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My finace and I became engaged 7 Dec. 2005. I was already in the course of getting ill and by Spring of 2006 I was let go of the job I loved and still and no good answere for why I was so ill. It took until Summwe 07 to get the proper diagnosis but it's been a very slow crawl where most times it's looking like very little progress made.
However, this year we decided to finally set the date 6 June. Neither of us are people who need or want all eyes on us, he has disowned himself from his family and we loathe the 20th Century Treand of making weddings cost thousands, half thew guests not spoken too and the other half obnoxious and rude.
So, we're taking only 7 or 8 people, inclucing us, to an Inn on Friday where the Inn feeds us a picknet dinner and we just sit around and relax and visit and go to be when we like. Next day is breakfast, then the service which the Inn does most of the work (found me a photographer and getting me a hair and makeup person so I look less sickly in the shots). Candlelit dinner in the dinning room, then off to bed. Next day we pack up, except my new husband and I, we may stay a few days, but all in all, this Lymie's wedding is 80% done by the In and is costing abouf $5000 for all of it!
That is there for people wanting to get married but are just too tired or think they're too weak. You can! There is hope!
Now for what I need help on: my libido is horrible! Oh, it use to great and wonderful when I had no one to share it with but to watch couples on TV or in my college classes. But Lyme and Co. had done so much to hurt it.
Are there any tips? Rxs? aides from shops?
Thank you!
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Tincup
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The wedding sounds delightful! May it be all you dream of dear.
As for the wedding night situation....
I'm afraid you'll have to ask others.
I'm sorry I don't have any sure fire tricks for that situation.
But may some day soon you hear those wedding bells!
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it's been 34 yrs. since i got married; can't help you but others can!!
$5,000 for 7-8 people sure sounds expensive to me, but i haven't seen recent wedding $$ to know the difference.
i bought material for my gown $13 and woman sewing it owed my folks money so her hourly wage was deducted from their debt.
do you have any friends with professional cameras? sorry, but i've seen such huge amounts paid for photos that are just stuck away on the shelves or in drawers. just food for thought.
but back to your libido! hope those your age will join in tomorrow as not many of us are up this late/early am.
mine is shot since many surgeries later..all pain i have from surgical scar tissue.
i hope i wasn't a downer to you; didn't mean to be. i was just thinking the extra $$ could go for lyme treatment/meds.
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Congrats on your marriage! Yes, you can make your own decisions about what feels right to do.
About the libido issue - I understand it improves with treatment. Parhaps you and your husband-to-be could plan on a second honeymoon to celebrate in the future...
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I know where you're coming from - sort of- I'm not a newlywed.
Robin's right, with treatment it will improve. I think a second honeymoon plan is a great idea. Just keep that on the back burner for awhile.
It'll give you something to look forward to.
But..and this is very important...Don't start out feeling like you are deficient.
I'm sorry I also have no specific suggestions to help you. Maybe others will . ***************************************** Congratulations! It sounds like it will be a great weekend.
Betty, $5000 for 7 or 8 people for a weekend - that sounds good to me.
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Hoep all goes well i am getting married on Memorial day 09 and i choose to have a small wedding along the gulf.. great prcies i lyme can take a toll but i try to keep my hopes up
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Keebler
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as for "aides from shops" to boost libido:
PLEASE DO NOT DO THIS. EVER. That stuff can be very dangerous for anyone's heart, especially for someone with lyme.
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There are other ways. But, most importantly, talk to your fiance.
Talk to your LLMD.
Adrenal support - not boosting - can help.
I think it's good that you will stay at the Inn a few days after the wedding itself as that gives you all the time in the world.
I don't know about guys, but I know many women who say that on their wedding night they just were too tired for anything more than cuddling.
It can be an exhausting experience for anyone!
And, while intimacy is important, remember that you two are marrying for love. That is what really matters. Performance issues should not drag that down.
Taking anything to "boost" that not only endangers your health but also puts the future - for both of you - at risk.
I think, after reading the book below, you may be pleased with some of the suggestions. You might also do some research on "adaptogens" such as Ashwaganha, Cordyceps or Siberian Ginseng (not regular ginseng as that can be too stimulating for lyme patients).
d-Ribose might also be helpful, as is magnesium, to overall endurance while also supporting the body functions.
Good luck.
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