Topic: Confused about this "miscarriage"....could anyone who has been there... ((UPDATE))
Hoosiers51
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Hi.
I am absolutely exhausted right now, so please forgive me for making this brief.
I am just kind of freaking out about all this.
The doctor recently said that because of the abnormal ultrasound that he was 95% sure this pregnancy was not going to succeed.
I was so shocked that I can't remember his wording...if he was saying that I had probably already "miscarried," or what....but that is what I assume.
But, nothing has really come out yet.
No blood, no real cramping.
I am just nervous and not knowing what to expect. Unfortunately this OB did not go into any detail at all with me about what to expect, because he wants me to have another ultrasound in a week to confirm (or un-confirm if something changes in the picture?) it is a miscarriage.
The problem is, I am leaving tomorrow morning for a vacation with my family. We will be in the Bahamas for a week, so I don't know if i will be able to get to a doctor if I have questions. (same island, so not moving around)
What should I expect in the next week while I'm gone?
I know no one can probably answer that...but maybe they can?
I have read with some miscarriages, it can be heavy bleeding for at least a week.
I have also heard it can happen at week 8 or 12 which is when you'd get your period anyways....and for me that should be any day now. I was supposed to get my period in 2-3 days if I would have never gotten pregnant (so this will be my second missed period coming up). But actually that only puts me at the beginning of week 7, because my cycles are usually shorter than most on a very consistent basis.
OR, I have heard with the "blighted ovum" (which is what I might have) sometimes your body just never passes it? And you either absorb it into your body, or the doctors have to take it out with a D&C?
I just don't know what to expect.....I know no one can give me medical advice, but I feel lost. I don't really have the brain power to sign up for and figure out a new site so I dunno if anyone here has words of wisdom. Thank you.
AliG
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FWIW- My sister-in-law had a similar experience with a doctor I guess it would be about 5 years ago now.
The Dr asked if she wanted to schedule the D&C then or wait a couple of weeks to see if she passed it on her own.
She asked my opinion, as I had already had two misses. I told her I'D wait & see what happens.
You should see my nephew, he's absolutely adorable and that Dr would have done a D&C.
I'm guessing it's impossible to tell how, when or IF... at this point or the Dr would have been specific on the what/when/how to expect.
I'd tell the Dr that a vacation has been planned and ask what you should be concerned about while you're away.
I'll be keeping you in my prayers & hope that you will be able to enjoy your vacation to the fullest, with no worries!
hugs & prayers, Ali
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Geneal
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I am so sorry.
I started bleeding without pain.
Initially spotting. Did ultrasound.
Didn't see a heart beat. The egg sack was there,
But no discernable heart beat. I was 7 weeks pregnant.
Had HCG levels drawn, but they were still in the "normal" range.
Began bleeding non-stop. Not super heavy, but the cramping
Was an "Oh My God" kind of pain. It would take my breath away.
Doubled me over. After a second ultrasound done in the hospital,
It was determined that my pregnancy was over.
My breasts stopped hurting, but the cramping got worse.
I started to run a fever and was scheduled for a D & C.
I was horribly depressed.
The D & C wasn't so bad, except I awoke to a male nurse.
Not a good time to be self concious for sure.
I am praying for you and your baby.
For the record, I was pregnant about 6 months later.
Was put immediately on progesterone.
Had a fat, sassy, healthy, beautiful baby girl.
I think God knows that some Angels just aren't strong enough
For this world and so He takes them back to heaven.
I hope my accounting helps you.
Hugs,
Geneal
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Hoosiers51
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Thank you for the replies....it is helping to hear experiences. Thank you AliG, thank you Geneal.
I just started taking progesterone, but who knows if it is too late by now. I hope I am not playing with fire in a way, and keeping a baby here who isn't supposed to be. We'll see how it turns out.
I have a feeling I could still be pregnant because I haven't spotted, but I dunno. The stress is really wearing on me.
Thank you for the replies.
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Hoosiers51
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I will probably not check this thread again until 8 days from now! Thanks for the advice and I will update you all when I get back from the vacation!
Going to continue on the progesterone and hope for the best. Hugs to all!
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I am so sorry that you are having this happen. Because you are not getting this back until it is almost over for you, I will be honest. I had a miscarriage and it was terrible. I was an emotional wreck with hormones going all over and it was really really depressing and made me very sad. I was crying and could not leave the house. It hurt. Bad. I hope that you can get some pleasure out of your vacation. For me, it was like the worst 10 days of my life.
