Topic: I really need advice- sister did something illegal, to ME
TheCrimeOfLyme
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I hardly ever go to anyone with support for anything other than lyme on here, but here it is: I'm 29 years old, soon to be 30. Im the youngest of four daughters. My older sister, who is 34 has a drug problem ( mostly pain killers to my knowledge)
She also has an abusive husband. She has two children ( not to him thank GOD) but her life is and has been a wreck. For the past year,
her life has gotten worse. She lost her job of ten years, had two other jobs that she quickly got fired from, ( one for charging money to the company's account without their knowledge)
and they were nice enough to let her go. She has borrowed money from EVERYONE including her dad's son, my mother and me.
She keeps calling me at work and she consistently just shows up there claiming how her husband doesn't give her any money ( which he doesn't) and how he doesn't pay any bills ( which he doesn't).
In april, she showed up at my work complaining that her electric was being shut off and she needed 124.00. She started being loud mouthy in my office, and frankly, I NEED my job. Heck, I get to sit there ( which is fine with my lyme)
and answer phones and get paid. ( which again, is fine with my lyme, PLUS they understand my lyme so I haven't gotten fired for the zillion days I have missed!) Hey.. sometimes sitting and answering phones is way too much.
Anyways, I she said "can you write me a check for the electric". At first, I said no. Then she said "well, jesus they won't put it through until three days from now, and by then I will have the money to give you".
I gave her the check and told her a zillion times, I NEED IT BACK by Thursday as I had given it to her on Monday.
Thursday came and went. Heck, April and May came and went and no money back. I had to go to my LLMD on May 19th and I needed someone to put my disabled son on the bus as his dad was going to get him off it while I was at my LLMD.
My sister said she would and I said "great,I will take 30.00 off what you owe me for doing it".
Unbeknownst to me ( that I didnt find out til yesterday), after my sister put my son on the bus,
she drove down to sister druggie number two's home and called this 1-800 number that lets you pay your utility bills with an automated system BY CHECK BY PHONE.
Anyone guessing what she did? I found out yesterday that a $601.85 check and a $116.25 check were ILLEGALLY charged to MY checking account, causing not only those to bounce, but my son's karate check as well.
I had a HUGE negative balance in my checking account. I freaked out holding these "overdrawn" notices from my bank and called and immediately got this 1-800 number.
When I called it, I DID, thankfully get a nice woman on the phone. She said "Well that is for payment of your columbia gas bill". I said "I do not have columbia gas, I have dominion and HAVE
for five years and I do NOT owe them money. Then, it hit me and I said "please tell me this didn't come from JEANNETTE. ( I live in Greensburg)
and she said "YES IT DID". My sister lives in jeannette, they BOTH do.
Well, I went to the bank and had to sign affidavits. The bank was nice with me too. Bottom line, those fees were taken off, the payments were stopped, etc and it cost me nothing. They even removed the bounced check fee against my son's karate check cause
that WOULD have cleared had this not happened and I still would have had 300.00 in my account FOR MY BICILLIN.
The checks showed that the number used to call the system was my sister C's. I called sister C and as I had thought, it was sister S who did this to me ( the one that borrowed money)
She got my checking account number and routing number OFF that check I had written for her electric. Obviously, she made a copy and PLANNED THIS.
I'm a paralegal and not a stupid one. What she did constitutes theft, identity theft, devices act violations, fraud, etc. I could JUST have her charged with theft ( misdomeanor) or I could do the whole gammut ( and probably put her in jail for a while) BECAUSE
she has already been to the Courts several times for bad checks charges. If I press, the courts will look at her rap and say "ok, now she did something even worse and to FAMILY"
and they would probably put her away.
My entire family is telling me to do it. That if I don't, she is going to keep doing this; and maybe to the wrong person and end up dead. That her drugs are going to kill her anyhow. That if I put her in jail, she will get clean and get a chance to
get away from abusive husband. At this point, I have NOT talked to my sister. She does not know I know.
