Can anyone advise me in the matter of educating a spouse who is in denial of needing to make social lifestyle accomodations for a wife who is utterly overwhelmed by five-and-a-half years of degenerating Lyme and Babesiosis. My husband just wants to be social, entertain, party, and I think probably start a whole new life where the world illness isn't recognized in the dictionary. I just want to conserve my energy for my sons and to retreat into the sanctuary of my yoga practice. I have not become a hermit, and still see my friends for an occasional lunch date or to chat at school whilst watching our kids' lacrosse games, but I freak out at the idea of parties, and the concept of entertaing fifteen people to a BBQ at home (a recent request) has thrown me over the edge. Is there anyone else out there who finds that a social life is just becoming a thing of the past? I've been fighting for a Lyme diagnosis for five years, going progressively downhill physically and emotionally, and finally found a very committed doctor three months ago who unequivocally confirmed my suspicions, so I'm now in the hard stage of antibiox whammy and trying to track a Herx pattern. I feel like the whole world-rug has been pulled out from under my feet. I can't remember what "normal" feels like. I'd love to support my husband through this too, but I don't know how to. He is resistant to getting "help", so I go to see my therapist for support, but I long for a safe neutral place or therapist to help us deal jointly with the issues that are arising.
Is there anyone out there in a similar (rather nightmarish) situation?

Any support at this stage would be wonderful.
I will try to support whoever I can, in turn.

So, I'm at the total other end of the spectra...