posted
Now I know they are not the same- but my 15 year old threw down the sword and said " I will give up MySpace if you will give up Lymnet!"
Of course I argued they are not the same-Lymnet being a medical forum, which she countered "no it's not-I saw you on Off Topic"
So then i tried to explain this was an information and support board specifically for people with Lyme and that i don't give out any personal information (well not much anyway).
and she countered-well I know you talk about your kids sometimes-and I don't appreciate that.
She thinks I am hypocritical because I am on her case about MySpace and how it is sucking the life out of her she spends so much time on it.
Well truth be known, Lymnet has become addictive for me,too, and i can't imagine giving it up-BUT I am tempted to take her up on her challenge and say
Okay-no lymnet for me, no myspace for you, for say? an hour? a day? a week? a month?
I want the kid off the computer so much-perhaps I will give us both a week? what do you think? Starting Monday.
ps would it be cheating if someone on the board emailed me certain threads she thought might be of interest to me? Then she could post my replies. I could read them at midnight after she has gone to bed, or I usually get up earlier than her in am.
3greatkids
Frequent Contributor (1K+ posts)
Member # 3838
posted
Ah, the wonders and joys of the internet. Being so sick w/ Lyme,it is nice to come to a place where we can feel wanted and share.
I quess w/ the myspace page,these kids today have instant "staying in touch" capabilities.
Please warn your daughter about myspace. Anything she writes,or pictures she posts will always be on the record.
Even info.posted by her friends.or pictures posted by her friends on their pages!!!!
My daughter had her picture put on a friends page this past spring.uh-oh!!!!!The picture had been taken at a party....smoke filled room?
Well,the Vice Principle of the school was waging a round up,anybody for anything.
Mr.VP assumes my sweet one..ha ha..was a good catch for the day. Just because Mr.VP was surfing the myspace pages,he assumes all in the pic needed monitoring.
Mr. VP wanted to make the big sting...he had seen it all on myspace.He had gone to many myspace pages.He was on a mission,get em all.
Mr.VP pulled my daughter out of class one day...he had the right,based on this picture on myspace and certain comments on her page.He along w/ an officer interogated her,held her for over an hour,talked in an unkind manner,and searched everthing she had w/ her,locker later on.
All they found was an invalid HALL PASS!!!!A citation was written for this????It had to go before a judge??? In the school system,it was considered govt property,plus that is the only thing they could possibly pin on her.Of course,the entire court system thought it was WRONG!!!!Case was thrown out.
So,yes there is a price to pay for everthing.This incident w/ myspace and my daughter and her school was just TOO MUCH!!!
Good luck,reminder her(your daughter) about the far reaching consequences that can happen w/ myspace.VP+assumptions+internet can open up a can of worms.I never dreamed it could have gone that far.
Thank goodness VP was sent to another school.He never really took time to get to know the kids,he only wanted to stroke his own ego.Thank goodness his true colors came out and other parents helped to remove him.
Posts: 1076 | Registered: Apr 2003
| IP: Logged |
posted
I don't have children, not married either. But this comparison of MySpace and Lymenet isn't valid, for me . . .
Lymenet is a forum where all us Lymies share our insights and experiences with this yucky state of illness that we find ourselves in.
Largely, we can give and receive input, support, and encouragement here. We get some glimmer of sunshine and help to get us through this difficult and gray journey. That's knowledge. That's productive.
Now, Off Topic is a folder where we can try to forget about our challenges by sharing (again) with our Lyme friends. A safe haven.
Key: OUR LYME friends and LYME support group.
If you talk about your children here, I'm sure it's not to disclose their personal information. It's in relation to you; to help you cope with this Lyme situation, no?
MySpace sounds like somewhere to waste time and risk getting in trouble by association.
Nothing gained from being here- I don't know about childhood popularity issues that may be at stake???
When your child reaches your age, she can choose wisely herself.
LymeNet helps survival. At least for me. I doubt MySpace does that.
For now, you're the adult making the right decision. OVER.
Like I said, I don't have first-hand experiences with the intricacies involved in parenting. Just my 2 cents.
I wish you strength.
-------------------- Be well, SAK Posts: 371 | From Up North | Registered: May 2005
| IP: Logged |
tabbytamer
Frequent Contributor (1K+ posts)
Member # 3159
posted
Would your daughter be interested in starting a support group on MySpace for those who have parents with Lyme?
(And you could start a thread in Off Topic about parents with kids on MySpace. )
We would miss you here, even for a day.
And I'm still waiting to hear the story about the flying dead baby guinea pigs.
Aniek
Frequent Contributor (1K+ posts)
Member # 5374
posted
Carol,
Sounds like what you just need some limits. Maybe limit hours per day, per week or even which days/nights you can go on-line?
You can also make it positive. Instead of Thursday being no computer night, it could be Mom and Daughter game night. Something that keeps you together and offline.