This is very rough for me. Anyone on here that knows me knows that I for four years my former boyfriend was a drug user. While I was sick basically dying with lyme, he was high. He stole money from me CONSTANTLY. Sometimes, I couldn't even treat my lyme, cause I couldn't afford it. I HAD
TO WORK through being my SICKEST so I could pay doctors! While he sat on his arse doing DRUGS. It took me getting a bit better to even realize that THAT was what the problem was.
I threw his arse out and for months, he tried to come back and I said newp. I met a wonderful man and lo and behold,
I GOT ENGAGED on Friday night! And then on Saturday, I found out my sister did this to me! Me and my new fiance couldn't even afford to go out and celebrate cause right now, my account is
Frozen due to this stuff. The sister who did this to me even called to "congratulate me" on Saturday, hours before I realized she did this to me,
and that she ruined my engagement basically, PLUS froze my damn bicillin money!
I'll stop rambling. I just don't know what to do. I called my boss who is an attorney and former District Attorney and he said we could press this,
or we could not,but even he said "you have to do SOMETHING".
But I mean... she's my sister. But then again, this has gone way too far. Im just at a loss. I was very close to her. Now, I wonder how much she has stolen from me in the past when I constantly come up with money missing.
Should I turn this in or just tell her to stay out of my life and pick up and move like me and my fiance planned anyways due to her constantly bothering me?:
Ugh
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That is horrible. My parents have screwed me financially and put me in harm's way also. I have not talked to them for 5 years, and do not plan on talking to them until one of them gets very sick or dies. They don't even acknowledge that they did anything wrong.
I'd say at this point, you need to take care of yourself and not worry that she is your sister. I don't know how far you should go, though, if you should just move and never look back or actually have her charged. That's a tough one. But if your family is supportive of you turning her in, maybe that's what you should do. I guess that's what they call tough love. She's not going to straighten herself out until she hits rock bottom, which sounds like it needs to be jail time.
Thank goodness your co-workers have been understanding, and congrats on your engagement! I'm glad you have someone to support you through this.
Please let us know what happens!
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TheCrimeOfLyme
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Thanks so much for replying. Im still at a huge loss as to what to do. If I don't do something, she 's gonna end up stealing money from the wrong person and they aren't going to put her in jail
they're going to put her six feet under.
I would end up with my 15 year old niece, her daughter. My niece only has my sister as a living parent, her father was killed when she was three and there is NO other family members that my niece knows except my mom and me.
Man.. this sucks.
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A sister? Is she truly a sister? A sister would not do that to you. I'm of the opinion that blood is not thicker than water. You owe her nothing.
You can be a true sister, even if she isn't. What she needs is to be held accountable for her despicable and CRIMINAL behavior.
You're doing her no favors if you just let it go.
It will take an awful lot of strength to go through with it, if you choose to prosecute. And especially with Lyme, it will be so tough for you.
Drugs do make people behave in ways they otherwise wouldn't. But still, you can't excuse her behavior either.
Personally, I would prosecute. But as you wrote, you would then be the parent to your niece. You certainly have a lot to consider.
I wish you all the best with this decision you're making. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
You've been through hell. No one should have to go through what you have. Truly hope your future gets better.
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crime,
"You want your life back? Take it." your signature crime says it ....TAKE IT BACK!
What you need to do about your sister is called TOUGH LOVE! It's the only way they will grow up.
My heart goes out to you, but there is something else you need to remember and acknowledge.
NO ONE can take advantage of you UNLESS YOU allow them too! I learned that in one of my work educational classes; and I started applying that one to my life. I SAY NO CONSTANTLY and mean it.
I've got a stepson, 46, whose Mom pampered him to death. He got into trouble with the law over & over, but dear old Mom was there to bail him out each time.
She died 4 years ago next week. He's had to learn to GROW UP FINALLY, and he has made progress but got a LONG way to go; but he's making every effort & we see it.
Please forgive me for saying this but you are surrounded by drug addicts. You need to go to Alanon. They will support you and teach you skills about taking care of yourself.
