kelmo
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I just saw your post and I'm deeply sorry for the loss that you have suffered over the past month.
My husband lost both parents a year apart and that was almost too much to take. Losing them three weeks apart is devistating
Thank you for sharing this with us. The next few days are going to be very difficult. Please take care of yourself. Cry as much as you need to get rid of the chemicals on your brain.
my heartfelt sympathies to you on the loss of your beloved Mom yesterday and the recent death of you Dad!
i feel the pain and loneliness you feel; my parents WERE my best friends too! She needed your Dad so much; now both are healthy again and will always be around you.
you'll feel a wisp around your face; sweet kisses from them;
you'll smell your mom's perfume or dad's after shave;
you'll find pennies laying around; pennies from your angel parents;
true story below!
after dad's funeral, we gathered at his century farm until we went to lawyer for readng of will.
i was physiclly, emotionally, and mentally drained since this time dad had been in ICCU for 10 days with my moving him to hospice day before he died.
6 yrs. ago yesterday, 8-18, dad died 3.5 hrs. after his 1st grandchild's wedding in ames. i was with him; oldest bro/wife/daughter joined me 10 minutes before he died.
anyway, i was totally wiped out, i went to bed waking up about 3 hours later.
i awoke to NO PAIN; you all know the lifetime of pain we have with lyme/fibromyallgia. it was paradise and i was savoring every minute of no pain.
then i felt the arms of dad, mom, my sister, and my sister-in-law ALL WRAPPED AROUND ME IN A HUGE GROUP HUG! there was so much love in my bedroom, i didn't want to leave, but did to tell hubby about it.
3-4 days later, the same thing happened again!
so expect the unexpected! ************************
also find comfort in the sympathy poems i sent you for your dad; there are 4-7 MOM poems in there!
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CaliforniaLyme
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I am so sorry-
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stymielymie
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betty has filled me in on your situation
life sucks!!!!!!!!!!!!!
all i can offer you is sympathy in your hour of need .you need to keep yourself strong but alot of crying won't huret either
Time does heal. But not because we are busy and the memories fade. With time comes objectivity. We realize that the person we are now is the result of the loved one we lost. The elements of our character, actions and values all result from this special soul and the experience of loss.
The body, being finite, does die. Yet the soul, the essence of our loved one, is eternal. The connection between us lives on. This reality begins to slowly fill the vacuum, but not completely. We can never fully grasp the eternity of the soul. There will always be that space inside. We are human beings who are limited in our capacity to truly understand the ways of God and the afterlife
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just don
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Sick,
You already know how I feel.
Just keep in mind that your parents are where they wished to be right now,,,"Together" in Heaven,,,waiting for you to join them someday!!
I read somewhere recently that your parents get to turn back the clock and get to 'enjoy' heaven as if they were in their thirties! Isnt it GREAT we all get to turn back our clocks when we arrive at the pearly gates to a BETTER time of our lives,,,young again and spry??
Rememeber your parents as they were in there 30's and 40's,,,now isnt that a 'pleasant' experience??
Let me know if I can help in ANY way!! Gods blessings on you!! --just don--
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treepatrol
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Really sorry for your losses
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map1131
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I am so sorry for all you have lost. I can't even image what you are going through.
Pam
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lymednva
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I am sorry to hear about both your losses. I have been following your mom's problems on here, since you began writing about them.
You've gotten many good tips. Remember the happy times. Since my mom's death a year ago I often find myself saying, "Grandma (or Mom) would have liked that.
I'm sure she was cheering for my oldest as he finished his second Master's degree this month, and today as he assumes the duties of assistant principal at the inner city school where he has been for the past five years.
They were very close, and she was at his first Master's degree commencement in 2001, at the age of 90! She wouldn't have missed it.
I have found that I now appreciate all the things my parents did that molded me into the person I am today, and likewise my kids into who they are.
Yes, sometimes those memories bring tears to my eyes, but often they are just acknowledgements of my appreciation and love for them, two middle aged people who were already grandparents when I came along.
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MagicAcorn
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I saw this post earlier today and took notice, and then I went to visit my parents. My dad has been gone since 1969, and my mom died in 1999. I say I'm going to see my parents instead of going to the cemetery.
It is hard to lose them. It feels very strange not to have a parent around but I do feel their presence in my life.
The strangest feeling was I graduated to senior status in my family. With the passing of my mother and an aunt, me and my cousins have become the old timers.
I hope you find some love and support in the next few weeks to help you through this time.
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Dear Sick, I am so sorry for your loss. To lose them three weeks apart is devastating. You are in my prayers.
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I lost my daddy 17 years ago to his battle with bone cancer, and there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about him with a smile. Even thought he is gone, I still talk to him and it helps me deal with what I'm going through with CLD.
I understand the pain you are going through, just know that the tears will turn into smile when you think about them. Always remember them with love, and you are in my prayers.
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Brenda-Lee Posts: 126 | From Florida | Registered: Aug 2007
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You have my most sincere sympathy. I am so sorry for your losses, it is an enormous tragedy to lose both parents in such a short amount of time.
Please know we care and are praying for your peace and comfort of God's Love during this difficult time.
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Michelle M
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I'm so sorry.
I know how lonely and alone you must feel.
Try and remember that you are not really alone -- your parents have not gone anywhere, they just exist in another dimension. Their love hasn't gone anywhere either! Read some NDE books (near-death experiences); you will gain great comfort and insight.
A big hug to you,
Michelle
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lymeladyinNY
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I'm so very sorry you lost both parents in such a short span of time.
When my mother passed away in 2001 I thought I'd never see her again. I was not a believer.
Today, after many experiences of "contact" from her, I have hope and joy despite the misery of Lyme.
The few people I've told have chalked my experiences up to me being sick. But I know it's not so.
I know I will see her again someday.
Best wishes to you.
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