randibear
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ok, i'm opening myself up here so give it your best shot. i just don't understand.
someone asked about one doctor and i told them my honest opinion. stay away from him.
then somebody told me to "keep your big mouth shut. don't tell anybody anything. we need all the doctors we can get, even the bad ones. so cool it."
well, guys, i'm sorry but i DISAGREE. if you go to a doctor and he abuses you verbally, and you end up leaving in tears, totally distraught, then how in the hell does that help you?
so you want me to say nothing and send other unfortunate people to this jerk? i always tell them, go at your own risk, but this has been my experience.
why lie and say nothing? oh sure, he may give you meds, but is it worth it to have to suffer such mental anguish just to get them? i don't think so....
i'll take my chances and keep on looking for another doctor. i don't care if have to go out of state, which is what it looks like i'll be doing.
but to suffer from a doctor who has promised "first do no harm" and then get treated like crap, no way........
so am i wrong in trying to steer people to other doctors, or should i just shut up and say, well, duh, geez, never heard of him....
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MagicAcorn
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How about just saying you two didn't hit it off and I hope that you do.
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I agree with you though. No one should have to put up with an unprofessional doctor, especially one that's abusive.
A doctor like the one you saw can ultimately help discredit Lyme doctors. It certainly won't do LLMD's any favor!
I know LLMD's are far and few between, so I hope this doctor of yours doesn't have this idea that he's safe to behave unprofessionally, believing that out of desperation for help, Lyme patients will put up with anything.
If patients are steered (no pun intended) away from him, he'll change his tune in a heart-beat.
I understand why some patients want to keep these kind of doctors around, but I think in the long run, they hurt our advancement towards fighting Lyme disease.
-------------------- The best index to a person's character is how he treats people who can't do him any good, and how he treats people who can't fight back. -Abigail van Buren (Pauline Esther Friedman) (1918-2002) Posts: 409 | From Florida | Registered: Dec 2005
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randibear
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just to let you know that somebody contacted me off board and let me know she had a negative experience -- apparently he told her she was "manic" and other things. she said he made her feel very stupid and foolish and was condescending. she was very upset.....
i felt bad for her. i did not know her and she wrote me AFTER she went to him. she did not know about me or any of my experiences.
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I would definately want to know if someone had a bad experience and exactly what that bad experience was!
Good LLMD are so few and far between that I wouldn't want to waste my money on someone who wasn't worth it.
I myself have checked around and when I hear negative comments about a doc, I keep searching and if I don't hear anything else negative, then maybe it was just that one incident.
But more often than not, when I keep looking into it, the doc has more than that one compliant. And because of that I am able to make a decision not to go there.
No one should keep their experiences to themselves. Share, then explain, that if they care to, to go see for themselves.
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Aniek
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When somebody asks about a doctor I had a negative experience with, I send them a pm. I also post that I'm sending a pm so others can pm me if they want.
I would also recommend telling the person who recommended the doctor to you about the bad experience.
It is my preference not to post anything publicly negative about a person. But I also think a bad LLMD isn't an LLMD worth having.
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