There are no easy answers when involved with drug addicts or drug abusers. It's never black and white and each situation is unique.
My advice would be to protect yourself and take care of yourself. Maybe you need to change your bank account number, PIN numbers etc. You need your money for your treatment. Her situation is awful, but is it your problem and are you in a position to help? It seems like the answers are no.
I am sure there are many more things you can do, and many things you just have to accept that you are powerless over, and that's what the people in Alanon could support you with.
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I'm so sorry to hear about this awful situation. How painful. Three things:
1. Are you going to Al-Anon? That would be a wonderful source of support from people who have been through exactly this kind of thing. That group saved my butt when I was dealing with my parent's alcoholism and the addictions of my partner at the time. Al-Anon would probably help you remember that....
2. You cannot save your sister. And by protecting her from taking responsibility -- yes even legal and going to jail responsibility -- you are actually making things worse. You are enabling her sickness to continue. Even pressing charges (which I think you should absolutely do) will not save her. It only saves you, which is all you can do. So....
3. Save yourself and model helpful adult behavior to your children by setting boundaries, and not protecting your sister from the consequences of her actions. You also model fabulous adult behavior by seeking out support at groups like Al-Anon.
I know this sounds harsh, and even unloving, but I believe letting your sister take responsibility for her actions is the most loving thing you can do, for everyone involved.
And I can't stress enough how important it is for you to look for a good Al-Anon group to help you through this. She's put you in a terrible situation, and you deserve loving, compassionate support from people who have a clue what you're going through.
That's my two cents, anyway. Hang in there, and keep us posted, if you feel so inclined.
Guard your bank information from family members. I would change accounts completely, perhaps even a different bank!
My experience with people who would do this to you is that until they get the drugs OUT of their lives, everyone is fair game. Does that mean you can spend your hard earned money to prosecute and perhaps get them straightened out? I don't think its possible until THEY want the straightening.
I would even consider leaving the area or removing yourself from them. To say that she thinks you don't know about the money being gone is just kidding yourself....she definitely isn't concerned with that. Perhaps she's done this type of thing before?
At any rate, tough love is what you need---I know its hard---but its the only way. I hope things get better for you and your family. I'll be praying for you all
TheCrimeOfLyme
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Thank you for all of your replies.
This is just so freaking rough and I spent most of yesterday and all of today thinking about this. I do have a lot to consider.
My step dad and mom believe that if I turn her in, she will get jail time and that will straighten everything out. However, I doubt it. what it will do is put her in jail, and she'll probably come out doing the same damn thing.
Some had asked about AL-Anon. I do know of them and they helped me SO much to come to terms with the fact that my ex boyfriend was a drug addict, that nothing I did was going to change that, and that I needed him out of my life completely.
There is a quote on one of their forums that actually made me get him out of my house ( by giving me the UMPH on the inside , ya know). it was "To let you go is not to punish you, but instead to set me free".
I just had to totally not relate "but I love him" to the situation at hand. I separated it and boom, threw his arse out. I had an attorney send him a letter shortly thereafter that he was not have NO contact with me. he ignored it
and kept calling me, even showing up at my house! once, even showed up at my work.
I realized all the signs with my sister. I figured since I actually wrote that check out to the power company that it woudl go to them- which it did. I really wasn't thinking "she could have paid her own darn bill had she not spent it on drugs!"
I talked to my boss today as well. He said he is going to talk to one of his close friends who is a detective for the drug force in my county and have him go have a little chat with my sister
and tell her I am contemplating charging her.
I do feel that punishing her for her behavior isnt going to make her stop. She is already in so much trouble with the law.
Regardless of whether I charge her or not, I do need to leave the area. I want my life back, just as Betty quoted out my quote says, so I have to take it.
I have three beautiful kids here(two severely disabled) with our own whole house -host of problems including lyme.
I just graduated college ( after a two year medical leave).. I just couldn't get those last nine classes done until now.
I just got engaged to a GREAT guy who doesn't do drugs, doesn't take my money but gives me money and loves these kids even with all their problems.
