stymielymie
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You must find a therapist that specializes in chronic illnesses. most large cancer centers have some good therapist.
if the therapist does not understand your condition, then how can they convey any position.
yes you the lymie wnt to find a therapist that will side with you, but that is not the therapist you want.
you only see lyme and its problems from your perspective and not how other perceive you.
you must also compromise in a relationship with lyme. you must know your limitations and convey this to the therapist.
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stymielymie
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You must find a therapist that specializes in chronic illnesses. most large cancer centers have some good therapist.
if the therapist does not understand your condition, then how can they convey any position.
yes you the lymie want to find a therapist that will side with you, but that is not the therapist you want.
you must have a third party, non related that can be neutral and help both sides not just yours. you only see lyme and its problems from your perspective and not how other perceive you.
you must also compromise in a relationship with lyme. you must know your limitations and convey this to the therapist.
you would be quite surprised with everything i have gone thru, my wife still loves me and i her.
you need to set rules and guidelines for your relationship.
for example, when i feel angry, i lock myself in the bedroom, watch tv and take a clonipin. it does no good for her to walk in , have a fight , me get madder then boom, full rage.
you must protect youself when your body tells you and also must protect you spouse or protect yourself from your spouse. verbal abuse is as dangerous to a relationship as physical.
your spouse must understand that there are times you don't want to go out, be with the kids, and he must take over the responsibility. if he doesn't understand this then a third party must be involved to set down these guidlines.
many, many spouses unforunately can't handle chronic illnes and will leave. there is nothing you can do for this except try to get conselling.
many,many, men leave their wives after breast cancer. men are wimps and can't deal with this.
i was very loyal to my wife even holding her hand during operations and chemo. this was with my lyme at full force.
so there are some good men in the world and also good women. you only see lyme and its problems from your perspective and not how other perceive you.
you must also compromise in a relationship with lyme. you must know your limitations and convey this to the therapist.
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