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OH GOD YES!!!!!!!!!!!! You practically just described my kids to a "T". My son also is 2 and I swear is THE biggest brat! (I do love him though) but man is he fresh.
Like you said, he's into everything ALL the time, whiny, ****y pants UUGGH! I feel your pain!
My 5 year old is a girl and she too talks ALLOT and screeches when she does. Thats always great when I have a headache! And repeats the same story 15 times!
THEN to add to it I have a 14 year old girl.... Need I say more!
But I do love them to pieces... I just don't like them sometimes!
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Geneal
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If I told you stories about my children and my husband,
You would know that almost every day in my life is like that.
First, my husband has Lyme and bartonella.
He isn't treating. Manic, mean, scary at times.
Likes to throw things when he doesn't get his way.
Not at me or the children, but still.....
That is my big bratty child.
My 7 year old daughter is sassy, disrespectful and very smart.
She will toe to toe it with me and always tries to have the last remark.
Often I hear a bad word or two in there (my fault).
My son, who is 6 has recently decided I am his personal servant.
(Well they all think that, but he is really playing the role).
Mom do this. Mom you need to do that.
Plus my personal favorite "no".
Go take your bath. "No."
Go to bed. "No."
Another good one is "wait".
Also my 7 and 6 year old fight almost all the time.
They make me feel like taking my clothes off and running
Down the street naked.
Maybe someone will take pity on me and send me for a two
Day psychiatric evaluation. A two day vacation for me.
They are well behaved children at school.
They do sense their Dad isn't "right" in his behavior.
When he is home, they are particularily disrespectful.
He never corrects them. Never supports my correction of them.
Matter of fact, other than throwing things,
I am not sure what he does.
Now, do you feel better?
To top it all off, I start my full time job tomorrow.
How much do you want to bet that nothing and I mean
Nothing like laundry, sweeping, vacuuming, etc.
Will be done before I get home.
In fact the house will be a bigger disaster than when I left it.
Sigh.
I hope I make enough money to hire a maid (and a husband).
Hang in there. Terrible two's are rough.
Hugs,
Geneal
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Starfall1969
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Erika,
I know what you mean about loving the kids but not likiing them sometimes.
And sometimes I pray for God to give me a break because I can't stand their crap anymore.
Then I get scared thinking what if something happens to them that I don't have them anymore.
I hate the way my mind works sometimes...
Thanks, Geneal, for your response.
After reading it, I feel so guilty for complaining when I don't have half the challenges you do.
I can feel for you with the full time job and nothing getting done at home.
It hasn't been quite that bad here when I was working, but I've had my days.
But one night I came home and hubby hadn't run the vaccuum yet.
My older son said, "Mommy why didn't you run the vaccuum yet? You need to do that right after you make supper."
Um, hello?
At least hubby chimed in and told my son that vaccuuming wasn't my job at the moment.
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They do get older. You WILL appreciate some of these things later on (much later on), really you will.
What you WON'T appreciate are things like this:
After a particularly bad day, I was finally getting some much needed rest one night. I finally fell asleep (I don't sleep well.)
I woke up to my 11 year old - Yes, my ELEVEN year old - screaming outside my bedroom door, "I'm throwing up! I'm throwing up!"
Did she go into the bathroom two feet away? No. She just threw up on the rug in the hall.
...And then went back to bed.
I really wanted to just leave it until the morning, I couldn't mainly because my oldest daughter had a friend sleeping over (they both woke up to hear the commotion) and I didn't want to look like a slob.
BTW: she wasn't sick, she just over-ate junk food that evening. I wasn't feeling well and it was a sleepover night.
So Starfall, you are certainly not alone!!
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My children are the same. Funny thing is I don't remember my parents taking it back then. Fear kept you in line. My father said move and I remember moving. You didn't win any arguments.
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"They just aren't too impressed with me....yet."
You said it Geneal, "YET"!
Starfall, you may be surprised what kind of teenagers they become.
It's said that the ones who are "terrible" two's are good teenagers and the "good" two-year-olds are "terrible" teenagers.
(That theory holds true for two of my kids so far (the others, it remains to be seen.)
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I feel for all of you.
My struggles with my children were not when they were very young, but as teens.
I divorced my cheating husband in 1994. About the same time I met a really wonderful man whom I dated for 7 years before marrying, because of the kid's ages.