I got one drug addict out of my life.
I JUST NOW realize that I am SO close to remission I can taste it.
and now, I do have to leave, so that I can live my life in peace. I know neither one of my sisters are going to move away from ME anytime soon!
So... I'm off to start looking at some good places to live, even if it be 50 miles from where I am now. My fiance and I knew that eventually we HAD to leave this area, it's just we have to do it sooner than expected.
we can't go too far, he just started some IT computer classes so he can make more $$ to better be able to support.
Again, thank you all for your help. It really does give me alot to think about.
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Hi COL,
I think you need to turn her in. If you don't, she will do it again and again. Plus, by doing it you may be helping her. If she did this to her own sister, in a way that was so easily traceable too, perhaps she was looking to be caught! (to get helped???). You're not punishing her if you do that, I don't think, you are helping her.
My dad's ex-wife's son, a grown man, was a drug addict (didn't look it, you'd never know, and was very charming). I can't tell you how many times he stole from my dad, burgled his own mother's apartment, lied, etc. Because she didn't want to 'hurt him' by pressing any charges, I think he thought it was OK to carry on that way.
Congratulations on your engagement! He sounds like a great guy.
DLL
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I'm so glad you already know about Al-Anon! And it sounds like your taking wonderful steps to protect yourself and your family. What a gem of a fiance you have! Sounds like you are building the life you deserve.
I want to rephrase what I said about charging your sister. It's easy for me to say it's the right thing to do, but I'm not you. You need to search your heart and decide what is the right thing for you and your family.
I do feel strongly that revisiting an Al-Anon meeting right now will help you figure out what IS right for you, and get you ongoing support for a situation that will be ongoing, even if you move away.
Whatever you decide, good luck with everything, and please keep us posted!
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C of L,
Congratulations on your engagement, first off. I'm sorry the happiness of it was spoiled by all this.
Otherwise, I would advise similarly to what everyone else said. First, protect yourself, your family and your assets. Second, get as far away as you possibly can.
I know when it was time to leave my alcoholic self-medicating bi-polar ex I had no choice but to just leave. I did try to get him help, he wouldn't accept it, scammed the people in the rehab. And I knew it was more important to save me than anything and so I left.
My only sister has repeatedly taken money and screwed me over for most of my life. (And I don't even think there are drugs involved.) I put up with it for 10 years not wanting to lose the relationships I had with my niece and nephews. She never did as she promised and about 2 years ago I finally put my foot down.
So now she doesn't speak to me because I told her 10 years was long enough to pay off $900 she had charged on my credit card. I had already written off the thousands of dollars I lent to her willingly along the way. This was the one thing I asked of her.
I had no choice and it cost me $1800 to clear and close that account. Money I could ill afford on SSDI.
I have no contact at all with the kids who used to live with me and I love very dearly. This was perhaps the hardest thing I've ever done.
Sorry, I seem to have gone on a bit.
Basically, do whatever you need to do and protect yourself and get far away.
I'm so sorry.
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You need alot of help. Forgive me if I am out of line my offer of any of these sugeestions. No harm, hurt, or anything meant. Just ideals,
You need a support group to help you stay strong. You need to protect yourself financially and emotionally and also from being harassed at your work place. With your health issues and trying as you are, you dont need anyone family , friend or foe to jeopardize your livelyhood, health or family structure.
I would consult a lawyer, though you are a paralegal and explore all options. I would also protect my financial and confidential information above all. Change accounts, banks whatever it takes and don't disclose information. If other peoples electric is being turned off- remember it was not your lack of responsibilities and habits that caused the situation. Whatever legal means you need to protect yourself, family, finances, health do so. You are number one. If this sounds harsh, think if the shoe were reversed and my lyme disabled me or put me in a position where I would need help from others- would my sisters and family help me as I would legitamately need assistance? The answer is probably not. Please dont let anyone take any advantage or use you.
God Bless and Stay strong. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
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I agree with the advise on making all of your financial and other assets secure and confidential first.