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My miscarriage was a blighted ovum too.
I started spotting probably around week 6, a few days before my first scheduled appt. The doctor told me not to worry about a little spotting at that point.
When she did the u/s I was still spotting and cramping somewhat.
They did another one a week or so later, and confirmed there was no baby, but I still had the sac, and for somereason it kept growing.
I opted for letting nature take its course, and it took till week 12 for the sac to pass.
The pain for me was terrible--when I called the on-call doctor about it, she said it was basically like a mini-labor.
Se said I could go to the ER if I wanted to, but I didnt have to unless I had extremely heavy bleeding and/or lost consciousness.
I was on the bathroom floor for about 2 hours just going through contractions and bleeding heavily, but I didn't have to go to the ER.
Finally I passed everything and it was over, except for the bleeding that I had for the next 3-4 weeks.
I think if I had to do it over again, I'd probably go for the D&C, but that's just me.
When you go on your vacation, I think I'd make sure you knew where the closest hospital was, just in case.
((((hugs))))
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Praying for you and your baby, Hoosiers!!! Hope you have a GREAT vacation!!
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My thoughts are with you!
Melissa
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Geneal said:
"I think God knows that some Angels just aren't strong enough
For this world and so He takes them back to heaven."
Geneal, that is so beautiful. I had three late miscarriages and two so early I didn't know I was pregnant. I have still not really ever let myself feel the pain.
Those words brought tears to my eyes. It's like such a huge hole I don't know how to ever go there.
The first three were all in 13 months. I was nearly 3 months along each time, and had seen my babies moving and everything on ultrasound.
I never had any symptoms of miscarriage. Because I was so far along I had to have D and C's anyway, but some time passed with some and no miscarriage began.
The last two were in the last couple of years, both with being awakened in the night with severe, excruciating cramping during what I thought was the start of my period, then eventually passing a large clot. They were unconfirmed, but those are the only two times in my 47 years I've had that happen, so I'm pretty sure they were definitely early miscarriages.
For the three babies that died, I finally bought little markers for them, but have never had the strength yet to make an area in my yard for them. I did name them all, as I knew the genders of two out of three.
Thank you for your words. They are painful yet so beautiful.
Someday when I'm finally ready to sob and sob I'll read them again.
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Tracy9
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Sorry Devin for hijacking your thread with my own emotions!!
I wanted to add what added to the pain is that I never had another baby. I never dreamed Ryan and Cody would be my only two children. I always wanted more and dreamed of a girl from the time I was a little girl.
Also these were the only babies that Blake and I created together. So there were levels to the losses than ran deep. And much hope lost, now that I have reached 47 lost forever.
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I am SO sorry to hear what you are going through. My thoughts, heart, and prayers are with you.
xoxoxo Green
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Please...stay on your abx and progesterone! That was the key for me. I now have a beautiful 3.5 month old.
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Hoosiers51
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Hey all.
Just wanted to give a brief update. It is late so I'll keep it short!
Just got back home tonight. The vacation went smoothly.....it was very nice, though of course, as always with my Lyme/cos, I did rest much more than anyone else, which is fine. I still had a nice time.
I continued the progesterone through the whole vacation. I didn't have any bleeding or cramping, and my pregnancy symptoms have still continued. I even had one night where I threw up, which was the first time that has happened during this. It was after taking some supplements, but I don't think they were the sole cause, because I was nauseous beforehand too.
Starfall1969, did your pregnancy symptoms continue up until week 12? Sorry to hear about what you went through.
So basically, I still am not sure what is going on with me. I will go to the doctor on Tuesday, so I should be getting an ultrasound then and will know more.
Sorry so short, but I gotta get some rest!!!! Night and thanks!
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Hoosiers51
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PS---so sorry (((Tracy)))
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Hoosier-
I will pray for you and look forward to hearing yoru good news tomorrow. Please post back.
Keep on that progesterone. I stayed on it the entire pregnancy becuase my LLMD and I didn't know waht would happen if I came off it. But, we knew it would not hurt me or the baby to stay on it(100 mg daily).
guess what....I hit 39 weeks and had NO labor signs. So, I stopped it...and 2 days later, I delivered!
I still take it now. It helps me sleep and aliviates my irritability.
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Geneal
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Prayers coming your way my friend.
Glad you had a good vacation.
Hugs,
Geneal
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(((Hoos)))
Thinking of you and praying for you and your hubby and the baby.