My daughter, the older child, ran away from home at age 16 after I found her hanging out with very unacceptable boys.
I located her and she wanted to go live with my sister for awhile in another town, so she did.
She was estranged from me for awhile, and then wanted to come back to town and live with her Dad.
I think she found out at that point that I wasn't so bad.
Fast forward....she matured and now it is like nothing ever happened. She calls me about 3 times a day.
She, her husband and 2 boys live close by. I know she realizes now that I was doing what I needed to do to protect her.
My son, who is 5 yrs younger, decided when he got to high school, that he just didn't like school and often did the very least possible to just get by.
I took him to a counselor which really didn't help.
He was a good kid, but just wasn't trying at all.
One of his teacher's said to me..If I had a choice of having a child who was an "A" student but was a rude brat, or having a really nice kid who just did ok, I would pick the really nice kid.
That meant alot to me.
He made it through school and went to Wyotech and became an automotive technician.
Will he ever get rich or win a Nobel prize?....no.
He was the first one of his friends to become self sufficient enough to move out and get his own apt.
He is still a good person...both my kids are.
That is the most important thing to me.
Hang in there.....sometimes it seems like it will never get better, but it does.
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Starfall1969
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carly, someone told me that girls are easy when they're young and boys are easy when they're teens.
Boy, I sure hope that's true.
And Dekrator, I'm so glad your kids turned out well.
My nephew was a bit bad news when he was young (oh, looonnngg story there--but suffice it to say, divorced parents, idiot mother, not much better father....).
Always in trouble at school, not always his fault, but trouble always found him.
Could have done well, made the honor roll once, but just didn't care enough.
He's working with something in the fire fighting area, and I think he just got certified Haz-Mat, so he eventually turned out okay too.
I just hope I can avoid some of that struggle with my kids...
I'm a wimp, even though I'm a drill sergeant...
I feel that their bad choices are because I'm a bad mother...even though I "know" that's not true.
*sigh* Anyone who thinks being a stay at home mom is easy doesn't have a CLUE!!!!!
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Geneal
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I do remember think my Mom just didn't get it.
I thought that between the ages of 14 till I went
Away to college at 17. One night was all it took.
I called her (mind you I wasn't a bad child but surely disrespectful),
I cried and told her I wanted to come home.
She laughed. Told me gently but firmly "no".
She'd see me on the weekend.
That is the moment I realized that my Mom wasn't dumb and put
On Earth only to embaress me in front of my friends.
We've been best friends since then.
We speak once or twice daily.
I know my children are well behaved away from home.
For that I am grateful so I know that something I am doing
Is getting through their little heads.
It is their behavior at home (worse when there Dad is here)
That can ignite my Lyme rage still to this day.
Spanking doesn't work, time out doesn't work, taking things away
Has a mild response but not the kind I would have given as a child.
Other than my bike though, there wasn't much my parent's could take
Other than my freedom outside.
I am not sure what it is about our culture that children today
Feel that if they are breathing or passing gas,
They should be rewarded with a toy or a game.
Mine ask constantly. I stick to my "no", but my kids
Seem to think if they repeat the word "please" about 5000 times
Good ol' Mom might just break.
New tactic is bargaining. I tell my daughter to clean her room (7 yrs old).
Her response is that when I buy her a horse she will clean it.
My response is that she can sleep in her bed and not on the floor
When the room is clean. Scary how smart these little people are.
I tell my children that if they hate me when they get to
Be teenagers, it means I've done my job right.
Hugs,
Geneal
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It DOES get better though. My kids are now 21, 18 and 12 (all girls!)
My kids were generally well behaved, I think for me, when they were young the biggest problem was my husband! haha. He would "team up" with the kids against me.
If I told them to "Go to bed"...he would object and watch a movie with them. When I told them "eat your vegetables"-- Dad told them it was okay not to. When they asked me for something and i said "No"-- they would go to Dad and he'd say "yes"...you get the picture.
So, obviously, they became "best buds" with Dad and I was looked upon as the "mean one".
This all changed when they started becoming teenagers and having "girl problems" that they couldn't go to Daddy about...suddenly they wanted to talk to me about clothes, boys, make-up...they wanted me to take them out shopping all the time (mostly b/c I had a credit card and they didn't).
We finally have a balance in our family, and I am a lot happier. I don't feel like the chief, cook and bottle-washer anymore.
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