It could be time to cut off from the addicts in the family completely, if you can do that. If nothing else, to protect your kids from addicts. They have no business around children until they are clean. Emotional instability runs deeper than the drugs.
I don't know what jail time would do, I guess it depends - but I imagine no matter how illegal her actions were against you - you might feel allot of turmoil over the process of putting her in jail.
A thought - but only if you had support and help - others in the family (or some old friends of hers?) who would stand with you --
perhaps a hard core intervention, where a group of folks close to her sit down and insist she goes into a drug rehab.
This has to be firm, planned out, with a professional there - and to show some love - but insist she get into program NOW, without exception... (maybe hold the charges over her, but that you would have to ask a professional about)
Describe the sister you once knew, and the one she has become, and don't leave out any of the dirt. You say she has had a hard life. People who are addicted usually have deep issues. She could respond to this action.
But posters are right, it is crucial that you don't enable her sickness. This kind of tough love (a strong intervention) has a chance to solve the problem for the long term. Maybe for the other sister too? (but you can't do this alone, you would need strong help)
Blessings, don't let her stuff take you down, crime - you stand tall for yourself and your family ..
Mo
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She never thought.......... "oh, but she's my sister."
My sister is a jerk too. Haven't had contact in over a year. And I plan on moving father away.
You need to take care of yourself becuase she won't.
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Tough Love... Is Really Tough.
Perhaps there is more than one legal road to take. Your boss is a great asset.
Next time she could do something that hurts someone as her problem escalates.
I'm sorry that she hasn't really been a sister to you. You have a great future, please do everything in your power to protect it.
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Oh what a situation. I am sorry for what you are going through..but congratulations on your engagement!
People NEED to be able to hit the BOTTOM and feel what it is like in order to even WANT to recover. If you keep protecting her from hitting bottom she will just keep at the same behavior.
Hitting bottom is the road to recovery! And if hitting bottom is prison time then so be it! Lots of people get clean in prison and finally GET IT!
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Hi crime, The "beautiful" person YOU are!!!,, deserves better than this situation!!!
Congrads on finding a real great guy!!! Spend your life in wedded bliss.
I was married to an addicted person too. Only when you cut it off can you make a clean,,, or 'not- so- clean' of break. But a break is what you really need.
Tell her either get clean or get out of your life. Treatment doesnt work unless they WANT it to. When they want to they will, never sooner!!
The 'present' my former wife gave herself for getting out of the SECOND round of treatment failure, was to see how drunk she could get in 110 mile trip back home. then proceeded to try to kill me!!(NOT the first time). Given a gun just then,,, she WOULD have!!!
Point I am saying is NOTHING will change till they say change. They have to be ROCK bottom, and shocked into reality. sometimes that happens,sometimes it dont and they die from the consequences of THEIR actions.
but whatever happens it isnt YOUR fault, you didnt stick those awful substances in their mouth or bodies.
I think the guilt of sticking her in jail would work negatively on yourself. I vote NOT to push that, send her the detective guy and try to scare her straight, but then just cut it off with her.
You will look at yourself better in the mirror and she will get there anyway given her actions. As to the 15 year old neice with another small child, tough call, but can your mother be a stable influence on HER and let social services do for her?? I dont think you could, or your new boyfriend could do her as much good as your mother could.
You could always visit and stay in social comfort zone for her!!! Unless she is a junkie also??? (Runs in families you know)(does she exhibit ANY signs of subtance abuse??) But taking them in,,, not possible from my veiwpoint here!!!
DO as much as you are comfy with, no more, no less!!! And congradulations on being SUCH a special person, I so enjoyed meeting so long ago, here!!! I remain--just don--
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IMO the most important thing is to focus on yourself, what is best for you and best for your recovery both from Lyme & from dealing with addicts/manipulation etc.
Stress makes my symptoms much worse so if I were in your situation I probably would not turn her in because that would cause too much stress and make me sicker.
I would go to lots of AlAnon meetings to get support & focus and to work on detachment. I would turn it all over to my higher power and then watch for signs telling me what to do.
