Topic: Terrible News and Request for Help for Crimeoflyme
TheCrimeOfLyme
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My niece has her own bedroom, I gave her mine. I dont need one. As for schools, she HAS to be taken out of where she is, Im in a totally different school district as it is and there is absolutely no way she is going to a highschool with 4000 students when she only knows 2 that are seniors. Shes going to a private Christian school. I found one.
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I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. So sorry for your loss.
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lymednva
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I'm glad you found a school for her. That must be a relief for you and it sounds like a good option. 4,000 is huge! Too big if she is used to a much smaller one, and without friends. Friends are so important at her age.
Take things one at a time, and do take time out for yourself!
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I'm so sorry for you and your family. My heart goes out to all of you and I pray for your strength. Sounds like your sister is an awesome person.
I have taken several days to add something to this since this post has shaken me up. I am a survivor of domestic violence and when I read these stories I always think, there for the grace of God go I. Many years of counseling have gotten functional again but the stress I feel contributed to my immune breakdown and lyme.
Anytime to need to vent, chat or whatever, feel free to contact me.
Thinking of you at this very tough time.
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bettyg
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melanie, that was a very impressive list, and i'm copying it to post on treepatrol's newbie site! thanks for all the work helping jody when she needs it most.
prayers headed your way jody; thanks for posting when you feel up to it!
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Melanie Reber
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Good morning Lymesux,
Just checking in to see how our Jodie and family are doing?
My best, M
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TheCrimeOfLyme
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Hi everyone. It's been SO hectic here lately. Im still battling with bronchitis it appears ( it started out as the flu) and I have an appointment with my doc tomorrow to get some meds and probably a chest xray considering I can barely breathe.
BUT, I've managed to enroll Nicole in a private christian academy, get her death benefits set up ( at least an appointment for them), and I did contact that Victims Crime Compensation- they have a local office right near where I work and I met with a lady yesterday. The Blackburn Center is also offering help and support. I got free counseling for Nicole through them, so i have a list and will be making phone calls tonight to get her into counseling. They will be reimbursing my family for the cost of the funeral and burial and then they fine/sue Joseph for the money back- but we never have to pay it back. Good, I'm socking everything to him, all ten thousand dollars of it.
Nicole's school is excellent. They have busing, etc and its such a tight-knit community, she NEEDS that right now. Ic ouldnt imagine her going to my school districts school with 3000 students - she would get pushed through the cracks. Not to mention, I went there and I know all about the drugs and fights and alcohol AT SCHOOL and the sneaking out and school skipping the kids do.
This program is great for her. Its a PACE program that she has to "test" into and if she does well enough, she can even graduate early! She's excited about that. We have to meet with the Pastor tonight, and if he approves us, then she is in the school , and formally accepted.
I still dont have medical insurance for her, but will be getting that as soon as I get legal guardianship. I just plunked down a grand for an attorney who will be getting the guardianship for me asap.
Then I'm dealing with other things, some tedious, but managing, plus trying to keep up with my kiddos and my health and my daughter's health AND keeping the house clean and repairing things around here as the Courts will be coming in to check my home sometime VERY VERY soon.
And I'm still trying to work at the same time. I've been making alot of phone calls there and have gotten so much done while at work- thank god its been slow. But, now its tax time and I'm going to be ripping my hair out pretty soon.
Thank you guys all so much for what you have sent so far. She received some things so far. Special, special thanks to Lymeinhell. I was NOT expecting that at ALL. That took care of her tuition for the first month at private school and the enrollment fee. I was so happy to receive that. Are you out there by the way? LOL.
We got Bear, the dog. This dog is AMAZING. She is SO calm, SO polite and so well mannered it is not even funny. She chews NOTHING. She NEVER barks, not even when people knock- but she does get up to see who it is. And, she sleeps on me. She doesnt dirty on the floor or anything. The other day, she picked up my daughter's Tigger doll which my daughter LOVES and I thought "thats it, tigger is going to be headless in a minute". I just looked at the dog and said "drop it" and she did, very very gently.
She's a bit rowdy when you try to walk her, but I can definately deal with that. Ok, so she drug me around a bit- but it was good exercise.
