife have to experience this overwhelming grief.
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
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hang in there during this terrible time. I'll light a candle for you. I am so deeply sorry for you and your husband.
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So very sorry for your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Kathy
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Still praying for you and the tragic loss of your husband.
I just don't have the words to express myself adequately.
Wish I could be there to hold and comfort you.
Sending Angels of Peace and Comfort during this most difficult time.
Hugs,
Geneal
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Dear SMJ,
I'm so very saddened to learn of your terrible loss.
I truly appreciate the musical tributes that have been posted here--they reminded me of someone I knew and cared about deeply who was killed in an accident when he was about 23.
Thank you for taking care of his parents.
Thank you for caring.
Love,
Cass A
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You are in my heart and in my prayers.
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Words cannot express how we feel for you and yours during this time. The why's to it all have to be overwhelming.
May God give you strength and peace soon.
Pam
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she will post when things calm down. i'm guessing tonight is visitation; FUNERAL IS SAT.
her earlier post showed on autopsy but perhaps there was something else STILL TO COME, and she will post that whenever she hears and is up to it.
thoughts and healing prayers continue going your way during this stressful time!
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I am so sorry! This must be so hard for you and your family. May God rest his soul. Amen.
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