Wishing you the best. Do what is best for you since you have a lot to deal with. hatsnscarfs
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You have a tough situation and I sympathize with you. You basically have two choices. You can either press charges and draw the hard line in the sand,
or
you can clean up the mess, change your bank account to somewhere else, never give your sister any other money, or personal information and leave it at that. She is a grown woman who has to face the same consequences as everyone else. It may take some time, but once the boundaries are set clearly, she will test them, and then eventually she will give up. But you have to be consistent, and NO MEANS NO. Not well, maybe just this one time....or anything like that.
Making a decision regarding a family member is a hard place to be. It took me nearly 40 years to finally decide about some of my family members, and it was hard, but it was the only thing I could do, and you have to be kind to yourself, and your family, first. Then the extended family, friends, etc.
It seems to me that setting clear limits and then enforcing them, is not only tough love, but sensible and practical and first and foremost, necessary.
I wish you much luck and am sending you strength and courage.....
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TheCrimeOfLyme
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Thank you all for your replies. Well, at first ( this morning) with mya ccount still screwed up, I called the bank. I was told that even though the charges were not done by me , and I signed stop payments
for unauthorized use, that the "main bank" could have deemed those charges authorized and still charged me for the money ( because they DID pay those checks, and then just debited my account) I was told
to file a police report if I wish to PROVE that I did not authorize those checks.
So, I went to the District Attorneys office ( skipped the cops) and filed a report directly with them. The deal is, they are contacting my sister. She has 30 days to give me my money back ( even if the bank does, because SHE is sitting there with her gas illegally paid out of MY account and my hardship)
If she does not give it back within 30 days, they are going to arrest her and charge her with identity theft.
In the meantime, I faxed my bank proof I talked to a detective as well as a copy of my prescription from my LLMD (blacked out but name and date) and
coupon payment to my LLMD to PROVE to my bank I was IN new Jersey when this happened and not even IN Pennsylvania
so how could I call from a pennsylvania number
AND pay money to a gas company I don't have? So I also faxed them MY gas company bill showing I dont even HAVE columbia gas,I have dominion peoples!
Well, I jsut NOW got an email. My account is completely clear. They re-credited my account the money my sister did and took off bounced check fees.
AND I have 300 bucks in my account now. Go ME.
My bank is waiving my first set of new checks on a new account that I am having issued tomorrow and they are not charging me a fee to open it.
Im so freakin happy all this is taken care of!
So, I got all my money back and my sister has to pay me back even though the bank paid me back or face an identity theft charge in PA.
I'm also changing all of my pin numbers, and getting a new mac card, just to be on the safe side.
NOW, I can go start paying my damn bills.
She caused me such a hardship being this irresponsible.
My fiance will be happy when he hears the news.
YAY!
Thank you again everyone. I wish I had a truthful family,but I do not. Except my mother.
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Crime, YOU TOOK BACK YOUR LIFE! Halleluah. I'm proud of you for listening to us all, and taking that first step forward in getting your life back in order! Bettyg
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treepatrol
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This thing may have impacted your credit Jodie you better do a free credit check and see what it looks like.
Thats really to bad about your sister Tough love may save her life.
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Great news! Hopefully your credit rating is ok.
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TheCrimeOfLyme
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Credit rating. Damn, I didnt think of that until now. I will have to do that. Thanks for reminding me.
I just went to the bank today ( couldnt make it before, was in a flare)...
and closed out my account, opened a new one, got issued a new mac , etc. It felt good to be able to pay my bills .. but this month, I did it with money orders JUST IN CASE. !
My sister has still not called the detective back. She may want to do that, for if she doesn't, he is going to end up knocking on her door.
She called me yesterday. I was still flaring BAD yesterday and didn't answer the phone- but she was on my caller ID. I have NO plans on calling her back.
Thanks all for helping me, yep- I took my life back and it DOES feel good.
I hope this never happens to anyone here, it was a mess to clean up. Im off to freecreditreport.com
Thanks again all. Jodie
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