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Tracy9
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.....so sorry. We all love you and are here for you.
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Hoosiers51
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Well, as I just told some people that were on Lyme Chat, I actually had my appointment and ultrasounds today (Monday).
They wanted to schedule me today because my OB wanted to go to a conference on Tuesday.
So basically they did confirm the miscarriage.
My OB was really nice about it. First she asked about my symptoms and if I had passed anything, and based on the fact that there was no bleeding and I was still having symptoms, she said she was optimistic.
But then when she did an ultrasound on me in her office, it didn't look good at all....just an empty sac still.
She said that her machine is pretty old, so she would rather I go to the hospital that same day to get a better one done. She was really nice. She said she was trying to stay optimistic, which actually meant a lot to me.
Well at the hospital it was the same, just a growing sac without anything in it.
My OB then called me and told me that these things happen to a lot of women, and that it wasn't the medication I was on, so not to blame it on that.
Overall I am okay, because I had been preparing myself for it emotionally, even though I was remaining optimistic.
My OB also told me that she prefers to let things pass naturally if possible, and that usually around the 11-12 week mark things will pass. She said that at that point if your body hasn't noticed yet, it eventually does notice then because that is when the hormones start needing to come from the placenta I think?
But she said if I wanted a D&C she could arrange one.
Right now I am thinking I will wait and not get the D&C, because I have heard very rare stories of women who all of a sudden do end up pregnant, even after these kinds of negative ultrasounds.
But, I am going to start planning with my LLMD what the next steps are to get me better, because I need to focus on the future, not keep dwelling.
I may get the D&C after doing more research, but I will at least wait until the 10 week mark for my own sanity.
Thank you to everyone who has been so supportive throughout this whole thing. I think I have learned a lot about myself, and this has given me more inspiration to work hard at getting better, because I realized that I do want a family, etc.
As corny as it sounds, this would have been a LOT harder without so many people thinking about me and praying for me.
AND, all the optimism has really helped. Even though the odds seemed stacked against me after that one bad ultrasound before the trip, the positivity made me feel like people were at least routing for me and the baby, which helped keep my spirits higher knowing people cared.
Overall I know I will be okay. I told Tracy this....when I was on vacation, I was laying in bed one morning, and I spoke to the baby, saying, "if you want to stay here with me you are welcome, but if you need to go, that is okay too and I will accept it." So I think I feel at peace with it, letting the baby know if he/she had to go that I understood. The baby was probably already in heaven at that point.
I am now just going to keep trying really hard to get better, like I was before I found out I was pregnant. I'm hoping in a year or so my husband and I can try if the time is right.
Thank you again. I wish I had better news, but the time must have not been right.
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Sorry to here about this Hoosiers.
I've kept to the outside because of my dismal attitude after my recent molar pregnancy.
I know how much it hurts.
I believe you're right about the timing. We can't understand everything.
Just get healthy so when you are blessed, you can hold a healthy baby in your arms-
2roads
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Hoosiers51
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I put "update" in the subject so that people would know I had been to the doctor and was not planning on starting a separate topic for my update.
Thank you, 2roads. Sorry about your loss and I hope you find healing as soon as possible.
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((((Devin))))
I honestly can't remember how long my pregnancy symptoms stayed with me, but I know they kind of started to die off towards the end.
I got teary when I read about you talking to the baby.
After I miscarried, one day I was lying on the couch trying to rest.
I don't know if I was really asleep or not, but I rolled over on the couch, and there on the floor beside the couch I saw a beautifull baby girl with red hair, just sucking her thumb and looking at me.
I knew it was the baby I lost.
It was like she was saying to me, "It's okay, Mommy. I'm okay. You'll have a baby someday."
And I do have two beautiful boys now, although I still miss their sister.
(Yeah, it was too early to tell if I lost a boy or a girl, but I just feel that one was my girl)
One of the pastors at church told me that now there's an angel in heaven waiting for me.
And my mother in law died when I was 2 months pregnant with my older son, and right before she died she said she heard a baby crying,
We told her it was her grandchild waiting in heaven for her.
Anyway, you're still in my thoughts and prayers, and I pray God's comfort and peace over you for whatever comes of this. Posts: 1682 | From Dillsburg, PA | Registered: Sep 2008
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I'm so sorry Hoosiers, I truly am. I think you are being smart about the D&C, I've read stories similar to what you have read.
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