She goes straight to the car if you tell her "ride". etc. Im just so amazed how well mannered this dog is. Now, she does have an interest in the family cat thats a bit rowdy, but with time, I think they will get used to each other. If you call her name, she comes checks you out. Shes cute. She does NOT trust males. Gee, I wonder why. She is very very hesitant of males and guards me and my daughter and Nicole from Lew. For some reason, she senses something in him she doesn't like. She put her paws over me and locked me to the bed two nights ago when he was trying to get into it. I told her it was ok, and she let me go.
Can ya tell the dog keeps me happy? I've had dogs before, but trust me, NONE of them have ever listened or been so good as this dog. She does one thing funny- if you tell her to get off the bed and get down, she plays possum and dead at the same time. Its hilarious. She does it everytime you tell her to get down so that she doesnt have to. For a lab, she doesn't shed- yet. She's great with my disabled son and has NOT growled or snapped at him which is a record for any dog around my son! And lastly, she doesnt jump on anyone when they come over, which is very important. My sister trained this dog very, very well.
I wanted to thank whoever sent tea tree oil soap for Nicole- I think it was lymesux. Tea trea oil is GREAT for acne, and she has it, bad. I will be taking her to a dermatologist as soon as I get insurance in my hands for her.
With everyone pulling together, things are finally coming together. Someone donated Nicole a vanity from church, so that helps too. Now I dont have to argue with a teen for the bathroom mirror.
Now... if anyone has any suggestions for the bad attitudes teens sport ... let me in on them! This has nothing to do with the death, Nicole has always had a problem with being told what to do and not do. Nicole was never really parented properly, at all. And some things just dont fly in my house- such as phone calls on the cell at 4:00 a.m. Ive gotten the evil eye and told to shut up! UH OH! Nicole has been with me for five years, but of course, I never parented her. Taught her morals, yes, but never parented her. THATS the roughest part of this. She tried to convince me she doesnt HAVE to listen to me until the Courts say she does.
We'll see about that! I parent totally different than anyone I know and if it doesnt work, Im at a loss.
Thanks for listening. Jodie
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Hey girl - so glad to see you surface. Glad to help and I hope for at least one second you forgot your worries..
It sounds like you've been sent an angel with fur (if only I could get mine to be so well behaved!) Animals always see so much more than we do - they often pick up on stuff we whiz right by. I'm glad you found each other - just don't forget the Frontline!!
You are to be applauded for finding the strength to keep it together for the kids and your family. And if you ever need a prop up, please know you have me, and all of us here, to turn to.
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bettyg
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jody, thanks for the nice, long newsy note updating us on everybody/everything and your wonderful new dog; loved the possum bit!
glad she likes her new school and is adjusting except for the attitude! thoughts/prayers/endless hugs being sent to you.
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Melanie Reber
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You and yours have been on my mind Miss Jodie.
Wanted you to know that good thoughts and well wishes are still flying your way.
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Boomerang
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Thanks for the update!! So glad to hear that things are going well.
The doggie sounds adorable!
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treepatrol
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Jodi Iam so sorry I just saw this today Iam truly sorry you lost your sis. God give you comfort and help. Again so sorry luv tree
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Jodie thanks for checking in. Just wanted you to know I'm still thinking about you and you are in my prayers.
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TheCrimeOfLyme
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Thanks all. The stress is finally settling down. I got the death benefits set up, the funeral and everything paid, Nikki in school, her bus set up, etc etc etc.
I do however keep getting sick. This has been going on since September, so I know its not related to the stress of all of this.
I have had actual blisters on the back of my throat- so thats why I wasnt on for a few days. I could barely swallow but avoided the duck motel.
I have an ENT appointment on Feb 1st- hope it comes soon. I keep chugging away at all antibiotics I can get my hands on , but my sore throat and bronchitis is relentless. My neck keeps swelling up with it.
Im just trying to keep going at this point.
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Melanie Reber
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Good morning Jodie,
Thanks for taking the time to give us an update. I'm so pleased that things with Nicole are coming together...you HAVE been busy!
But, I am sad to know your health has suffered, and I am certain all of this stress has not helped things.
Hopefully you will get some answers and relief from the ENT. The blisters and neck swelling do not sound good at all. Candida maybe?
Keeping all of you close in my heart and thoughts and prayers for continued strngth and healing.
Much love, Melanie
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trueblue
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Hi Jodie, Thanks for popping in with everything going on. I hope things continue to improve.
I was thinking... the only times I had blisters in the back of my throat was with strep throat. I know you've got plenty to do but perhaps you can get soemone to run one of those quick strep tests on you.
Feel better and hang in there, kiddo...
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