-------------------- "When there is pain, there are no words." - Toni Morrison Posts: 4711 | From Washington, DC | Registered: Mar 2004
| IP: Logged |
char
Frequent Contributor (1K+ posts)
Member # 8315
posted
Warning!
I have visited My Space twice to check it out. Both times I ran into pornographic photos and especially writings and comments.
There was a "space" on homepage that contained the type of "interests" that even Playboy would not print. I would not repeat them to ANYONE as I had never even heard of these crude euphemisms in my 42 yrs. I was practically raised in a tavern.
This "space" took me about 5 seconds to veiw without clicking on anything. Hit with it first thing with no warning.
I hear the kids say that they have the ablility to only enter and post in a circle of friends. Will they not see this garbage on the homepage? Do most teenagers or even adults of good character have the self-control to ignore innate curiosity to "look"? I ran into harmful info without trying and innocently read horrible stuff just scanning.
The second site I clicked as the Heading read: "Abstinence group-no sex or drugs. I found a teens space. I clicked it and viewed a well-down, I must admit video of a handsome teenager filming himself style his hair then strip. I got off when he got down to underwear, so I am not sure how far he went. Looked like he was going all the way.
Warnings abound that perverts are lurking on this site posing as kids.
My friend's daughter naively posted a picture of herself wearing a sweatshirt with her highschool name and also gave out the town she is from.
The lymenet cannot be compared to My Space. You are on there for the legitimate purpose of learning how to get yourself and others healthy.
On my tired days, I have to watch out for getting overly involved and ignoring kids...I don't know if your daughter senses that.
My kids are involved in teen special interest groups-writing, cartoons, and Harry Potter websites. Seems that a site with a purpose is less of an idle situation where we can all stray.
I am not saying that your daughter is necessarily into the trash, but she is certainly being exposed to it. I would get in there and search out your daughter's space and group. My friends who are excellant, involved parents have been shocked at what they found with a search. One of the elders at our church who is a computer guy gets on regularly to keep abreast of what are teens are up to. They are so impressionable and can be surprisingly naive.
posted
I have to defend My Space. I feel it can be a very powerful and informative tool, if used properly.
I am 33 and people of all ages are on there. I have a page there. I use it to inform about Lyme among other beliefs I hold.
It has been a great support for me and the people there are very supportive. just like the people here. I have met some really great souls.
If any of you care to check it out feel free to PM me and I will give you my Address.
Your daughter probably finds a lot of support there. If I were you I would check out her page though.
Since she is a kid. As with every thing there can be a dark side to it.
Your the Mom you make the rules. Maybe just cut down her use to a few hours a day instead of hours and hours.
It can get Addictive. I am so glad I don't have a Mom. LOL. Just kidding
Love & Light, Yemaya Posts: 188 | From NM | Registered: Feb 2006
| IP: Logged |
Carol B
Unregistered
posted
As you can probably tell I was unable give up lymnet, besides I was in the middle of writing Flying Dead Baby Guinea Pigs. The compromise has been to set the timer-and I went to the library to get us all some good books to read.
One of the books I picked out for myself was Healing with Lyme, but I find it hard to understand at this point.
Michelle M
Frequent Contributor (1K+ posts)
Member # 7200
posted
My daughter has a MySpace page. She loves it. Instill good values in your kids and keep an eye on them and they won't disappoint.
She uses it to chat up all her friends. I've seen hers plus all her friends' sites. She starts high school in the fall and has "met" a lot of her soon-to-be classmates.
Our rule: Mom is always free to not only look over her shoulder, but to read her MySpace. In fact, she invites me to. As long as she has her laptop, that's the rule. Frequently she asks my advice about girlfriend disagreements, and has me read long threads of conversations. I consider this an honor.
She has a little webcam, and I flash the peace sign at her friends, and they at me!
Keep a sharp eye on your kid and communicate -- a LOT!!
Michelle
Posts: 3193 | From Northern California | Registered: Apr 2005
| IP: Logged |
LostCityAgent
Unregistered
posted
Did any of you see the prime time special on Myspace and the pedos and childmolesters?
I returned home to Seattle only to find my both of my nieces, ages 8 and 10 have myspace, and cell phones.
Is childhood really dead?
Whatever happened to playing games, being outside, etc?
I am not making a moral statement I am just confused. Perhaps being in a seminary since I was 18 has taken me away from the new way.
IP: Logged |
The Lyme Disease Network is a non-profit organization funded by individual donations. If you would like to support the Network and the LymeNet system of Web services, please send your donations to:
The
Lyme Disease Network of New Jersey 907 Pebble Creek Court,
Pennington,
NJ08534USA http://www.lymenet.org/
UBBFriend: Email this page to someone!
![[Big Grin]](biggrin.gif)
![[Wink]](wink.gif)
)
![[kiss]](graemlins/kissing.gif)
Printer-friendly view of this topic